Dont know where I stand

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Hi guys

Right well here goes....

About 2 months ago me and my girlfriend split up, it was sorta like a mutual agreement as we had an argument and didn't talk for days, so we decided to be mates and see where it goes from there. Sadly, we never did get back together, due to her 'getting over me' I think. We had a great relationship for the time we went out, she told all her close mates that shed never felt like this for any guy before, and I really liked her too.

Now, 2 months on after the break-up, I don't think she likes me in that way anymore, but I still really like her. I think I'm just a good mate to her now but I really don't know where I stand- but how do I find out?! I cant tell her I still like her as I don't want to risk not even being mates anymore.

I really don't know what to do, I really like her but I doubt we will ever get back together.

All advice is appreciated.
thanks :)

[Serenity]

If she doesn't have feelings for you anymore besides those of a close friend, you have to do what's best for your relationship and respect that. I know how torturous it can be, being so close to someone you care about so much and not being able to express it, but if you really care about her you'll preserve the good friendship you have now.

On the other hand, she may have feelings for you still but is hiding them because she's afraid you don't feel the same way- ohh how many times I've seen that happen. And in my experience, girls have always been better at hiding their feelings than guys :P

So you need evaluate the possibility of her sharing your feelings. We can't tell you what she's feeling, obviously, so it's up to you to figure that out. Pay attention to the little things she does and says- does she flirt? Do you catch her looking at you sometimes? When you're together, does she stay really close to you or keep her distance? Look for little subtleties like these and decide if you should take the leap and confess or remain quiet.