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cpr97
July 22nd, 2012, 01:35 PM
i just figured i would post this thread so everyone can kind of understand something here, we are all (or most of us) going through puberty where our minds and bodies are figuring out who we are as people and they are changing rapidly.

Just because you look at naked guys and get an erection or have thought about other boys and got hard or horny or have actually did some expirimenting with other boys and enjoyed it does not mean you are gay it is very simply explained by HORMONES our minds do crazy things cuz of hormones. Being gay is not just a sexual attraction to someone of the same sex it is mostly an emotional attraction as well as a sexual attraction. the point i am trying to make here is dont get down on yourself or worry that you might be gay because something popped in your mind or you saw something in porn or wanted to or did try something in real life and enjoyed it or it made your dick hard or made you horny.

As far as being Bi well that to me is even more confusing cuz there is a fine line in my mind about being bi. here is how i always explain to people to figure it out ask yourself these questions:
Would you sexually play around with someone of the same sex (if you knew there would be no consequences like other people finding out), would you ever publicly date someone of the same sex or hold their hand or kiss them in public?

at our young ages we are all horny and enjoy the feeling of sexual pleasure and i dont think our minds really care at this point how we reach our orgasms obvously with another person is alot more thrilling and funner.

You cant base your sexuallity on what or how your BODY reacts certain things being gay or bi or straight is more of a mental thing then a physical if your a boy and your straight and another boy touches your dick there is a very good chance it will get hard this is from physical stimulation not mental stimulation pretty much your brain and your penis doesnt know if its a boy or girl touching you it just knows its being stimulated and it likes it so it flips a switch in your body saying ok im horny time to fill the penis with blood to enjoy this moment i mean if our sexuality was based on solely what makes our dicks hard we would be in love with pillows lol i know if im sleeping and my dick rubs on a pillow the right way i get hard doesnt mean i would ever date a pillow

basically what im trying to say is unless you have an emotional connection with someone of the same sex your not gay or bi (if you couldnt picture yourself dating a boy your not gay or bi) as far as messing around playing together experimenting whatever you wanna call it we are young and horny and just want to get off so if we get help from a friend or help a friend whos the same sex but its nothing more then that and it doesnt leave the bedroom then your just a normal horny teenage boy or curious or bedroom bi whatever you wanna call it but NOT gay.

**i am not saying there is anything at all wrong with being gay or bi just it seems alot of people have that worry and shouldnt have to worry about it**

And if you are gay or bi be happy with it, it wasnt anything that you did that made you that way its just the way your mind is nothing can change it and you should be happy with yourself and any real friends will accept you for who you are


If anyone would like to add or discuss this more then feel free or PM or whatever you feel comfortable doing if you want to talk or ask anything

camilo96
July 22nd, 2012, 01:46 PM
Well said

cpr97
July 22nd, 2012, 01:55 PM
i just see so many different people asking it figured i would give my 2 cents on the whole subject.

and i dont see what the big problem with being gay is anyways, im personally straight but have friends that are gay and bi and they are still people just like a straight person i respect them and they respect me what more can you ask for out of a friendship, i realize everyone is afraid they will get made fun of for things they do or how they feel or are or even look which is what makes this forum nice those people can get advice on things and not be afraid of getting made fun of but the way i look at it is your friends will be there for you and be your friend nom matter what sure they may joke around but would never make fun of you for who you are and if they do or would then you have to ask yourself are they really your friend? people need to be happy with themselves to be happy and if your not happy with yourself how can you expect others to be happy with you?
if your mind decides your gay or bi accept it because theres nothing you can do to change it and if you try to fight it you will not be allowing yourself to be happy

hey_mister
July 22nd, 2012, 02:01 PM
Very well said, I'm glad you posted this, I don't think anyone could tell you how many posts there are asking if someone is gay cause they did something (watch gay porn, experiment with other guys, ect..), every other post is basically about it. I think everyone should read this before making a new post about if they're gay because of something they did.

cpr97
July 22nd, 2012, 02:13 PM
thanks i made a suggestion earlier in the suggestions section about something like this and pretty much got told i was stupid so i just went and did it on my own

AndCuriousGuy16
July 22nd, 2012, 02:40 PM
The best post on VT for sure! And i agree wtih hey mister because people should read this post. But not to burst a bubble or anything but kids will still post stuff even if it is already on here. There are thousands of posts about masterbating, dick sizes, and recommendations (which yes i have posted to most of those topics from time to time). But getting back to your post, i agree with you. We are all young and horny and yes you could say that we kind of do accept sex from anybody girl or guy. We are just teens wanting to experiment, find out who we are, and of course have fun!

