Jealously and we aren't dating.

[Christheman]

So heres the story bout Brielle:

"OMG i met this girl whom i am crazy about she is of age (unlike some others if you"ve been following my threads) and she is smart and funny and beautiful and im getting all gushy thinking bout her!!!!!!!!!! and i asked her out and she said this: we should hang out more and i think we should wait till high school(she'll be in high school in sept as a frosh and im gonna be a sophmore this year.) but she likes me alot too. But now she has gone away to the shore for 10 DAYS!!!!!!!! omg everyone knows after you meet someone the days after are most crucial! so we met on saturday and wve been texting since but ive always texted her first and like 2 times out of 6 her responses are like one word answers. Is she loosing interest? What am i doing wrong? is she lying?"

Now we have been texting ever since we met but theres this other girl (Nicole) who i have been sort of flirting with(theres alot of girls lol) because i'm single. But now Brielle the girl in the story above is getting all mad at me cause im flirting with this other girl! :/ like seriously we arent even dating so why is she mad? :mad::mad::mad:

[Stryker125]

Meh, don't let it get to you. Girls like to feel special, ya know? She knows you're into her, so maybe it was just a surprise to her. By the way, how did she even find out you've been flirting with the other girl? That's not something that really needs to be mentioned with other girls. Just tell her you're sorry, but you aren't dating so you don't see what's so wrong about it. I'm bit of a flirt too, and there's nothing wrong with that, but once you ask a girl out you should tone it down a bit if you're serious about her.

[FreeFall]

You're flirting with both of them? I'd be mad too, way to lead her on.
If you're not going for anything more than being friends with her stop wasting her time and let her know that and stop flirting with her, you'll only send her mixed signals. Either pick one or be done with the little flirting games.

It messes with our heads and we don't like it much to think we're someone's special person only to find out he's saying sweet nothings to another chick. Single guy or not, empty words hurt.

[unnamed94]

well it seems brielle is just jealous because she does like you in some way. chose between one of them, or tell them you dont want to be in a relationship right now (which is the feeling i get from reading this) if that is what you want. if you are looking for something more serious then you cant keep flirting with both of them. it obviously looks bad if you are talking to a girl who seems to like you and you like her too, and then be flirting with another girl too.

You're flirting with both of them? I'd be mad too, way to lead her on.
If you're not going for anything more than being friends with her stop wasting her time and let her know that and stop flirting with her, you'll only send her mixed signals. Either pick one or be done with the little flirting games.

It messes with our heads and we don't like it much to think we're someone's special person only to find out he's saying sweet nothings to another chick. Single guy or not, empty words hurt.

if i were him, i would also be receiving mixed signals from the first girl if she was going along with the flirting but then told me to wait until september. asking him to wait after he asked her out could be because she isnt sure if she actually likes him or not (just assuming here i dont know whats actually going on)

[LouBerry]

Girls are a mind bomb. Good luck. Just be honest, and if you don't want to be serious make sure both of them know.

[FreeFall]

if i were him, i would also be receiving mixed signals from the first girl if she was going along with the flirting but then told me to wait until september. asking him to wait after he asked her out could be because she isnt sure if she actually likes him or not (just assuming here i dont know whats actually going on)
Asking a person to wait's totally different from flirting with more than one guy, after saying you supposedly really liked the guy.
Maybe she wanted to see if he really meant it, if he'd stay true to liking her. Maybe you're right and she wanted to see if she really does like him. Maybe she wouldn't have time for a boyfriend over the summer. Vacation, work, friends, and so on.

[unnamed94]

Asking a person to wait's totally different from flirting with more than one guy, after saying you supposedly really liked the guy.
Maybe she wanted to see if he really meant it, if he'd stay true to liking her. Maybe you're right and she wanted to see if she really does like him. Maybe she wouldn't have time for a boyfriend over the summer. Vacation, work, friends, and so on.

just put yourself in this guys position. hes not dating her and when she asked her out she told him to wait a couple of months. she may or may not be sure if she does like him, or maybe she just doesnt want a relationship or ,as you said, she could see if he actually does like her. i hate that people do the last thing. if you like someone then you should tell them and see how it goes from there. waiting two months (or not waiting) doesnt prove i liked the person in the first place or not. if she cant have a boyfriend or whatever at the moment then she could have told him when he asked her out (which i think she didnt do) and not be jealous when she starts talking to another girl.

