Best friend

[Thigg]

Hey,

There is one girl which keeps me as her best friend. We have known each other like 3 years now. But I have loved her more than as a friend now like many months. She told me less than year ago that she likes me more than as a friend (maybe she can again then?), but we couldn't do anything then because of distance so she has liked me that way too, but now on summer I told her that I like her more than as friend (I think I shouldn't tell her that directly..) but she only said that she doesn't want to be with me like that because she doesn't want to lose me ever and she keeps me as the best friend now and I have "perfect personality"...

She starts and text me like many hours on day and then on nights we speak on online etc...And like if I don't answer in some time she send new message and asks whats happening etc...and "care" about me and tells me everything she does and secrets and "pervert" things also.. and doesn't speak anything about other boys or things like that.

And I'm her only "boyfriend" so she doesn't date others now. She has also said that I'm only she can trust and if I get angry to her and I wouldn't speak to her she couldn't trust no one ever again...

Could you give some advice how I could "get" her to love me or something more? And if this helps, she still want to see me that we are only two of us. We are 16... and I know this isn't some feeling that goes away. Maybe I'm just too "nice" to girls that I like (never be with anyone yet). This is now very painful and sad to speak with her and knowing that we can't maybe never be anything. And my heart would def. crash more if she find someone..

(E: And we have met like couple of times only because of some distance, but we are still "very close" with phone/comp.)

Sorry for my bad english but I hope you get the point.

[FreeFall]

You cannot "get" a person to love you. But I'm confused.
She's your best friend but keeping you as a boyfriend?
I feel for you, maybe you can sit her down and tell her you like her so much and you'd love to take the risk of dating?
Tell her that if she really trusts you, she can fully bet on that if you two don't work out and break up you will still be right by her side and you still be the same old you that she can be best friends with.

[Christheman]

^^this exactly^^

look you gotta be more of a romantic. I think deep down inside you like her as a friend but you want to be more than friends. so yeah take a chance : 0

[Thigg]

You cannot "get" a person to love you. But I'm confused.
She's your best friend but keeping you as a boyfriend?
I feel for you, maybe you can sit her down and tell her you like her so much and you'd love to take the risk of dating?
Tell her that if she really trusts you, she can fully bet on that if you two don't work out and break up you will still be right by her side and you still be the same old you that she can be best friends with.

I meant she keeps me as her best friend and I'm atm his only friend who is boy. That she only has friends that are girls and then me. But I don't know if it's normal to girls to tell others what they are doing all the time.. etc.

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(And I think yeah she is also my (best) friend at this moment, but I want to be more also...)

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But thanks for the answers!

[FreeFall]

Most girls I know, including myself, tell other things a lot. I think it's normal.

But good luck! I wish you the best!

[Thigg]

Okay.

and thank you!

I'll speak her about this soon.

And oh, she said me yesterday how she is forever alone.. feeels stupid because she knows I would be with her and then she says that to me.. gah (just mentioned it on some point, weren't talking about this) Whatever this means then..

[Jackerlus]

Okay.

and thank you!

I'll speak her about this soon.

And oh, she said me yesterday how she is forever alone.. feeels stupid because she knows I would be with her and then she says that to me.. gah (just mentioned it on some point, weren't talking about this) Whatever this means then..

Girls are strange. Any boy that fully understands the female mind I envy... But seriously, girls can be strange sometimes and you've got to kind of go along with it.


Keep kind of nudging her, or just find a good moment to bring it up that you like her. You'll get there soon :)

[Thigg]

Girls are strange. Any boy that fully understands the female mind I envy... But seriously, girls can be strange sometimes and you've got to kind of go along with it.


Keep kind of nudging her, or just find a good moment to bring it up that you like her. You'll get there soon :)

Thanks for answer.

But she already knows that I like her and she has said that she doesn't want to date me because she is afraid of losing me if something happens. :/

And if I remember correctly she has said that she would like to date with someone. But not wanting even trying with me what she said when I told some time ago.

But we are going to meet next week, so any tips I could do or?

This is stupid situation because I come everyday sadder when we just talk (today she texted with me like 8 hours...yeah) if she doesn't even want to try but I still like/love her so much so I wouldn't like to just "leave" her. Hopefully there is happy ending.

[FreeFall]

You've just got to talk to her. Get her to trust that you'll be there right by her if it doesn't work between you two. And you'd better follow through with it if you ever get the chance to date her.

She values you a lot. She'd rather you be in her life as a best friend, than not be there at all. She's scared you'll leave once you've gotten what you wanted, the chance to date her, and there goes both her ex and her best friend all in one package.

If she says no again. Respect that. You'll get over it and be happy that you and her are still together, as best friends.