Relationship Help PLEASE!!??

[Shimalt94]

Sorry to put up one of these "please help" posts, but I just legitimately need some help, any advice appreciated.

I met this guy in a play, and we were love interests. We got to know each other and got along well, and whereas he would be "ironically/sarcastically" nice to some girls, he was actually real towards me, and we would have really nice conversations. We would flirt and stuff, and he would say stuff like "oh, we make such a good couple", and he friends would jokingly say stuff like "so, are you two dating outside of here, or what?".

I started to like him, and needed a date for my prom (we don't go to the same school) so I asked him, just as a friend. He didn't seem like the type of person to go to "prom", if you know what I mean (he didn't go to his own), but I wanted to get to know him better, so I asked. We I called him up, he really wanted to talk, and started chatting with me, and I am pretty sure he thought I was asking him to hang out/go out, to which he seemed enthusiastic. Then I asked him to prom, and he said that he doesn't go to prom, and is against it. That was fine--but I was really awkward on the phone (I had never done anything like that before), and know I made him very uncomfortable. I sent him a text, just saying sorry, and stuff, but he didn't reply. He used to think of me as a cool person, but now I think it is just...really awkward.

Is there anyway for me to get him to think of me as a cool, chill person again? Like he had before? I do have a bit of a crush on him, and would like to get to know him better. What should I do? Advice?

[December]

In my opinion, you definitely should explain to him the prom thing, in a setting where he has to reply (like, call him or tell him in person, but don't just text him this time). Tell him that you are sorry if you made him uncomfortable and really just wanted to go as friends, get to know him better, etc. Also you could say that you think he is a really cool person and that it is fine that he didn't want to go and you understand his reasons for saying no. Just basically explain to him what the situation was. You could then suggest hanging out another time, like doing something that you both would enjoy, since he seemed enthusiastic about that before.

Also, don't go out of your way to try and seem cool. This could backfire in a bad way. Just be yourself like you were before you asked him to prom, and try to put this whole incident behind you. If he liked you before, he probably still likes you now, because its not like you have changed, it was likely just an uncomfortable situation for him. He may even be embarrassed if he feels like he hurt you, who knows, he may be just as confused about what happened and just as eager to go back to the way things were before all this. Good luck! :)

[Shimalt94]

Thanks!
I just hope he doesn't see me as an immature girl who has a crush on him. He is friends with a lot of people a few years older, and is pretty mature himself (for a teenager, that is). I just don't want to look foolish and naive. I think he liked me though... For example, he would go out of his way to do/say nice things, hold open doors, just ask me about things, and make sure I felt "in the loop" when other people were talking.

Anyway, what would be the best way to go about talking to him? This whole incident was almost 2 months ago. I don't really know how I could meet up with him... I have friends who know him, but they are not great friends of mine or his and so I don't know if it would be the best idea to tell them all this and ask if they could help me be in the same place as him....

Would it be odd calling him out of the blue like this? I mean, after the whole indecent, we haven't really talked. I think this would be best in person, but I am trying to think of the best way for us to talk/see each other without it looking like I am desperate/ weird.

Anyway, thanks for reading this. Sorry for the length, and any input is helpful! THANKS!!!

[Shimalt94]

Sorry for the double post...

I was just wondering, now that I think I should tell him all this/even talk to him at all, how I should go about it, like in person (if possible), over text, over phone, facebook?

I almost called him, but then didn't know if that would be the best way to handle talking to him. I don't want to come off as weird/clingy.

Again, sorry to post again, I just really need some advice.

[FreeFall]

I say in person. If not in person, then the phone. At least then you can here each other. I'd save facebook for last but that's just my personal preference. You can and should do whatever you're the most comfortable with.