How to come out

[cmh861]

Hi if this is not in the right spot please move it mods.
I was wondering I want to come out that i'm gay to my dad but I don't know how to go about doing it. Anyone who has come out to there parents please give me some advice.

[senior.2013]

Just be upfront, direct, and serious with it. Sit him down and have a serious conversation about it. He is your parent, and therefore will be understanding. Its not like he can just disown you because of your sexuality. Congratulations on taking on a big task!

[ianc96]

I don't have any experience with this, but just be honest. Tell him that you hope he understands and hope that it doesn't affect your relationship with him.

Hopefully he understands. Good luck!

[cmh861]

I think he will be ok with it. Please post any more tips

[Sean4U]

I was 14 1/2 when I came out to my parents, but then I am in a bit of a different circumstance since I have a gay uncle that helped me at the time....Just tell him that you need to talk about something...that it will hopefully not effect your relationship, but it is something yo need to do....most parents I think have a "feeling" about their children..Hopefully he will be okay with it and support you because you are his son....good luck....it will be stressful at first but as time goes by it will get better

[DerBear]

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[Mystique]

I was 13 when I told my parents I was bi. Well, actually I didn't so much tell them as they walked in on me making out with my girlfriend. They flipped out for a little bit, got angry, asked if it was just a phase, asked if it was their fault, demanded I became straight. It was hard but I just sat there and let them yell for a while. But when they calmed down and I explained things to them, they were actually ok with it

It's hard for a parent to hear that - especially if you're an only child. But when he calms down just sit down with your dad and explain that you were born this way, you can't just decide to change. Research facts you can tell him about homosexuality - such as despite popular belief you're less likely to contract HIV in a gay relationship than a straight one. Tell him he doesn't have to worry about you getting a girl pregnant in high school! Also, make sure to talk about how open adoption is to gay men now - a lot of parents get upset about the thought of not having grandchildren, so make sure he knows that isn't the case.

Good luck and please let us know how it goes!

[cmh861]

I came out to my dad. That went better then I was hopeing for, my dad was super understanding. He told me it was going to be ok and he supports me 110%. He did say if I ever needed anything to talk to him. God i'm so happy now.

[AndCuriousGuy16]

I came out to my dad. That went better then I was hopeing for, my dad was super understanding. He told me it was going to be ok and he supports me 110%. He did say if I ever needed anything to talk to him. God i'm so happy now.

Good for you! Im glad everything went better than expected. Everything should be easier now!

[Daracon]

I came out to my dad. That went better then I was hopeing for, my dad was super understanding. He told me it was going to be ok and he supports me 110%. He did say if I ever needed anything to talk to him. God i'm so happy now.

Great job man! That was a hard step to take, I'm glad your Dad took it so well! :)