Can't talk to people

[phenol]

Most of my life (mostly because of the cockwad town I live in and the shitheads that act like they're rich that go to my previous school) I've only had one or two real friends each school year. And they've never been "normal". Either the weird nerd kids or, in my earlier days, the "troublemakers".

Now this doesn't mean that I have absolutely no idea how to talk to people, it's just reduced. But that's not even my problem. When I try to start a conversation with someone it's like "Hey your hair looks cool..." and they might say "thanks" and then there's an awkward silence before one of us leaves. I don't know if it's me, or them. As soon as I walk away I all of a sudden can think of a million things to say.

It's seriously fucking my life up, what should I do?

[Stryker125]

Just gotta put yourself in situations where you're forced to talk to people more. I'm quite shy, but one summer I got a job at a retail store where my job was to basically talk to strangers. Eventually you'll get used to it.

[phenol]

I'm constantly in situations where I need to talk. Doesn't seem to help.

[LouBerry]

I was very shy when I got into high school, I didn't have a lot of friends and people really made fun of me for my pale skin and flaming red hair, and it sucked. But then I started to not give a crap and just let the whole dang town know who I really am, and now I guess I have tons of friends. Just be real and be kind, that's the best thing you can do.

[Jonny Caselli]

Most of my life (mostly because of the cockwad town I live in and the shitheads that act like they're rich that go to my previous school) I've only had one or two real friends each school year. And they've never been "normal". Either the weird nerd kids or, in my earlier days, the "troublemakers".

Now this doesn't mean that I have absolutely no idea how to talk to people, it's just reduced. But that's not even my problem. When I try to start a conversation with someone it's like "Hey your hair looks cool..." and they might say "thanks" and then there's an awkward silence before one of us leaves. I don't know if it's me, or them. As soon as I walk away I all of a sudden can think of a million things to say.

It's seriously fucking my life up, what should I do?

Seems to me that you need to either listen to others interact or just have a few phrases ready for the awkward silence bit, so you can say stuff like "I am off to **** This gig or that movie or I liked +++ school subject better last year or whatever fits. Unless I knew someoone well boy or girl I avoid comment on personal stuff like hair or clothes. A compliment is always nice but its not for everbody. Like I have 3 or 4 girls at school who are always experimenting with hair/makeup etc so I will say "Thats nice or suits you etc but I know them well.

Anyways hope this helps

[ColourMeScarred13]

I know exactly how you feel, I'm a very shy person and people say you'll grow out of it but as I've got older I've gotten more shy. I keep things to myself and yeah it does hold you back sometimes. Like if we have to do a presentation or something I think about it the whole week, I lose sleep because of it. The thing that bugs me too is awkward silences, and the worst part is if someone asks me a question and I don't know the answer. Another thing I can't do is make eye contact, so I just look at the floor or something and my voice goes really quiet. But then if you actually know me I can be whoever I want to be and won't be as shy. Here's one tip I found actually helps me, it's to write. I don't know if your'e interested in anything like that but I find when you're writing you can get out all that bottled up emotion. Try keeping a diary or something because that's really helped me. Or I write loads of stories and nobody can say anything against me because I'm saying everything through my characters. Yeah I do the same thing, at night I always think of everything I could have said as opposed to everything I actually did say, if anything. People make fun of me for loads of things including being shy and it does get me down - a lot. The thing you have to remember is that they can't appreciate the way you are. It's sad that people think they can torture people and make them feel all depressed and everything, and the first thing someone says to me is like oh you're pale, or you're so freaking shy do you ever talk? That just makes it worse - but just be true to who you want to be and people will respect you for that xxxxxxxx <3

[Conner Davies]

Most of my life (mostly because of the cockwad town I live in and the shitheads that act like they're rich that go to my previous school) I've only had one or two real friends each school year. And they've never been "normal". Either the weird nerd kids or, in my earlier days, the "troublemakers".

Now this doesn't mean that I have absolutely no idea how to talk to people, it's just reduced. But that's not even my problem. When I try to start a conversation with someone it's like "Hey your hair looks cool..." and they might say "thanks" and then there's an awkward silence before one of us leaves. I don't know if it's me, or them. As soon as I walk away I all of a sudden can think of a million things to say.

It's seriously fucking my life up, what should I do?

dont worry man im in the same boat