My sister told my parent's she is pregnant

[Kirsi]

My older sister is 17 and just this morning told my parent's that she is pregnant. She met her boyfriend online and hasn't been with him for very long. She thinks she is already about 3 months by now. When she told them my mom started freaking out and worrying and has been calling places all day trying to set up appointments. I have never seen my dad this angry before in my life! My parents don't yell they argue with each other and they do get mad at us if we do something wrong but this was the first time I heard my dad actually yell and it was really scary. He told my sister that she was an idiot and that she could get out of the house he wanted nothing to do with her anymore and now my mom and dad have been fighting all day long and my older sister is staying at a friends. My younger sister and I have been hiding out in my room trying not to have to hear it and my little sister has been crying asking me if our older sister will be coming back and why is daddy so angry and are they gonna split up and I just don't know what to tell her. I thought my family has always got along pretty well and I just can't believe this is happening all of a sudden. I just want everyone to get along and for everything to work out. How can my dad say he want's nothing to do with his own daughter or grand kid? I wish everything would just go back to normal. Isn't there anything at all that I can say or do to help make this better? I am afraid that maybe my family is ruined :(. Has anyone else been through anything like this? How did it end up?
This is all happening right after my grandpa died and everyone is fighting :( I just don't get it!

[Matt_is_Awesome]

Its just that your parents are in shock and their emotions are showing as well. Give a few days and your parents will love that baby when it comes out. but rite now they are still shocked and angry but its just emotions

[Kirsi]

I really hope your right because I really don't like how things are now. Thank you.

[Eclipsical]

its a shock but i mean..your sister done goofed big time

[Christheman]

Your sister is 17 she really shouldnt have a child till finishes college so they are surprised. It will blow over eventually.

[FreeFall]

I'm with your dad. If my future children EVER get pregnant, they damn sure better move out. Your parents already did their job, they had their kids. They don't need to be raising hers or sheltering her from what is now the adult life, she needs to be a mother now. A mother's duty is to protect and take care of her children and be their mom, not the grandparents.

She needs to be the one to care for the infant, she needs to be the one to nurse the infant, she needs to be the one to provide for her baby. She's having it, it's coming out of her, she's got to step up to the plate now.

There's nothing you can do. Just tell your sister something to help her calm down, like big sis is an adult now and she's going to be alright. Just do not say she made a mistake. There was no mistake made, just a baby. I hope you'll be able to cope with what's going on, sooner or later your sister would've had to move out anyways. I have to move out before I'm 23 or 24. It sucks that your sister doesn't have the support she should from her parents, but that's life. She'll be ok in the end.

[Kirsi]

I'm more worried for the baby then my sister. I feel like I am more responsible than she is and she is 17 and doesn't have a job and she is always getting into trouble and doing stupid things. I really love kids and babies and I am really worried for this one. But your right there is nothing for me to do about it I guess all I can do is hope for the best. I hope everything will work out in the end. I can understand wanting her to provide for it and take care of it and live on her own and being mad that she's done it too young but to kick her out when she doesn't have a place she knows she can go to and she doesn't have a job yet I just never thought my dad would go that far hes usually a pushover and really nice so I was so shocked myself. Thanks so much everybody for the reassurances.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

its a shock but i mean..your sister done goofed big time

Lol, nice quote there.

I've never been in a situation like this, but coming from a girl who's pissed her parents off to the point they've threatened to kick her out, I say give them a few days to calm down. In anger, we sometimes say things we don't mean, and your dad possibly just did the same thing. It's not going to be an easy few months, but with time comes healing.

Good luck!

Please don't double post, use the edit button instead ~Silver Assassin

[Kirsi]

Thought I would update people. My sister has been staying with a friend and my dad still refuses to let her come home. Today she is moving in with her boyfriend who lives an hour away. He is 1 year older than her and is working as an apprentice to be a mechanic I guess he apparently makes okay money but he lives in a small bachelor apartment. On Monday my mom is going to take her to her first doctors appointment to see how the baby is doing. My mom and my dad are not arguing about it anymore but my dad has been acting grouchier than he ever has before and I hope he will come around by the time his grand baby is born or else that will be sad. That said I am happy my sister has a place to go to and that her boyfriend is staying with her and helping her out and I am glad she will be finally seeing a doctor I really hope her baby will be okay. I am excited to become an aunt and I wonder if it will be a boy or girl.. Does anyone know if my sister really is already 2 months along like she thinks how much longer until we find out the gender?

[FreeFall]

No there's no sex yet 2 months is too early to tell. 18 weeks is the earliest when you can find out the sex. But don't push her to find out hun if she's not ready, this is her and her boyfriend's utmost special time and she's really going to love it. Even if she seems miserable, motherhood's great (:
I'm happy he's there for her too, and that she's got a place to be.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Once the baby is born ur dad will love the baby, all ur family needs is sometime
Hope this helps

[Kirsi]

My sister isn't miserable at all she is actually pretty cheerful and optimistic the only thing she is upset about is my dad but I'm sure he probably will come around eventually. I am not pushing her to find out the gender she is excited to be having a baby and is also really looking forward to finding out but neither of us knew how far along she had to be before we can find out :)

[FreeFall]

He just has to accept that even if it seemed too young, she's an adult now and will be a mother.
She's starting her own family and she'll be fine. He'll get there in time yes.

I wish her the best of luck and a healthy bundle of joy for her and her boyfriend to love and nurture (:

[Kirsi]

So it turns out my sister was pretty spot on about how far along she is because the doctor told her she is about 9 weeks along and that at 16 weeks (4 months) they should be able to find out the gender! And apparently her due date is on march 4th :). She applied at a bunch of places today hoping to get a job and she actually seems really happy so maybe having a baby will be a good thing for her because so far she seems to be trying pretty hard to be a good mom.

[FreeFall]

My heart glows when I see young women actually doing what they need to be a good mother. I'm so happy she's being active and responsible instead of crying and screaming about how she was kicked out.

[Kirsi]

Today my sister had an interview at Mc Donalds and tomorrow she has an interview at shoppers drug mart so crossing my fingers one of thoes places hires her! She seems pretty excited and confident that she will get the job and this will be her first real job!

[Andy4419]

Same thing happen to my sister.. my niece is 2 now and everybe is happy even my dad after the baby was born he came around and now my parents baby sit when my sister I'd at school she istrying to become a nurse. So I'm sure your family will be okay. Best of luck to your sister