Thanks for the awesome post!

Bigswedishboy
July 22nd, 2012, 02:44 PM
Thank you! someone actually understands!

Liveoak
July 22nd, 2012, 06:18 PM
I think Cody covered a lot of good points in detail, which put into perspective what a lot of us are going through now. While I know I'm more in the bi/gay camp by the definition provided, I'm still in the process of becoming more comfortable and open about it. For me, it's gonna take more time.

Cody - Thanks for taking the time to write and post this. You've helped a lot of guys out with this.

Eric

cpr97
July 22nd, 2012, 06:24 PM
not a problem, glad i could help, and as for you eric dont rush it you will be more confident and comfortable with your mind and body in time why rush something that doesnt have to be. when your mind and body is ready for you to make the decisions you will know im sure

AndCuriousGuy16
July 22nd, 2012, 07:04 PM
I think Cody covered a lot of good points in detail, which put into perspective what a lot of us are going through now. While I know I'm more in the bi/gay camp by the definition provided, I'm still in the process of becoming more comfortable and open about it. For me, it's gonna take more time.

Cody - Thanks for taking the time to write and post this. You've helped a lot of guys out with this.

Eric

Good luck to you eric! Hope you can be comfortable and open about it one day!

Bigswedishboy
July 22nd, 2012, 10:21 PM
I think Cody covered a lot of good points in detail, which put into perspective what a lot of us are going through now. While I know I'm more in the bi/gay camp by the definition provided, I'm still in the process of becoming more comfortable and open about it. For me, it's gonna take more time.

Cody - Thanks for taking the time to write and post this. You've helped a lot of guys out with this.

Eric

Good luck to you eric! Hope you can be comfortable and open about it one day!

Exactly what he said

cpr97
July 22nd, 2012, 11:13 PM
i think Nate meant like he hopes the coming out provess goes easily for him...

AndCuriousGuy16
July 22nd, 2012, 11:32 PM
i think Nate meant like he hopes the coming out provess goes easily for him...

Yep!

Sudds3
July 22nd, 2012, 11:37 PM
I'm so happy you posted this! Because I see a ton of posts about "am I gay" because i saw my friends penis and I got a boner! It's really annoying because there are so many of them! So thank you!

cpr97
July 22nd, 2012, 11:43 PM
your welcome, i wouldnt say they are annoying i mean obviously if people are posting it they have questions or want advice but its just that nowhere on here is there an actual explanation of what being bi or gay really is, and i am sure they will still post them even with this thread but atleast now they can read this and either discuss it here or have a better idea before they start a thread of their own and get all the same answers they could read here, unfortunately i think most people just automatically start a new thread before reading through the current ones to see if anyone else has the same situation they do, which could also have in part to do with the whole bumping thing but thats probably why there is over 70 pages of threads in the puberty for boys section i think about 65 of the pages could and should be moved to the puberty archive section, but thats just me and what do i know? :lol:

Dwl4
July 23rd, 2012, 12:13 AM
i always fantasize about doing it with guys but i have no emotional connection with any of them. i would never date a guy but i have experimented with guys and i loved it but i dont love them, so im not gay? or am i.

cpr97
July 23rd, 2012, 12:17 AM
no your not gay or bi, your a horny teenage boy who likes sexual activites with other people, in my opinion anyways

jord16an
July 23rd, 2012, 11:14 AM
wow lot of really good points definietly makes things a bit more clear ive never done anything with other dudes but kinda thought about them and ive watched gay porn a few times

Terrell613091
July 23rd, 2012, 06:27 PM
interesting

branman2000
July 23rd, 2012, 06:33 PM
that was the perfect answer....

Tonebone88
July 23rd, 2012, 09:08 PM
I'm glad that you posted this. A lot of people can't distinguish between hormones and being gay. When I began to suspect that I was gay, I figured the best thing to do was wait to see how I felt a few years down the road. Now I realize that I am gay because I've never been attracted to any girls (physically or emotionally) and I have been to boys. Plus, I figure that if these feelings have persisted for 4 years, it's not just some hormonal phase.

ImCoolBeans
July 23rd, 2012, 09:37 PM
Welp, OP is banned. To the archive it goes now. :locked: