Not ready to be in a sexual relationship.

[Snow]

Does this make me seem like a bad person when i don't want to be having sex? I was told i am selfish for not pleasing him.....

[Mike753]

No.. that's clearly ok. Who is the one that said you were selfish? It's your body, you choose what you do -- not others. 90% of guys are going to want sex instantly, it's just them [us].

[PinkFloyd]

No, you're definetly not selfish. If you're not ready for sex he should understand. (It's our nature to want sex autimatically...)

[jessiecox1]

No, you are not a bad person or selfish. You do what you feel is right, what you're comfortable with, and what you feel you're ready for.

[Mortal Coil]

Who the fuck told you that you're being selfish? He's the one being selfish, for wanting your body. you don't need him, go find a guy who won't pressure and emotionally blackmail you.

[Greatguy24]

No the only reason they said you are a bad person is that in our world sex has become more accesible at earlier and ealier ages i know 13 year olds who are having sex it is mainly our fault (guys) because we want sex right away from cute girls like you but he should understand that if you do not want to have sex just yet he should be ok with that.

[Ben_E]

No not selfish at all, your virginity is yours to choose when to loose it and who to loose it with, no some deuce bags decision to make.

[Kairi]

You're so not selfish. It's your body, only you can choose what you want to do with it. Don't let him make you feel like you're selfish because he wants sex and you don't, he's the selfish one :\

[Anyone51]

It's only selfish if you knew he was wanting/expecting sex already and you encouraged that hope/expectation to get him to be with you - being a tease basically
But if that is not the case and nothing expected or implied then he either needs to be patient or not be with you

[Liam-O]

Its not selfish. It would be selfish if you were teasing. You can choose to love your virginity when you want to, not when you are expected too.

[Rayquaza]

No, its good that you want to wait, and you're a good person for that. Don't let him pressure you into anything.

[FullyAlive]

Yeah, he's a twat. You don't ever need to please anyone but yourself. If he wants sex so much he can go and find it somewhere else you're clearly worth a lot more than him. You need to have a conversation with him tell him you don't want to have sex yet, if he tries this you're being selfish shit. You explain that actually he's the one being selfish, you're entitled to say no and if he uses emotional blackmail to try and get you to do something your not comfortable with then there's clearly something wrong with your relationship. If he won't wait leave him, he's not ready for a relationship. Relationships are about each persons needs not just one persons.

[William_Evans]

Its normal !

[OrKing]

I fully agree with FullyAlive and the others; if he's making you feel this guilty about not having sex with him then, in my opinion, he's a bit of a prick. It's you're body, you're choice and you should feel like you're 100% in control of when you want to do it. He's the one being selfish, not you; sit him down and explain you're feelings on this and if he doesn't agree and keeps going on with this emotional blackmail bullshit, than fuck him... Not literally, obviously, my point is there's hundreds of other boys who will be fully willing to wait until you're ready, please, don't do it unless you're absolutely 100% sure you want to.