coming out as bi? how do i do it?

[prettyinink]

so, this up coming school year i want to have my first girlfriend, but how do i come out without everyone knowing? well, before that how do i come out at all? where do i start? i'm so new to this and don't really know how to go about this? any help would be great. highly appreciated!

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Well "coming out without everyone knowing" would probably just mean that you only come out to people you want to know.

Generally just be frank and honest--no beating around the bush. There really isn't a "right moment" to come out (there might be opportunities, but there is no "right moment") nor is there a "right way" to come out.

I'd suggest doing it individually with each person, in private (or in public if you prefer), be clear and let them know. Sometimes being blunt works too (I came out to my father with a blunt "Hey Dad, I'm bisexual").

I don't suggest doing it in a letter, email, facebook, text, ect though. That's a personal preference however. From experience, doing it in writing isn't a great thing either. In person is best.

I shall refer you to this thread (this is VirtualTeen's "Coming Out Tips" thread) as well: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134627

[prettyinink]

thanks! ill check out the thread

[eggy101]

That other thread seems to be very good, definetly read it

[guycuberguy]

i am gay and i came out these last three days i told first to my best and closest friend and then to another four and to the someone is like my mom
Just tell your best friend first or dont tell at all if you feel you aren't ready

[LatinaVivit]

You could get a megaphone and say, "GIRLS ARE HOT AND I'M A LESBIAN!"....or you could just tell one friend at a time. Your choice.

[jegoss02]

You could get a megaphone and say, "GIRLS ARE HOT AND I'M A LESBIAN!"....or you could just tell one friend at a time. Your choice.

Lol. Funny stuff. Cuberguy is right though. I know cause I helped him out on his thread. Tell you closest friend. The. Work you way down. The people who know you and understand you the best will accept you for you you are. Lol. I have had many of my friends come out to me and my response was once a bro always a bro. Idk how that applies to women though. Sorry.

[Jonathan1998]

If you're freaking out about Coming Out just don't worry, tell your friends, tell your family get it over and done with and then an emotional weight is lifted from your heart, worked with me

[Haleyzmont]

Well start of with your bestfriend be like "hey, you're my best friend and you deserve to know this"

And girlb love to talk about cute boys and stuff so while that convo is going on say "well guys i'm also attracted to girls" if you're JUST attracted to girl the dont use "also". And go on like that. I always have the worst coming out advise compare to the Above^^^

Best of luck.