Help. Please.

[Princess Ariel]

So, i'm kind of having a panic attack at the moment.
Also, this could go in several places, but the main point is here.

So I've dated this one guy 4 times (stupid of me, I know) and yesterday he started talking to me after almost a year of not talking to each other. I've got a few issues with that. One, what made him suddenly start to talk to me? and what made him suddenly want me to spend the day out with him and his cousin?
So, I made an excuse up. Saying I slept all day. Since he was so devastated. But the thing is. I have NO interest in dating him. Not only am I gay. but he treats me like shit.

Just a couple of minutes ago, on facebook he asked me to go to third base with him if we dated again. We never even went to SECOND base. He also doesn't want anyone to know about us. I mean, I have to let him down. I've got no interest in him.. but he never gets girls so I feel bad for the guy.

It was completely out of the blue.

I'm terrified actually. Please.. What should I do? I've asked a few friends and they've done nothing.

[FullyAlive]

A guy who asks you to go to third base before you're even back together you generally don't want to get back together with. This sounds harsh but from my point of view he's feeling a bit lonely over summer and thinks he can count on you for sexual favours because you have a history.

And even if you weren't gay, you're still above that. Being used for sex and other stuff, you're so much better than that, you'd do best to stay well out of it.

Tell him no, say that its out of order for him to ask that, you don't want to be kept secret like something he's ashamed of. Explain you no longer have feelings for him so you really don't feel inclined to do what he is asking.

Its okay to feel sorry for him but don't do anything you're uncomfortable with out of sympathy. You'll regret it, trust me, I know.

[jessiecox1]

It doesn't sound like you're very interested in him. Also, he's asking you if you want to go to 3rd base and you're not even dating? Something doesn't seem right there. What is your gut telling you to do?

[Teresa31]

Tell him to give you some space and that you don't want to be dating.

[PinkFloyd]

Correct me if i'm wrong but this guy sounds like a major tool. He treats you like shit and still wants you to go to third base with him? Above all, your not even into guys. Why waste your time with this guy who's probably gonna try to hit a home run with you after talking to you for like 5 minutes. My advise is to drop this guy, forget about him.

But hey, I dont know the slightest fuck about how your feelings for him. (Just do what you think is the best option for you

Best of luck - Rob

[anyone50]

I think you got your answer as to what made him want to talk to you after a year sounds to me like maybe he ran out of girls to scam on and is looking up old gf's. and that a real classy move to ask you if you want to go to third base with you. Why is he even a face book friend. unfriend him from your facebook and walk across the street if you ever see him coming towards you.