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Magenta
July 31st, 2012, 05:50 PM
Original article here. (http://www.ctvnews.ca/health/free-plastic-surgery-for-bullied-teen-stirs-controversy-1.899484)

The story of a 14-year-old girl who underwent plastic surgery to put an end to years of schoolyard taunting has sparked debate over what many believe is a drastic response to bullying.
U.S. teen Nadia Ilse got $40,000 worth of surgery for free through the Little Baby Face Foundation, which offers corrective surgery for children with facial deformities and, apparently, those who are bullied because of their appearance.
CNN recently featured Nadia’s quest for acceptance in a segment with the network’s medical correspondent, Dr. Sanjay Gupta.
Before she went under the knife, Nadia told Gupta that kids have been calling her “Dumbo” – and worse – since a girl in Grade 1 told her: “You have the biggest ears I’ve ever seen.”
By age 10, Nadia was begging her mom to allow her to get otoplasty, a surgical procedure to pin her ears back.
Her mom did some research and came across the non-profit Little Baby Face Foundation, which flew the Georgia pair to New York City to meet with its president, Dr. Thomas Romo.
Although Nadia had only asked for an otoplasty, Romo told her she should also get her nose and chin fixed. He told the teen that once her ears are pinned back, her asymmetrical nose and “pointy” chin would stand out.
“I love thin chins, but I don’t want them as pointy as that chin,” Romo tells Nadia in front of CNN cameras while marking incision points on her face in preparation for the surgery.
Nadia came out of the operating room with a new nose, chin and the ears she had wanted.
Looking at herself in the mirror for the first time after the bandages were taken off, she says: “I look beautiful. This is exactly what I wanted. I love it.”
She now plans to attend counselling in hopes of putting thememories of classroom tormenting behind her.
The story quickly made the rounds online, with numerous parenting blogs and websites aimed at teen girls denouncing plastic surgery as a solution to bullying and low self-esteem in kids.

This is, to me, absolutely disgusting. Bullying is a problem that often is pushed aside because people think that "kids are being kids" or some of the comments are harmless and that the kids receiving them should just grow a thicker skin.

She's lucky that the surgery went well and didn't just cause complications. She was a very pretty young girl before the surgery! Everyone has their flaws but to be offered plastic surgery as a solution? I wouldn't be surprised if she returned to school and was targeted again for how she looks again, now because she got cosmetic surgery and "gave in" to the taunts. Thing is, regardless of how she looked/looks, bullies will find a reason to bully others. They should be dealt with rather than let it get this far.

I really hope she thinks she is beautiful now but it's sad to see she "had" to change herself in such a way to feel better about herself. I won't even get started on what that "doctor" said to her...

Foamy
July 31st, 2012, 06:06 PM
Thts stupid. People are horrible.

LouBerry
July 31st, 2012, 06:09 PM
Jesus Christ. I want to say that I would never resort to that, but I know that I would.

GaryKTM250
July 31st, 2012, 06:14 PM
I guess that is the thing about school, church society if you are seen as differantby appearance or attitude either the kids will get you or the system will.
My parents moved afew times for work so I had school in London - Italy and France now here I am so fed up with it I have just not gone to school at all. I had 4weeks here in school then the bullying started again, cos newbie whatevr so I broke one guys nose annd the other guys arm - Expelled . Fine , So now I work for my bros business doing gardens. I agree many schools cannot address the problem and here in the uk especially.
I fought everyday in London. Then the police get involved you are treated like a criminal


Gary in the caravan Norfolk England

Smeagol
July 31st, 2012, 06:18 PM
Well, I cannot say this was a solution. She wasn't deformed, she just had a slightly different appearance. Yes, her nose was asymetrical. But she did really look okay. She should have owned those characteristics instead of running away from that.

LouBerry
July 31st, 2012, 06:20 PM
I agree, but I really can't talk lol. I didn't like my hair, so I changed it. I didn't like my eyebrows, so I changed them.

Ambrosia
July 31st, 2012, 06:29 PM
I'm horrified. That's bullshit.

Magenta
July 31st, 2012, 06:32 PM
I agree, but I really can't talk lol. I didn't like my hair, so I changed it. I didn't like my eyebrows, so I changed them.

But hair grows back, as do eyebrows. You can't reverse the changes on your face with corrective surgery and, if it goes wrong, you need more surgery.

SosbanFach
July 31st, 2012, 07:35 PM
This is a ridiculous response to the problem, and I would agree that the fact that it was recommended by a medical professional makes it even worse. Cosmetic surgery in order to correct deformities at birth or resulting from serious accidents is obviously more than reasonable, and at times a necessity for leading a normal life, but an attempt to correct minor imperfections of the sort present in all of us is, in my opinion, a far from appropriate response to bullying, especially at age 14, where features often are still not fully developed.

I am not saying that the bullying was insignificant - clearly, to provoke this response, it was - but I don't even see that this is likely to solve the problem. It may even have the opposite effect, with peers bullying her for having the surgery, for example. While I'm sorry that she had to go through bullying, and glad that she is pleased with the results of the surgery, I don't see that the risk was justified in any way under these circumstances.

I apologise for waffling; it's 0135!