Girlfriend Broke Up (Actually)

[IcarusLives]

Well my girlfriend decided to be in an open relationship recently for no reason other then she's going to be working a lot now throughout summer.

I told her if I were in her shoes I wouldn't break up with her if I were to hypothetically leave for a while then get back together afterwards, but it's her call. She reconsidered and got back together.

But this morning (of course) she broke up with me for no reason other then "I need to be single for the summer".

I said I was sorry for whatever I did if it was me and that she should do whatever makes her happiest as that's all I want for her.

She told me it was nothing I did and that she just needed to be single apparently.

This happens a day after she goes out partying with some guys from her work place who she's openly told me she would have sex with were she single.

I love her more than anyone I met and as per usual that results in things turning badly for me. I feel awful and sick and self hating as per usual but whatever.

Part of what's really irking me inside is that she never really told me why she wanted to break up other then "I need to be single this summer"....?

Despite how clingy I'm sure this post sounds I'm not a clingy person, I'm just broken right now and feel like shit and am seriously beyond confused.

Anyone have any idea what the hell happened here, because from my viewpoint everything seemed like it was going fine...?

[loz4]

Hmmmm, maybe she's just not ready for commitment, maybe she does just want to be single, but there are plenty of girls out there who do want commitment, I don't mean full on planning your lives together sort of commitment, but at least to be faithful to each other, and know that you both want a relationship, if she doesn't want that, then there's not a lot you can do to be honest, I do feel really sorry for you though, just try your best to forget about her.

[IcarusLives]

Fair enough, although we had been together for over a year and she literally always mentioned that she wanted a serious relationship (So much so it almost became frustrating because I wasn't sure unfortunately). Now this just came out of the blue and it's a bit confusing to me.

[loz4]

Fair enough, although we had been together for over a year and she literally always mentioned that she wanted a serious relationship (So much so it almost became frustrating because I wasn't sure unfortunately). Now this just came out of the blue and it's a bit confusing to me.

Well, that's sorry to hear :( but right now, she wants to be single, there's no a lot you can do about it :( i'm sorry, you should just try and forget about her. Did she give no explanation at all to why she broke up with you? other than 'I need to be single for the summer'

[IcarusLives]

Unfortunately no. She just said that she needs to be single for the summer and that she's "Just figuring stuff out now", so not really. But either way you're right, there's nothing I can do about it now so the best idea is to just move on if I can.

[loz4]

It really sucks dude, but there's plenty more fish in the sea, just be careful about who you want to go out with, make sure you both want the same thing :) hope all goes well for you :)

[IcarusLives]

Definitely true, thanks, same to you and I'll at least be sure to try my best to just stay positive about it instead.

[Amaryllis]

You sound like a very loving guy who loves a girl who doesn't deserve his love. Not clingy.

Honey, she sounds like a horny bitch. Just sayin'. You may love her but if she broke up with you, whatever the reason, it's for the better. You're single now and you'll have no trouble finding girls much more devoted and considerate than she was.

Perhaps she truly wanted to find other guys and have other relationships or perhaps she wanted a specific guy. Either way, while you're hurting and hating yourself, she's off doing god knows what.

Show her what she's missed out on. Cry over her and tell yourself this is a chance at a new beginning. A new experience. You're free to do as you wish now. You can stay single, hit on random guys and/or girls, do stuff you like, not have to worry about pissing anyone off.

Like Ioz said, there are way more fish in the sea. Better, bigger and yummier fish. Go stab a stick in one and barbecue it with tomato salsa (don't actually do that cause that would be cannibilism and a turn off)

[WearAngels]

If you love someone, learn to let them go. Two individuals destined to be together then that's great but if not, well letting go is the best thing to do.

[FullyAlive]

How old is she? Is this a last summer before uni thing?
Maybe she felt too tied down, she wanted to be free to do whatever she liked. Maybe she felt being in a relationship was holding her back or stopping her from doing the things she wanted.

Either way she clearly didn't deserve you, now you use this summer to do what you want, see your friends, go out, parties etc. take your mind off her she isn't worth crying over. You might not be ready for it but if you are maybe you can have a no strings holiday thing. Just try not to nope around whilst she's out enjoying herself.

Honestly it sounds like she chose a shitty way to end it, but you can make something better out of it. Don't even think about getting her back focus on the future you'll have when you find the one that wants to spend her entire summer with you.