Long and painful story

[Eagle1]

Let me see if I can describe this.

Back in May I started talking to my best friends younger sister, shortly after we started talking I told/ asked him about it and he gave his blessing (for lack of a better term.)

Now before I go farther I should tell you about the age difference I am 18 and just graduated HS, she is 15. I know that sounds bad but she is mature for her age (probably from being in such a big family.)

I also talked to their mom as I have always been close to her since she was my teacher, she said that she was okay with it but I would have to wait 6 months to ask her out.

We have hung out a few times since then and we have talked to each other every day since I talked to her mom. We got close....very close, nothing physical ever happened but we both fell in love (I don't think there is a better way to describe it.)

Things were going great until the 17th, I was on vacation in Co. and I got a message from her saying that her parents talked to her and said they did not like the idea of us dating because of the age difference, and said that they would not let us see each other until she turs 18. So she broke it off with me right then and there (she did not tell me the full story at first.)

When we saw each other this past sunday she told me the full story and that she did not want to lie to me and me find out the hard way in 6 months. The part that really hurts me is that I know their family well and for her parents to completely change their minds then "advise" her and not even talk to me is like a knife in the back.

Since then I have been a mess, I hung out with her brother and another friend that day and they could both tell I was depressed (I don't show that much emotion alot) but every time I see her picture or even a random couple walking don the street I think of her and us and it hurts, it is easily the worst pain I have ever experienced in my life. Her brother even had her unfriend me and block me on facebook so now I cant talk to her (no cell phone) which only makes it worse.

Everyone is telling me it gets better and to move on but I don't see how I will ever be able to, the feelings we had for each other were/are the strongest either one of us has ever had for someone else. Part of me want to try and convince her parents to change their minds but the other part of me doesn't want to cause her any more pain/grief.


Anyway I was just wondering if any of ya'll had any advice.
(sorry if it was hard to follow, I have not been sleeping well)

[West Coast Sheriff]

The love I my life is moving and I will not see her as often as I used 2. It hurts not spending time and getting 2 b with the one u love. I'm sorry this happened 2 u.

[jegoss02]

So sorry dude. It's tough being a relationship like that. Had a friend like that. Just like it. Except the girls mom wasn't a teacher. Lol. But any way. He got it through his system. I talked with him a lot about how he felt. Iwas his council. we got through it together basically. A lot of crying on his part. But if you could find some one who could do this for you. Talk with you, be your friend in this hour of need, then yes. You can get through this without so much as a sweat. But not, maybe, without tears.
Best wishes.
jegoss02

[TheKing6]

I can't even tell the person I love that I love him

[Pandapop82]

Have you tried talking to the her parents, like explaining that you've fallen in love despite your age gap and explain that you dont wanna hurt her or pressure her into anything.

[unnamed94]

Have you tried talking to the her parents, like explaining that you've fallen in love despite your age gap and explain that you dont wanna hurt her or pressure her into anything.

its obvious that they never approved it because they told him to wait 6 months so i think it would be hard for them to change their minds from what i get. you could tell her to talk to her parents and hope everything works out. i am sorry this happened to you, as someone already said you will have to get over her. hopefully her parents will change their minds, but if not getting over her will hurt but it will be for the best.

[Eagle1]

Have you tried talking to the her parents, like explaining that you've fallen in love despite your age gap and explain that you dont wanna hurt her or pressure her into anything.
Not yet, a couple of people I have asked said not to do it and they have made up their mind. As true as that may be I like her too much to go down without a fight, or even a say in it.

its obvious that they never approved it because they told him to wait 6 months......
The thing is they were okay with it then, heck all year it was like her mom was trying to hint that she wanted us together and she also kept trying to get me to admit that I liked her. I guess in the last 2 months they changed their minds, which, as her parents is their right and they don't owe me any explanation. But to me that does not make it the right thing to do.

[Donkey]

it sucks of them to do that but let me put it like this. These strong, overwhelming feelings of wanting to be with your first love all the time... they're not only down to the fact that the hormones are there during your teenage years but they're also there because you know that in reality, there are unrealistic desires and affixations in the relationship: you know that you can't be with her, so the feelings become even more intense and overwhelming.

You have to try to completely forget her and take your mind off it, otherwise you'll just feel worse. Delete pictures, remove her from your contacts on your phone, don't see her. Thats the only way you'll really get over it.

[unnamed94]

Not yet, a couple of people I have asked said not to do it and they have made up their mind. As true as that may be I like her too much to go down without a fight, or even a say in it.


The thing is they were okay with it then, heck all year it was like her mom was trying to hint that she wanted us together and she also kept trying to get me to admit that I liked her. I guess in the last 2 months they changed their minds, which, as her parents is their right and they don't owe me any explanation. But to me that does not make it the right thing to do.

it seems they wont change their mind, so just let it go and move on. sometimes when you end a relationship or just have to move on from someone you feel like it was better than it actually was, that you had the best relationship ever and that she was perfect for you, this happens when you lose someone and start remembering all the time you shared with that person. just stop talking to her completely and you will eventually forget her and could start to like another girl.

[Christheman]

You are in love try asking her parents again. I think that if her mom agreed earlier maybe she will agree again?

[Liam-O]

I am sorry that this has happened to you and wish it was better for you even know I don't know you. But all I can say is, wait until she is 18. Once she is 18, she can do what she wants and see who she wants. Her parents are thinking about her because they don't want her heart to be broken. But you can prove to her parents that you are good for her and that you are trust-worthy.

[Eagle1]

You have to try to completely forget her and take your mind off it, otherwise you'll just feel worse. Delete pictures, remove her from your contacts on your phone, don't see her. Thats the only way you'll really get over it.

That is much easier said then done, I am really good friends with her brother and whenever I see him it reminds me of her. Not to mention I go to their house semi-often so it is hard not to see her.

I am highly considering talking to her parents, or maybe just her dad, I think he is the one that does not like the situation. Can I blame him/them? no, I would hate the idea as well and to be honest I probably would say no even after the poor guy talked to me lol.

Thanks to everyone for the advice, even though most of ya'll are younger then me lol I do appreciate it.

[Kairi]

Maybe you should actually talk to her parents if you haven't. I mean you said you guys had been pretty close, so wouldn't they have told you if they didn't want you to date their daughter? I mean, I know people don't really get the whole age difference thing, I mean my boyfriend is 20 and I'm 16.. my parent's and my brother's gave him their blessing, and they've all been pretty close. So, I was just wondering, if they did change their mind I'm sure they would have told you but it would be best to ask them I guess..

[LitBlackRose]

Awww that's such a sad story :'( I'm soooo sorry to hear that . Dang yeah every one goes through tough times but if you really love this girl then try talking to her parents about it or wait til she's 18 but I think age isn't something that's important if there's true love there. Jut try your best at it you got my support but I think that you should talk to her parents about it all

[Eagle1]

Ive decided that I am going to talk to them (assuming she is okay with it) however, I will probably wait until December when the 6 months is up to show them that I respect their wishes and also that the feelings I have for her are not just physical. Until then I am going to keep contact with her to a minimum (as much as it is going to suck it is probably the best thing to do).