But she's my bestfriend....

[Noxail]

My forever sister, my bestfriend. I don't know what to call her. I feel like someone has ripped my heart out. We where talking three-way with her boyfriend when he said somthing that greatly insulted me, and as a result I lost my temper, and I guess he can't handle being cussed at, because he hung up. Me and Maxie (I changed her name to protect her) proceded to chat, and eventually I ended up talking about some pretty deep stuff that was bothering me. But I didn't know that she'd called her boyfriend back, and he was listening to me vent things I really didn't want anyone but her to know. He then laughed, told me he just called and heard me and Maxie talking about my fake problems, and that he was innocent. I hung up and started to cry. That was about fifteen minutes ago. I decided to ask my VT friends for help. What do I do? :what: ~Holli

[Ginganinja]

omg thats terrible im so sorry that must have really hurt you. if i was in your situaltion and she really is as close to you as you say she is i would wait a little longer to recover from this can ask her to come over and you guys can talk about what hapend because overe the phone might be a little risky considering what just happend to you. if she really is you best friend your forever sister you should be able to talk it out with her and find out why she would do that. try that and see how it works i hope everything works out for the best between the two of you

[FreeFall]

Did he know he'd offend you? Do you usually get along with him? And did she call him back before you began venting? She may not have known you were going to vent when he popped back on the line and it's hard to say "boyfriend, my best friend and I need to speak personally " or "bestie, let's save this for another time." I'm sorry to say it but when a girl, even your bestie, gets a boyfriend he's her center of attention for a looong time. Happened to me. The person that makes you happy often takes place over friends.

But I suggest you hang out alone, face to face with just you and her, and tell her that you do not like her boyfriend or what he does/did. You love her, but you don't like him. Don't ask her to pick anyone over anybody, because he makes her happy (I'm assuming) but that you'd like to do things with just her and not him, so when she's wanting to hang out or talk with you, you'd greatly appreciate if he'd not be involved. Hopefully she understands and respects your wishes because you respect her relationship.

[WaffleSingSong]

This might either be how I am, or the fact that I am a guy. Anywhom, I say still be friends with your BFF and then tell her opinion on it. If she's on your side of the argument, tell the boyfriend to shut up and keep your mouth where it is, but do not waste your time over a petty argument. However, I really hope you two can still be friends as I know how it's like to lose one (but he just moved away) and it is quite sad.

Again, Is that too harsh?

[inexracercjd]

it seems 2 me like she isnt rly as good of a friend 2 u as u are 2 her she should of told u that he was listening seems she mite of forgot u were her friend before he was her bf and she dont realize that if or when they brake up u will still be there and he wont be and now she ruined that trust idk i think u needa talk 2 her and find out y she woulda played a mean joke like that on u thats not something a true friend would do to some1 but im very sorry she treated u that way