Handjob issue

[Trainfreak1914]

I was at my friends house and she starts getting close to me and starts to feel me up. then she starts giving me a handjob. And i eventually ejaculated. But i have a gf and i was wondering if i should have just left and not let her do that.:eek:

[Swagging god]

well i understand how your feeling, but if u enjoyed it then.... you didn't have sex with her so in my opinion u were faithful ~ Swagging god

[Trainfreak1914]

Yeah sex would be cheating

[branman2000]

ummm... well i would consider it cheating... but at the same time, people make mistakes. so just shake it off, keep it on the down low, and just try not to let it happen again.

[IAMWILL]

Im sorry but I totally fucking disagree with the previous posts. Look man, you cheated, and you knew it too. You had all the power at the time to tell the girl no, and you didn't. How would you feel if your girlfriend told you tomorrow that she let another guy finger her? You need to tell your girlfriend and apologize, because she will find out sooner or later, guranteed. You can't treat this as no big deal if you want to have a decent relationship with your girlfriend.

[Skeptical Bear]

I agree with IAMWILL. In a relationship, there needs to be communication and trust. Especially if you're taking this relationship seriously. And that means that you have to be fully honest. Holding in secrets from her will not make things better. Even worse if you tell her later on in the relationship. Tell her what happened as soon as you can and say sorry. Best to do that in my opinion.

[DerBear]

You might get better responses here :arrow: R&D

On a side note. I would have to agree with Eddy and Will. I would say this is cheating as you engaged in a sexual act with someone else while in a relationship. If you're taking this relationship seriously then I would recommend you be honest and tell your current girl friend as any good relationship needs trust and communication. Holding onto these secrets will only make things worse in later life if she finds out. So overall I say be honest. As you did cheat you should tell her and deal with consequences.

[Abyssal Echo]

I agree with Will, Eddy, and Derri
and I don't agree with the above posters either you cheeted best to man up tell her and then deal with the consequences.

[Noirtier]

I agree with Will, Eddy, Derri, and Matt

Fact of the matter is, you cheated man. The best thing to do is to be honest with your girlfriend and tell her what happened. Because when, not if, she finds out from someone else, the consequences will be a lot worse. Don't misread what I'm saying, there will still most certainly be consequences. But if you are honest with her and tell her, they may not be AS bad.

[Christheman]

Techinally it is cheating but like The Soul Man's father said when your girl doesnt know its best that she doesnt find out.

[RedViper]

Im sorry but I totally fucking disagree with the previous posts. Look man, you cheated, and you knew it too. You had all the power at the time to tell the girl no, and you didn't. How would you feel if your girlfriend told you tomorrow that she let another guy finger her? You need to tell your girlfriend and apologize, because she will find out sooner or later, guranteed. You can't treat this as no big deal if you want to have a decent relationship with your girlfriend.

This.
You really need to tell her if you have any respect for her at all. If you guys make it through this then never let anything like that happen again.

[Love.Hate]

Im sorry but from a girls perspective this is disgraceful if you are in a relationship with someone else, i'd be heartbroken if anyone did that to me. It's cheating, how would you feel if another guy started touching your girlfriend up. You should have said no and walked away.

I agree with the above posts, tell her if you even want to try and make the relationship work, can you imagine how hurt she'd be if she found out from someone else. You have to tell her, out of respect if anything else

[FreeFall]

You should've left the second her hand started to move towards your penis. Shame on you.
What happens when it's a blowjob and you get an STD or something? Is it still ok since you didn't engage it, just sort of sat there? By doing nothing you've just told your "friend" you're open to any and all sexual advances.
You'd better tell your girlfriend, or leave her.

[RemoveMemories]

CHEATER! You dont deserve your girlfriend!!!!!

[johngotti]

its not a cheating thing, its a moral thing, what if your girl jerked some random dude, would you still have the same relationship?

[Anyone51]

yeah you should have stopped her and left and told your gf

[Jesse17]

i definitely cannot accept if my bf / gf cheated on me like that, i dont want it to happen. it's scary to me

[inexracercjd]

ya trust me iamwill is rite something like this hapened to me and i tried to hide it but my gf at the time found out and all i did was kiss another girl and she was hurt and mad that i did it but more hurt and pissed i didnt talk to her about it that wasnt the reason we broke up but it def didnt help nothing she said if i loved her and rly didnt mean to do it or it didnt mean nothing to me then i woulda had no problem telling her i screwed up so i agree u needa tell her and be honest with her dude she mite get mad at first or whatever but it will be better in the long run if u just talk to her about it dont try 2 hide from it and dont make it seem like it was all the other girls fault cuz u let it happen so ur just as much at fault as she was so just man up and tell ur gf pay the consequnce now it wont be nearly as bad now if u tell her as it will be if u dont and she finds out down the road by some1 else