how to come out

[guycuberguy]

i am 14 and gay but no one have an idea because i dont look gay at all
i know that ill have to come out and i know that sooner it will it will be easier
but how am i goining to do that? :(

[jegoss02]

Sup dude. I'm straight. Btw. But I've had friends come out to me before. Quite a few actually. I'm a kind of person who sees friendship as a great thing. Not a lot can change one for me. But anyway. Come out to you best friend first. Work your way down. Gently. It's not a band-aid. That what my friends did. I guess I'm just that good of a guy. But idk how well off you are with your mates. It's all situational.

[ImCoolBeans]

I wrote a thread all about coming out. It contains some tips and information about doing it; and then the thread is filled with personal accounts from people who have come out, sharing their coming out stories. Hopefully it will be of aid to you with your journey. If you'd like to look it over - which I think you should since I believe it could help you out - here is the link: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134627

[jegoss02]

Oh. And it's not about looks. I know some guys may "look" gay and might not be. And some football jocks that are gayer than a three dollar bill. Lol. But it's not all about appearances.

[guycuberguy]

thanks all guys
but the thing is, i know my family and friend will accept me but i just feel i cant do it

[Jimmy Page]

Then wait dear
I knew my family and friends would accept me,but I just didn't feel I could do it,with time you will feel ready,this is a "big" thing to most people,which makes it hard to tell anyone
Good luck darling :kitty:

[jegoss02]

Hope everything turns out okay. Like killer queen said. Just wait.

[guycuberguy]

thank you all guys
you created my first smile today (its hard)

btw jegoss02 thanks for you advice just messaged my best friend, thanks :)

Posts merged ~ Mike/ImCoolBeans

[jegoss02]

Welcome. Had a lot of friends come out to me. Like I said. It was fine cause I'm kind of just understanding I guess. I consider all my friends the best. Not reall better. But I just thought some help could come from experience.

[guycuberguy]

My friend knows now and thats agreat feeling
Thanks aaallllloooootttt guys

[Foamy]

That's great that u came out! I was going to say that you'll know when the time is right...but you already know.

[guycuberguy]

Thanks for the support but still in process

[Jesse17]

if your friends and where you live don't have homophobia, you're free to do that...
like myself, im 18 gay or bi....but in taiwan, it's almost a shame to be gay sorry for that.....
i should not stay here any longer.

[guycuberguy]

i know sometimes it sounds simple but because of this web site i came out so thanks for everyone and for the one that thought making this website

[jegoss02]

Glad to have helped out

[crisel]

Looks doesn't matter. It's how you carry and deliver yourself to the public. Be yourself.

[guycuberguy]

How can i thank you jegoss02
I can buy something for you if you want

[guycuberguy]

:D:DHow can i thank you jegoss02
I can buy something for you if you want

[jegoss02]

Hey. Don't worry about it man. Just here to help. Been searching forums and helping people with probs. read this. Took 4 hours. Great story. I won't tell you how it ends. It it's truly a good read.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=128133&highlight=I+think+I%27m+in+love+with

Take some time. It's a little confusing.

[guycuberguy]

that's really confusing, but i aam suffering right now, i feel attraction to girlsnk i am bi but i feel i am getting mad, i really love some guy, but i feel scared when i am with girls...,.. i think i am gay because i am agraid from the other sex....
I dont know what to do witj myself, i need help again... :'(

[guycuberguy]

that's really confusing, but i aam suffering right now, i feel attraction to girlsnk i am bi but i feel i am getting mad, i really love some guy, but i feel scared when i am with girls...,.. i think i am gay because i am agraid from the other sex....
I dont know what to do witj myself, i need help again... :'(

[chaotic 2h]

ur really lucky, im jewish so being gay is considered like breaking a law, if I came out my parents would kick me out of the house. SO i just pretend im thrilled to marry a nice jewish girl

[HunterSteele]

If you don't look gay and no one suspects anything, why come out so soon? Wait until after high school when you won't have to deal with all the problems that come with it.

[SkeptiqL]

When you come out to your parents I'd write a note and leave the house for a few hours just to let them take it in. That's what I'm doing.

[guycuberguy]

:)I am glad to say i told my parents, i am lucky, i have amazing parents...
Thank you, all of you guys, i really appreciate it...
My way to thank is what you feel right now, you helped a kid that you have no idea who is this guy, this must be a good feeling, and all of should be happy, thank you all...
Guy marcus, israel, bi, out of the closet...

[jegoss02]

that's really confusing, but i aam suffering right now, i feel attraction to girlsnk i am bi but i feel i am getting mad, i really love some guy, but i feel scared when i am with girls...,.. i think i am gay because i am agraid from the other sex....
I dont know what to do witj myself, i need help again... :'(

Hey. I haven't been around lately. Sorry for that. But I was just reading and saw this. So... I just wanted to help out. I can safely say that if your parents accept you that it is probably the biggest step you can take as is a really good outcome. Secondly. This problem with the guy or girl thing. It's fine to e afraid of women. I was for a long time and only really found comfort around my guy friends. But then i met a girl and we immediately fell for each other. That was almost a year ago now and it's still strong. One day you'll meet a person (whether it is a guy or a girl) and you'll know then. You can find love anywhere and with any one. No matter what people believe, this is the truth. It's no uncommon for a straight religious male to find himself oddly in love with another guy. It jus happens. So keep your chin up. It'll be okay. :)