Jealousy

[tom2k9]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 2 years now, and I would trust her with my life when I think about it. But everytime she spends time alone with another boy, which she does quite a lot as she gets on better with boys than girls, I get incredibly jealous. Whenever she's with them I seem to get very moody and it often causes arguements between us which are starting to turn a bit nasty. I don't want this jealousy and like I said, I really do trust her, but I was just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to surpress this because I'm finding it very hard

[West Coast Sheriff]

You just have to except she is just friends with them. You can't let it bother you if she talks to other dudes. I hope this helps:cool:

[tom2k9]

yeah I get that, it's just been a lot harder than I thought it would be :( ah well, I'm sure it'll blow over :)

[Hunterman711]

If u trust her you'll have to force yourself to accept she's got guy friends, another thing you could is get to know some of her guy friends and figure out which oness you can trust and which ones you can't.

[Maverick]

Trust takes a very long time to build but it can be broken easily too. Its normal to get jealous or question the strength of a relationship while you're in that process of building up trust. Since you're a jealous person by nature its going to take you a bit longer to feel completely secure. Don't feel bad for not trusting you girlfriend right away because its not something that can be helped and its the nature of trust.

The key thing is to not let these negative feelings and thoughts overpower you. Remind yourself that in the past you felt this way and utilize it in a way to calm you down and bring you back to reality. If you can talk yourself down through those jealous moments from within then you can prevent them from controlling you and your relationships. This is something that you have to work on because even should you move on to another girl the jealous feelings will return if they aren't addressed.

Learn to become a master of your emotions and not allow yourself to be controlled by them. Instead, you be in control and in time as you learn to talk yourself down and trust your girlfriend now jealousy will be at a minimum.

[FreeFall]

It's ok. You're feeling odd because you want to be the only guy she's closest to and be her most most favorite guy in the world. These guy friends are making you feel out of place.

If you truly trust her, then put your faith in her. I say you talk about this with her, hopefully she can understand she should try and tone down the one on one guy friend time and maybe find some lady friends (tom boys or something). But just try to help her see where you're coming from. Maybe you're right though, it may blow over (:

When I told my bf I don't trust his female friends (think girls that wear tons of heavy make-up and only make duck faces for photos) he understood because I'm more important to him than they are,and he's never hung out with them alone since even though I trust him. Just not them.