Eh, I need advice.

[Noxail]

I normally stay away from this side of the site, but I come here in hope of finding answers. My boyfriend and I have been going out for only a little while, four weeks I think, and he already wants to have sex. Emotionally, I'm not too invested in him and I don't really want to, but phyically, I'm so ready to have sex again, that I'm afraid I'll stop thinking correctly and actually have sex with the boy. I don't want to reject him, because he's the most sweet, loving person I could ask for, but I really don't want to. I've already told him I would however, and I don't want to go back on that or sound like I can't make up my mind, Someone please help me. :rolleyes: ~Holli

[FreeFall]

You're not emotionally attached to the guy, so it sort of sounds like you're just using him for sex.
But it's your relationship, your call.

[William_Evans]

Well If you really love him, I think you should follow and trust him, But Its your relationship..

[Noxail]

You're not emotionally attached to the guy, so it sort of sounds like you're just using him for sex.
But it's your relationship, your call.

No, I'm not just using him for sex. I would never do that to a person. I have more respect for him, and just about anyone else in the world. *sigh* Thanks to all who have added advice :D I'll keep it in mind ~Holli

[Gordo]

Perfectly okay to change your mind. It's your body, not his.

In the future, don't commit to it with anyone, then if you're in the mood or it seems right, go with it. If not, you didn't get anyone's hopes up and or have to concern yourself with changing your mind.

If asked directly, there's nothing wrong with saying "maybe" or flat out saying, it's not something I'm going to plan or commit to.

[FullyAlive]

I think everyone puts a lot of pressure on people to be 'in love' when they have sex when in reality if you're both of age and want to have sex why the hell shouldn't you.

As for this guy right now, if sex is what you want then go for it, safe sex obviously. However if you only think you want it because you don't want to say no or because you think you should want to then don't have it. Work out what you want and make sure you're making the decision for you not him. If you want to then i'm pretty sure he won't mind and if you don't want to then he'll wait if he likes you.

[Christheman]

Do not do anything you are going to regret. Four weeks is a little fast(i should'nt be saying this) and if really is as sweet and loving as you said he will understand.

[Liam-O]

If he is sweet and loving then he would wait wouldn't he. If you don't want to have sex with him just tell him you are not ready and that you want to wait and get to know him. He would understand.

[Teenage heart throb]

If you love him, go for it! If you don't, say no. You could always do other kinds of sexual activity (oral, foreplay, bj)

[Lovely637]

It depends on you. If you are just using him for you physical desire then do it besides you're in a relationship with him but there's nothing wrong if you'll talk it out over and wait for the appropriate time.

[Jackerlus]

Agreeing with the other guys up there, if you're ready go for it. But a relationship isn't just about sex, it's about being emotionally attached to your partner and helping each other. Sex is just a bonus, a nice bonus though ;)

[loz4]

[QUOTE=FullyAlive;1847139]I think everyone puts a lot of pressure on people to be 'in love' when they have sex when in reality if you're both of age and want to have sex why the hell shouldn't you.
QUOTE]

True they do, but sex is ALOT better if you're in love with the person

[heeysamantha]

It's your body, your choice. If you change your mind, you have a right to that.. however.. next time don't tell someone you're going to do something if you aren't going to.. thats not very fair, and if you weren't invested in the relationship why would you say it to begin with.