[FreeFall]

just put yourself in this guys position. hes not dating her and when she asked her out she told him to wait a couple of months. she may or may not be sure if she does like him, or maybe she just doesnt want a relationship or ,as you said, she could see if he actually does like her. i hate that people do the last thing. if you like someone then you should tell them and see how it goes from there. waiting two months (or not waiting) doesnt prove i liked the person in the first place or not. if she cant have a boyfriend or whatever at the moment then she could have told him when he asked her out (which i think she didnt do) and not be jealous when she starts talking to another girl.
Not everyone's going to tell someone they like a person the second they do, we don't know the circumstances anyways.
And I have put myself in this guys shoes. I can empathize.
But honestly it made me feel like crap.
If I were a guy and I told a girl I liked her, and she liked me, but she wanted to wait a few months, then I would wait those months. We like each other, she needs time that's cool. I would not go down the, oh we like each other and I'll wait but since I'm still single let me just flirt with Rebeca, Christina, Mary and Ashley too. If it was going to be a problem waiting, then I should've said I like you but I'm not willing to wait that long so I guess I don't like you as much as I thought I had. Sorry.
Telling her I like her then going off flirting with all these other girls is counterproductive. That's basically saying I like you, and I'm waiting for you, but these other girls are super hot so I'll be flirting with them too and possibly could be making them think I like them kthanx don't be mad.

[Christheman]

Not everyone's going to tell someone they like a person the second they do, we don't know the circumstances anyways.
And I have put myself in this guys shoes. I can empathize.
But honestly it made me feel like crap.
If I were a guy and I told a girl I liked her, and she liked me, but she wanted to wait a few months, then I would wait those months. We like each other, she needs time that's cool. I would not go down the, oh we like each other and I'll wait but since I'm still single let me just flirt with Rebeca, Christina, Mary and Ashley too. If it was going to be a problem waiting, then I should've said I like you but I'm not willing to wait that long so I guess I don't like you as much as I thought I had. Sorry.
Telling her I like her then going off flirting with all these other girls is counterproductive. That's basically saying I like you, and I'm waiting for you, but these other girls are super hot so I'll be flirting with them too and possibly could be making them think I like them kthanx don't be mad.

I can see were you are coming from but unless you were there and experienced the feelings i had and have you don't know. I offered her my heart and she basically stomped on it. Not to mention i don't have faith in her saying she likes me back. I don't belive she does.:confused:

[FreeFall]

I can see were you are coming from but unless you were there and experienced the feelings i had and have you don't know. I offered her my heart and she basically stomped on it. Not to mention i don't have faith in her saying she likes me back. I don't belive she does.:confused:
I can see how you feel like you had your heart stomped on, and it's not my fault I don't know. I can only offer advice on what you tell me.
But because you don't have faith in her, you're giving her a reason to not have faith in you? So she didn't leap at the chance to date you, she said wait. She said she liked you. You liked her, took the jump, got told to wait. So now you're flirting around with all of these other girls. Flirting may be a pass time, but when a guy tells a girl he likes her and flirts with girls all the same, it hurts.
You need to either decide if you still like her, you may have broken her faith in you, and decide what to do from there. Stay waiting or tell her to hit the road?

[Christheman]

I can see how you feel like you had your heart stomped on, and it's not my fault I don't know. I can only offer advice on what you tell me.
But because you don't have faith in her, you're giving her a reason to not have faith in you? So she didn't leap at the chance to date you, she said wait. She said she liked you. You liked her, took the jump, got told to wait. So now you're flirting around with all of these other girls. Flirting may be a pass time, but when a guy tells a girl he likes her and flirts with girls all the same, it hurts.
You need to either decide if you still like her, you may have broken her faith in you, and decide what to do from there. Stay waiting or tell her to hit the road?

I do like her but how do i know if she didn't flirt with guys? I didn't FB stalk her!

[FreeFall]

I do like her but how do i know if she didn't flirt with guys? I didn't FB stalk her!
Good FB stalkers are creeps! I say, break it off with her. You're not dating and you don't trust her. You're worried she's doing what you're doing, are you subconsciously trying to beat her to the punch or...? If you get into a relationship, how do you still know she's not flirting around? Or worse? Maybe she's given you a reason to not trust her, I don't know. I know that you are young and still single so do want you want and cut off the strings with her.
Stop waiting, and go off, if you don't tell a girl you like her and would like to date, her then no one can be angry at you for saying sweet nothings to another girl. Go get your freedom and love it (:

[heeysamantha]

if you're flirting with another girl, then you can't be THAT interested in the first girl, right? But I mean as for her getting jealous, I find that annoying.. if the guy i was talking to started talking to another girl, I'd just get over it.. I'm not going to waste my time and energy on someone who doesn't care :] Maybe you need to stop dating immature girls.