Boyfriend Troubles, HELP!

[Morganamy2000]

All I want to do I cuddle a little but he is way too shy, I don't know what to do, there is no 'excitement' or much talking in our relationship because he is too shy, the only time I have hugged him or kissed him was infront of people because he thinks it will be awkward when we're alone.

Please Help Me Help Him Be More Confident



Age: 13, Straight

[john2]

Im not good at giving advice but I would suggest spend more time gettin 2 know each other.The more he knows you the comfortable he will be with you alone, know what i mean.Or......he might just not take your relationship seriously(not pointing fingers here)He might just be with you cuz of your looks.NOT SAYING HE IS.Or he thinks you dont take it seriously and you are only with him for publicity.(not pointing fingers here)You need to let him know
you actually like him.

[Harley Quinn]

All I want to do I cuddle a little but he is way too shy, I don't know what to do, there is no 'excitement' or much talking in our relationship because he is too shy, the only time I have hugged him or kissed him was infront of people because he thinks it will be awkward when we're alone.

Please Help Me Help Him Be More Confident



Age: 13, Straight

Sometimes it's easier being affectionate in public, compared to privately. He's probably uncomfortable being with you alone, I think that by spending more time talking and less time trying to get him to show affection, he'll gradually end up showing it anyways. It may take him time, but show that you're willing to wait for him to feel confident. The key is to make sure that he's comfortable, and not like he's being forced into something. If he thinks it's going to be awkward, talk to him about what makes him feel that way and ask if there's anything you can do to reassure him.

[Wisconsin]

I agree with Kryptonite. I'm not exactly the best example for a star relationship but I know the only reason i'd feel uncomfortable with a girl when we were alone is cuz I didn't know how far we would go if we started doing something or I wasn't sure how she felt about me. Hope this helps :)

[wildone016]

Totallly agree on the previous topics. Maybe keep up hugs and small kisses in public so he gets more comfortable then ease it privately. Just takes time I am sure.

[anyone50]

You don't say how long you have known each other or been together but assumming it hasn't been long you just have to have patients with him because a lot of guys are fine in a group with others but when it comes to showing thier feelings especially when your alone it can be awkward for them. as you get to know each other he will become more comtable with showing his feelings. If on the other hand this is something that has been going on for awhile there maybe deeper issues present and eventually you will have to make a choice to stay or move on. hope this helps

[PinkFloyd]

Tell him how you feel. tell him you want to go to a new level. Im not nesasarely saying you should have sex or anything; Just tell him that you like him a lot. And you want to be public and private in the relationship.

[Ambrosia]

As you both get older and more comfortable with your sexuality (Maturing) you will begin to be able to show affection behind closed doors. By this I mean kissing, cuddling, watching movies closely, all those sweet little moment type things. Try talking to him about it first, and explaining that you want affection without having an audience. If it doesn't work than carefully work your way into it. Start by holding hands while watching a movie, sitting closely to each other. Work your way to get closer to him. If he is shy you just need to take it slowly but still work your way into it.

My first serious boyfriend was very shy. He was scared to even get close to me!! I put on a movie one afternoon after school in my families living room. We started out sitting apart. I eventually got him to hold my hand, which called for me to move just a tad closer. A little while into the movie I got up to "go to the restroom" and came back and took my place a bit closer to him. The couches arm prevented him from scooting away, and in all honesty he probably didn't even notice. I did this a few times before finally our legs were actually touching (Gasp!).

From there on it took a few months for us to get any further past being close to each other. First kisses, deep hugs, and so on, took a little longer than most couples, but it was worth it.

Make sure it's worth it and you'll get there!! :)

[anyone50]

As you both get older and more comfortable with your sexuality (Maturing) you will begin to be able to show affection behind closed doors. By this I mean kissing, cuddling, watching movies closely, all those sweet little moment type things. Try talking to him about it first, and explaining that you want affection without having an audience. If it doesn't work than carefully work your way into it. Start by holding hands while watching a movie, sitting closely to each other. Work your way to get closer to him. If he is shy you just need to take it slowly but still work your way into it.

My first serious boyfriend was very shy. He was scared to even get close to me!! I put on a movie one afternoon after school in my families living room. We started out sitting apart. I eventually got him to hold my hand, which called for me to move just a tad closer. A little while into the movie I got up to "go to the restroom" and came back and took my place a bit closer to him. The couches arm prevented him from scooting away, and in all honesty he probably didn't even notice. I did this a few times before finally our legs were actually touching (Gasp!).

From there on it took a few months for us to get any further past being close to each other. First kisses, deep hugs, and so on, took a little longer than most couples, but it was worth it.

Make sure it's worth it and you'll get there!! :)

Sounds a lot like my first boyfriend

[Morganamy2000]

Thankyou to everyone who replied, thanks to your advice my boyfriend has gotten a lot more confidence, we are hanging out together with less people (getting there) and we are going to the movies this weekend with two other friends. Like I said before, Thankyou for the advice, I hope to get more soon:):wub: