hardcore-smile
July 21st, 2012, 10:24 PM
Hey guys. So i've been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. I'm 18, he's 19. About 3 months ago he really started messing up in our relationship. He started lying to me about everything and did a bunch of stuff behind my back. Because of this stuff happening I have been controlling him lately. Like where he can go, what him and his best friend do, whether he can drink and do drugs, and the main one is NO TALKING TO GIRLS. I even made him delete his facebook because it scares me that he is talking to girls. I'm terrified of him cheating, or flirting with other girls. Even though everything he has ever lied to me about was never about girls. Until now, today I caught him texting this girl that I used to be BEST FRIENDS with. Like attached at the hip kind of friend. I don't want him talking to girls in general.. and this is the girl he chooses to talk to? So I saw her name today on his bbm and I was like "why are you talking to ____" and he's like "oh i'm not" and im like "i just saw her on your bbm ?" and he's like "oh that wasn't here" and obviously I knew he was lying and then he goes "okay, she just asked me if you still had a sweater of hers.." and i was like "thats it?" and he said "yes" and then i was upset for the next like 4 hours.. barley talking to him. Then we started fighting about it again and i was telling him i know that wasn't all they talked about, and he might as well be truthful now because it's not going to get any worse. And he goes "ok well i asked if she was going to that big party last night, and then she said no because she didn't have a ride (he didn't go to the party but he was dropping his friend off there) and then i mentioned i was driving ___ there and then she asked if she paid me then could she get a ride too and i said no" like he lied to me about this girl 3 times.. i honestly don't believe thats all that happened. Then he said he wanted to leave me because he was just going to keep hurting me in the end, and i BEGGED him to come back for like an hour not to leave me and eventually he did come back and we're still together. I can't seem to leave him, i keep thinking he'll stop lying to me. (Literally, it's a new lie twice a week) not exaggerating! What do I do guys!? HELP!