Obsessive best friend?!

[Sudds3]

So my best friend Maddie is, well, "in love" with me! And she won't get over me even though it's been over a year! We did that stupid 7th grade date crap...but never actually did anything. And like every few days she texts me saying stuff like she wants me back and she loves me and that she can't get over me even though she is trying so hard! I seriously don't like it! We are going to high school and I'm planning on dating other girls, but she won't stop confessing her love to me. How long will it take for her to get over me? Help!?!?!?

[Aajj333]

Not long enough

[FreeFall]

You may need to stop being friends. You don't sound happy and she sounds overly clingy and obsessed. Just think though, would you dating a new girl make her stop or would it just add fuel to her "must be his girlfriend" again fire?

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

She sounds like my ex best friend, who was "in love" with some of my guy friends to the point where she tried to break them up with their then girlfriends. If she's as obsessive as I think she is, it's not going to be easy to get rid of her. You need to talk to her face to face, and tell her your feelings. Tell her that she's being obsessive, and that you don't feel the same way and are actually a little bit freaked out by it. If she doesn't get the message, and still keeps bugging you (which I feel like may happen) then I think you should just cut her out of your life. Ignore her messages, and if you have a Facebook and are friends with her there, un friend her and maybe block her.

I hope that helped. Good luck!

[Iron Man]

Not long enough

Well that helps his situation a lot :offtopic:

But seriously, tell her that you need your space. You are her friend, and that is it. Plus, just getting out of middle school, she most likely doesn't know what love really is.

[eggy101]

Yep exactly what ironman siad

[DerBear]

You really need to just tell her straight.

I would like to say that you should be gentle when dealing with this however from what you have said it does sound like you have tried the gentle approach and it is simply not working anymore. So you need to be honest with her and be firm, don't be nasty but be firm and tell her you are not interested as when people do become obsessive they need a hard push back to reality. Although I would try to be gentle at first but if you see it is not working then go for the firm approach.

[anyone50]

I agree if telling her hasn't slowed her down maybe it's time to sit her down and be firm and tell her it's just not going to happen. Unfortunaltley stalkers can come in both sexes. If she still persist after all this sometimes peer preasure can work. I'm not talking about spreading vicious rummors about her around school. but rather appeal to friends that you both may have in commom and if she hears it enough from others she may just get the message and move on.

[Sudds3]

Thanks everyone! You have helped so much! Her older sister who is 16 has been dating this guy for like a year....she has never dated anyone before, but they are positive that they will get married! They planned their wedding and everything! It's so weird.....everyone thinks so! And her older brother who is 15 has been dating a girl for like 5 months....and they have their lag it wedding planned! And Maddie's older sister has already said that she and I will get married and has planned our marriage.....the whole family is psycho! But I don't want to lose her as a friend becasue we have been friends since 4 grade and she has always been easy to talk to. I like her, as a friend, but I don't like like her....at all really!