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yankeefan7723
July 30th, 2012, 10:16 PM
Gonna try to keep this as short as possible.

So I'm talking to this girl who I've known for maybe a little over a month. Couple of weeks ago she got out of a relationship with a guy who I guess cheated on her or was flirting with other girls behind her back. He did this two times and got back with him after bother but the third time I guess was it. Their last go round lasted like 3 days. She messaged me on FB, she's a friend of a girl who I've also tried talking to but was too caught up with her ex also my best friend lol drama, and said I was cute. That was when we started talking.

You know that mutual friend I just mentioned? Well her and my best friend have told her a couple times that I was a really good guy and I like her and all that and we've managed a quite a few text convos but its hard because more often then not it's one word or short answers in general. But other times she'll put happy faces and be in a good mood. Like today she hit me with a "hey babe"...guess we've been kinda flirty.

Hung out with her for the first time, just us no one else, this past Friday. We went to the mall and while it started awkward it got good and we had a fun time. Told me afterwards that she liked me and I told her I liked her and we got "FB married" lol. She told me Saturday she missed me and wanted to see me. We were supposed to hang out today but never did. I've been letting her start all of our convos recently because I'm afraid of investing too much. The last three girls I got involved with hurt me. The first one cheated on me the day after we started going out, the second one I took to prom and she just straight played me, and the third is complicated but I probably loved her more than anything and we tried to make it work for 2 months but she's still stuck on my bestfriend who's moved on completely. The third one put me through the worst feelings of my life. All this in three months.

I feel like she's, the girl I'm talking to now, still stuck on her ex. She's posted tons of hateful things about him on fb, but on twitter just days before we hung out that she had a "good day with chris" - I'm guessing she means like talking wise - and that she's only excited for school to see if she has classes with him and she's on the phone with "him". I feel like she's doing the same thing to me as the last one. Stringing me along just in case but still wanting her ex. Just today she tried asking for a ride, just like the first one did - that same day she dumped me - and that's what set things off in my head. I don't want to be used, but I'm tired of being alone. I really like this girl and at the core we could be good together. She just dated an asshole so a sweet, nice guy like me would be perfect for her but I'm afraid to try.

Should I move on and find someone else or keep trying with her. PS - she lives right up the street so we could see each other anytime...another reason why I want her lol.

Edit: I guess these last three girls just got me into a mindset of every girl is gonna hurt/play me you know? It's hard to believe this new one is sincere.

unnamed94
July 31st, 2012, 01:33 AM
the first thing you should do is confront this last girl and ask her if she still has some feelings for her ex. on the other hand you shouldnt just stop dating just because you got hurt in the past by other girls. try to open up more to her and try to see if things would work out between you two.

yankeefan7723
July 31st, 2012, 12:53 PM
the first thing you should do is confront this last girl and ask her if she still has some feelings for her ex. on the other hand you shouldnt just stop dating just because you got hurt in the past by other girls. try to open up more to her and try to see if things would work out between you two.

Well the last definitely has feelings for him and even if she tried being with me AGAIN he's still my best friend. I can separate them but he lives right across the street so it would be hard and she'd still have feelings for him. I mean she sent him like 50 texts that all went answered last night like "have fun with your new gf :)", "treat her right", "dont be mad when im with someone else, "just leave me alone", "call me later please", etc. She's in denial. No matter how poorly he treats her she'll never get over him. She's killed anything we've ever had every time we had it because of him. Running back now would be stupid. I've come to the conclusion that she used me as a security blanket when he wasn't giving her attention.

The new girl, I'm trying. This morning I sent her a "good morning beautiful :)" text. She texted back within a minute which is rare since she's usually slow texting me back. The convo went:

her: "good morning :)"
me: "how are you today?"
her: "I'm good :) yourself?"
me: "still half asleep -.- lol" and that was at 11:55am. It's now almost two hours later and no response.

Idk, she's said she likes me and a while ago she told me about a whole day she'd planned out for us that never happened, told my best friend she wanted to love me or something lol. But then she'll give me one word answers or just stop replying. Maybe she doesn't like texting or idk. It's weird.

unnamed94
July 31st, 2012, 02:00 PM
i wouldnt go for the girl who still has feelings for her ex. she may not be sure she likes you and you could get hurt by her. on the new girl, just try to talk to her more and start the conversations, she may be shy but it looks like she likes you (from what she said to your friend) so if you like her make the move.

West Coast Sheriff
July 31st, 2012, 02:11 PM
She will eventually get over that dick ex of hers