I really have no idea what to do anymore

[XxNINJAxX]

Hey guys,

Now I have some issues I want to tell you guys, I had stopped self-injury two months ago and I was doing quite good and then I got a girlfriend and I was like "YES, everything's comming up Milhouse!" but about three days ago I broke up with her because she was using me to get back at someone and my friend (the one whom she tried to get back at) sent me some of the Facebook messages she had sent him and she said to him just six days after we were together "I'm sorry (insert friends name here) you're awesome but I'm dating a dick head." She then began to make up lies about me harassing her and I treated her perfectly the best I have treated anyone in my whole life so I then decided it was over and I broke up with her. Lately I have really no one to talk to because I have the urge to start self-harming again and I know this is bad and I have no idea what to do so if you could leave me some advice it will be greatly appreciated!!

[Noxail]

Hey guys,

Now I have some issues I want to tell you guys, I had stopped self-injury two months ago and I was doing quite good and then I got a girlfriend and I was like "YES, everything's comming up Milhouse!" but about three days ago I broke up with her because she was using me to get back at someone and my friend (the one whom she tried to get back at) sent me some of the Facebook messages she had sent him and she said to him just six days after we were together "I'm sorry (insert friends name here) you're awesome but I'm dating a dick head." She then began to make up lies about me harassing her and I treated her perfectly the best I have treated anyone in my whole life so I then decided it was over and I broke up with her. Lately I have really no one to talk to because I have the urge to start self-harming again and I know this is bad and I have no idea what to do so if you could leave me some advice it will be greatly appreciated!!

Honey, don't let whores get you down like this. She wasn't worth your time anyway, if she was making up lies and calling you names. Just be strong, and don't give in to it, it'll hurt you more in the long run. :hug: ~Holli

[candabear17]

I agreed with holli. You sound like a great guy and it's not right for her to take advantage of you like that and hurt you. Don't let her bring you down. Stay strong! You've been doing well for a long time so don't give up :)

[StoppingTime]

It is not worth self harming over any girl, or any relationship, ever. What will it get you? A few minutes of relief, but soon enough, you'll regret it. 2 months is amazing, and there's no reason to break it after so long. It's OK to relapse, however, and for some, it's part of healing. Of course, it isn't the best way to heal, though. Just take it slow. Find ways to occupy and distract yourself, and soon enough, you'll be past this.

You know what she did was wrong, and anyone who is a real friend of yours will believe you as well. As for anyone else, forget about them. If they're stupid enough to believe her, that's their own problem; not something for you to stress over. Will things get better? Yes, but you have to make them do that, it won't just happen.
We are always here to talk if you need anyone.

[Amaryllis]

She sounds like a bitch and you know what you do with bitches? You gawk at them, go all "I ain't gon' be witchu if uz gon' treat me dat way. U ain't never gon' be the man yo mama is." Or you know, with more finesse.

Seriously, though. Someone like that isn't worth cutting over. Why hurt your precious skin for someone who doesn't have the decency to treat you right or think twice about how her actions might hurt you?

Steven up there is right. I won't give you hypocritical advice like "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" but honestly - plenty of ocean in the fish. You have so many blood vessels to choose from, why her?

She has her own whatnot problems. You need someone who can help -you- and/or makes you happy and vice versa. Not an apathetic wet-sacked bacon-pilot.

In all seriousness, cutting never makes things better. Years from now (or months) when you've not cut for a long, long time - you'll truly regret ever cutting. It holds you back from life, from doing things like going to nude beach or whatever else. And one day when you find someone worth all of a damn, it'll hurt him/her and you.

Keep surviving, take care and feel free to leave me a message if you want some weird-as or serious advice. Or just to talk with a usually-not-bacon-pilot.

Take care, love.
Amaryllis

[XxNINJAxX]

But the problem isn't because of her it's because she is what made me stop and know I have no one so I see no point

[StoppingTime]

But the problem isn't because of her it's because she is what made me stop and know I have no one so I see no point

Remember though, you shouldn't be stopping for her. Especially now, and after everything that she did to you. You should be stopping because it is what you want to do; because you think it is the right decision. It is always helpful to have someone there to help you through it, and if you have a trusted, close friend, you could try to talk to them about it.
As you've now learned, you can't depend on people in situations like this. You have to either do it because you want to, or not at all. Sure, nobody is going to force you to stop (most likely). You could continue, but where will that lead? Like Z said, only to times that will be worse than what they are now.
It's up to you. People are there to help, but only you can be the one to do it.