Am I being a bad boyfriend?

[monkeypee13]

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[The Resurrected One]

Nah, you ain't being a bad boyfriend. Well, here is what I say:

You love her, so you miss her when she's gone, even though it is for a couple months or so. Nothing wrong with that. And, uh, you miss her a lot, but you are also happy for her, and that's good.

And, you are not too young to be depressed over a girl, I don't think, because I'm the same way (except that I love her but she doesn't love me :P )

[monkeypee13]

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[The Resurrected One]

Actually, she doesn't love me at all. She doesn't even know me! It's Love At First Sight, as I say it. :D

[monkeypee13]

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[The Resurrected One]

Yes! :D :D

Finally, someone who agrees with me on something. 8)

[monkeypee13]

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[The Resurrected One]

Uh...well, hmm, let's see. I don't know how she will react to that, but if you two really love eachother, then she should be happy.

[monkeypee13]

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[Maverick]

No, you aren't a bad boyfriend. You're human. It's perfectly normal to feel that way and most couples do when they're separated. Every emotion you're feeling everyone has gone through at some point in a relationship.

But what makes you a good or bad boyfriend depends how you react to the situation. The best thing to do is to not let these feelings overpower you or get the best of you. You aren't a jerk for feeling sad when she's gone for an extended person of time. What makes you a jerk would be demanding she not go at all because you can't. See the difference? Internal emotions don't make us who we are. It's how we chose to act when we come across the emotions.

Whenever you feel that way try to talk yourself into thinking everything is fine, you trust her, the relationship is fine, you have nothing worry about, and look froward to her coming back, without getting too wound up on your emotions.

You aren't a bad boyfriend for feeling that way. Just don't do anything that would make you a jerk and just relax yourself.

Come to terms with that there will be some things that will involve her and her only that will make her happy and you can't always been included. She's an individual too who deserves her own happiness sometimes and I'm sure she isn't thinking "Oh I'm here having so much fun while my boyfriend isn't." She probably misses you too and you're just taking to heart her having fun as a way to spite you, when you know better that isn't the case.

Try to do something for yourself to make you happy. Maybe take this time to do something personal for yourself that can make you happy.

This situation (though torturous) can be positive to your relationship and make it stronger.

Just remember everything will be alright and it's just your fears talking most of the time when dealing with this.

[monkeypee13]

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[Maverick]

Ok just a word of advice with living 1-2 minutes from her. I'm pretty sure it won't be a big deal but don't make this mistake: using this convenience of being so close at home to feel the need to spend more time with her more than the normal because seeing one person so much can cause you to get sick of each other and it can turn into a disaster. Like just remember to give each other space. Otherwise I wouldn't expect it to be an issue.

And no problem, glad I could help.

[monkeypee13]

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[Maverick]

oh wise Anthony.
Ha I could get used to that. :P

Sounds like it'll work out then. :)

[Octo22]

Just a tip from the first thing you stated. Girlfriends should be able to have fun without you, no one wants a 100% dependent girlfriend, be happy. Because it's telling you that if you ever go away, you don't have to worry to the extreme of her being depressed.

You're expected to feel a little lonely, just try to keep yourself pre-occupied. Hang out with a best friend?

[The Resurrected One]

Yeah, Anthony is my favourite mod on the forums. 8)

Anyway, about the thread, I agree with your stereotype. A long time ago, when I was around 8, I sorta liked this Asian girl who was in grade 6. :D

Her mom was pissed off at me, and was yelling at me and everything. But I don't dislike her mom. She's nice, usually.

[Crazysam]

dont worry bud your just missing her theres nothing wrong with that :)