The Dreaded 'Friend Zone'

[Johnny B. Fnord]

Has anyone here ever been subject to the all-too-horrible friend zone? Ya know, where you talk to a girl for a while, ask her out, and then she turns you down because "She just wants to be friends"?

This pisses me off to no end. I can understand you wanting to be friends, but don't go around saying "ooh I love you" if you don't expect me to develop feelings for you.

So I pose another question: Why does this keep happening to me? Do I just go for the wrong girls? Is my attitude about things all wrong?

[Christheman]

To get out of the Friend zone you gotta make her like you and to do that you gotta compliment her. No nothing is wrong with you or the girls you pick its just that you are probably a really friendly guy but you have to be a romantic also

[Johnny B. Fnord]

To get out of the Friend zone you gotta make her like you and to do that you gotta compliment her. No nothing is wrong with you or the girls you pick its just that you are probably a really friendly guy but you have to be a romantic also

I'm a big romantic and flirt until I begin to develop feelings for someone really close. My past girlfriends had been relatively unknown until we started dating. We flirted throughout the whole relationship. But when I develop emotions for a really close friend, I stop being a flirt.

[Christheman]

humm do you really like this girl or is she a really good friend. I lost a get friend cause i asked her out and we dated then broke up. i miss her. she was an awesome friend

[Johnny B. Fnord]

She is a good friend. I'm trying to keep my distance at the moment, because she has tried to date me before. each time I almost return the feelings, she runs off. She seems to be liking me again, but I'm not sure.

And every good friend I've dated has stayed my friend afterwards, thankfully.

[FreeFall]

I was in that zone. We'd been best friends for 5 years. He said he loved me so much, I was his one. So I was like wow, are we boyfriend girlfriend now? lol no! I got out of it eventually because my friend hounded him to date me (I didn't tell her to do that), we dated 3 days, we're not friends anymore.

I honestly don't know what to tell you, I just hope everything works out for you buddy.

[Iron Man]

Twice, however I dated the second one, then I was thrown into the friend zone shortly after.

[workingatperfect]

I have been friend zoned before and it does suck. Thankfully I realized ti before I asked him out and was able to save myself the embarrassment.

I don't really know what to tell you... but she seems a little unsure of what she wants if she's trying to date you, then suddenly doesn't like you once you reciprocate those feelings.

[DEEJ21]

UgH! im so confiused i dont know if the girl i like for almost 2 years likes me or not, lately all the dreams ive been having were dreams about her (not sexual) just dreams. i wish she could know how much i like her. im mean were so close. i dont wanna just ruin are friendship by saying anything. can someone help me please!

[Johnny B. Fnord]

UgH! im so confiused i dont know if the girl i like for almost 2 years likes me or not, lately all the dreams ive been having were dreams about her (not sexual) just dreams. i wish she could know how much i like her. im mean were so close. i dont wanna just ruin are friendship by saying anything. can someone help me please!

Don't just go "Hey, I like you!" randomly one day. Spend more time with her, get her relaxed to being close with you, then when you feel like it's the right time, tell her you have feelings for her. If she's interested in you, she's interested, if not, she's not, and move on.

Hope that helps.

[LitBlackRose]

*sigh* ..yes the friend zone..... Like my long time best friend for almost 4 years . It was me him and my gay best friend the three best friends...I told him I liked him and told him half a year ago..I was rejected...and got friend zoned

[monkey2]

Has anyone here ever been subject to the all-too-horrible friend zone? Ya know, where you talk to a girl for a while, ask her out, and then she turns you down because "She just wants to be friends"?

This pisses me off to no end. I can understand you wanting to be friends, but don't go around saying "ooh I love you" if you don't expect me to develop feelings for you.

So I pose another question: Why does this keep happening to me? Do I just go for the wrong girls? Is my attitude about things all wrong?

yes I've been there

[ForeverSecretive]

Well if you say it while you're around other people it's sure to make the girl feel awkward.

One of my best friends told me, but with our other two mutual best friends there. It was awkward. I totally wasn't expecting it, and didn't feel the same way. It was like he instantly hated me for it. He was horrible to me (calling me names and telling me I was fat , mean, ugly, whatever!) when I walked by him, but would stop my dog to play with him. Anyway we aren't friends anymore, and he lost our mutual friends too (which I felt bad for!).

Moral of the story: Do it in private. Don't make it awkward. If she doesn't feel the same way, don't take it personally. You're obviously just too much of a legend and she doesn't want to lose you!

[Sonic Boom]

Just be like:

http://d24w6bsrhbeh9d.cloudfront.net/photo/5260847_700b.jpg

[dakita7x1223]

ive been in it for four years and im in the exact position you are in dude

[West Coast Sheriff]

I'm in it with my best friend Morgan. I've been wanting to ask her to homecoming for a week but I just can't get the courage.