Should I tell him?

[xAmber]

I've been having suicide thoughts since I was 11, though I never really planned on going through with them. When I just turned 13, (I'm now 15), I started cutting myself. Not severe or deep. I had periods that I cut and then months I didn't.. Since I got my boyfriend I haven't cut, simply because I can talk to him about everything.. Well, some months ago my grandad passed away and everything went downwards. I started cutting recently and I feel horrible. My boyfriend doesn't know about my problems in the past and he doenst know about my cutting. I really want to tell him because I want to stop this all. But I'm so scared. Last week he told me about a girl he met that cut herself and he said he couldn't understand someone would to that to themselves, and that she must be crazy..

Please should I tell him? And if so, how?

[Christheman]

you should tell him. if he really cares about you he will try to help you

[Noirtier]

That's a tough boat to be in. I think you should tell him, and be honest with him. Let him know why you do it, and that it doesn't mean you're crazy, but that it's a way for you to cope with things such as your grandad's passing. If he loves you, he will try his best to be understanding, and knowing you want to stop, he should help you. As for how to tell him, I don't know. That's the hard kind of thing that you just have to do sometimes.

[xXoblivionXx]

I would tell him, it may be a bit hard but he cares about you and wants to help you. Just try to explain to him why you do it. Usually people that don't cut don't completely understand but having someone that you can trust know will help you stop. When and if you tell him try to tell him what you are feeling then tell him that you want to tell him something that you haven't told anyone about (no one knows about your cutting, right?) then just tell him. This is what I did when I told a very close guy friend of mine, it worked and he has been trying to help me stop. Good Luck Amber, message me if you ever want to talk

[xAmber]

Thanks everyone <3 no one knows about my cutting and I once told him that there was something he didn't knew about me, that no body knew. And that I wasn't ready enough to tell him.. He was worried so I guess that's a good thing.. I really hope he won't freak out

[Mike753]

What made you have the suicide thoughts? There's always 'something' there that you can get the the end of, like parents divorce, not seeing someone, etc. There's no reason to be depressed. I was depressed a lot when I was 12-15, and I had the same thoughts I am 18 now, and I love my life.
My point, there is no reason to hate yourself :)

[xAmber]

I had those thoughts because of school.. I just wanted to get the hell out of that place. I wasnt bullied or anything. I don't know. Glad you overcame it !

[xXoblivionXx]

Thanks everyone <3 no one knows about my cutting and I once told him that there was something he didn't knew about me, that no body knew. And that I wasn't ready enough to tell him.. He was worried so I guess that's a good thing.. I really hope he won't freak out

No problem, like I said I'm always open to talk. I just want you to know that everything is going to be okay. Are you still having suicidal thoughts? If you are I strongly suggest that you tell your boyfriend so you can get the support that you need. Plus, if you are still having those thoughts we can help :)

[xAmber]

Thanks, it's good to know I have people to talk to. No I don't have those thoughts anymore, luckily. They scared me alot

[FullyAlive]

I'm not sure if you've told him yet, but if you haven't I have pieces a few of advice.
First maybe you can look on the internet at different information sheets on self harm so that you can give him them to read over once you've told him so he can try and understand. I'd also suggest you don't show him unless he asks not to start with he may well need time to process stuff before he considers the practical side and the fact that you do have cuts.

[LouBerry]

When I started dating my boyfriend, I was terrified that it would disgust him to find out about the way I had harmed myself. But when I finally did tell him, he was really cool about it. So just based on experience I say go for it.