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[itsjustme9000]

Hi, i'm sorry for weighing you guys down with this and i'm sorry that i'm boaring everyone with my problems but this just seemed like somewhere i could talk to people.

I've been cutting for over 3 years (3 years tomorrow) and I've told one person, he is like my brother, and he said i could stop i told i don't know and he said I can do it.

But the truth is I'm scared to stop, i don't want to I look down at the scars on my wrist and i feel crappy, but i still cut, I can't stop, i don't want to.

I just want to know, what do you think i should do?

[FullyAlive]

Well first off you're not boring us this is what we're here for :)

Stopping is hard and you'll never do it if you aren't doing it for yourself. Whilst stopping is always what we'd encourage you to do, sometimes its not what you need to aim for first. Maybe aim to cut down try and resist first before giving in.

You need to try and find new coping methods, perhaps venting in a diary, drawing when you get an urge, turn up music really loud and scream along to it, running when you're upset. You cam do anything that works for you just try and find something as a replacement for cutting so then you can think about stopping.

[NightFighter]

OK, everyone is going to say you should quit altogether.

But perhaps you shouldn't.

I don't know you but i know what you're going through. Therefore, i know that you can only quit when you feel ready and able to. If you feel like you are then great! If you aren't ready to stop then i don't think you should. But, you should cut down as you obviously want to. I mean, you wouldn't be asking for help if you didn't want to at least stop the frequency you cut. You know the different techniques to cut down so i won't bore this text with those details (however, if you want to know more about these techniques i will more than happily help you).

So, i guess its a little self-absorbed of me but i want to tell you of how i felt when i first tried to quit.

I started with not wanting to cut (which is, i guess, where you are now). This is important as you need to not want to do the act before you can start quiting. Don't worry, that nagging voice at the back of your head telling you that you need to do it is completely natural too. Its what all addicts hear.

It will become quieter the more you ignore it.

You will then begin to see those scars, the red marks, the burns as revolting. I feel disgusted with myself with these marks i made on my own body.

The marks you have made will be another deterrent to start quitting.

I think im beginning to ramble. I guess what im trying to say that quitting will not be easy and you need to expect to be challenged. It's not going to be easy so if you dont want to fight to stop altogether then dont: just cut down the frequency.

It's not easy but it can be done and it has been done by many, many people. Including yourself one day.

You need to want to do it, believe you can do it and start to do it.
Then, you'll be over it.

Take care
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