Complicated age issue

[jman00]

I am fifteen and there is this girl that I hang out with with who lives down the street. she is only like twelve and normally i wouldn't have thought of asking her out or anything like that because of the age difference, but one of her friends tricked me into believing that she was fourteen and was just telling people she was twelve because she wasn't that tall. (I really don't care about her height). But anyway when i heard this she also told me that the girl in question likes me, and when i thought she was fourteen instead of twelve, i thought about asking her out to the movies or something. but then i discovered that she really is only twelve but she actually does like me. should i still ask her out? Also she has dated guys who were two years older than her so her parents don't care much about that because they went out for like a year and i don't really care what my friends think, they would be more surprised that i actually got a girlfriend for the first time in like four years.

[Olly James]

mate, if you like her go out with her, my uncle and auntie have an age difference of 17 years, it doesnt matter about the age difference and if her and your parents dont mind you have nothing to worry about

[Harley Quinn]

I personally wouldn't ask her, maybe wait for awhile because it's a bit wrong to do so. However, if you personally really want to, go for it.

[DerBear]

Hi,

While I normally say "age doesn't matter" when you are kinda of 15 your essentially a young adult. When you turn 16 she will 13 at the oldest. It might seem slightly inappropriate, plus you might want things that she doesn't she might not be mature enough for a relationship and as usual the social stigma involved with dating a 12 year old. While I can't tell you what to do I would either wait until she is older or move on. I just can't see the relationship age being all that appropriate. However it is entirely up to you and if you really want to try and make the relationship work I say go for it and I wish you all the best of luck.

I know my post has been slightly negative however, I am just wanting you to be aware of the complications of entering into a relationship at such a young age.

[Sean4U]

mate, if you like her go out with her, my uncle and auntie have an age difference of 17 years, it doesnt matter about the age difference and if her and your parents dont mind you have nothing to worry about

James I know what you mean but they are obviously adults and that type of age difference although a lot is not looked upon as a 15/12 yo would because of their maturity level. I don't think that is right but also is something that has to be considered in this situation. If this is a relationship that is meant to be a couple years shouldn't be to long to wait.

[WaffleSingSong]

I am fifteen and there is this girl that I hang out with with who lives down the street. she is only like twelve and normally i wouldn't have thought of asking her out or anything like that because of the age difference, but one of her friends tricked me into believing that she was fourteen and was just telling people she was twelve because she wasn't that tall. (I really don't care about her height). But anyway when i heard this she also told me that the girl in question likes me, and when i thought she was fourteen instead of twelve, i thought about asking her out to the movies or something. but then i discovered that she really is only twelve but she actually does like me. should i still ask her out? Also she has dated guys who were two years older than her so her parents don't care much about that because they went out for like a year and i don't really care what my friends think, they would be more surprised that i actually got a girlfriend for the first time in like four years.

Personally, I would think about this, and how other people think. But personally, if you really like her, go for it. And you really should not give in to trickery like that, if she is quite short, she is most likely a little bit younger.

[Christheman]

no date implies kissing possible touching in the future way too young in my opionon but hey if you are really good friends with her than i say go for it

[unnamed94]

I am fifteen and there is this girl that I hang out with with who lives down the street. she is only like twelve and normally i wouldn't have thought of asking her out or anything like that because of the age difference, but one of her friends tricked me into believing that she was fourteen and was just telling people she was twelve because she wasn't that tall. (I really don't care about her height). But anyway when i heard this she also told me that the girl in question likes me, and when i thought she was fourteen instead of twelve, i thought about asking her out to the movies or something. but then i discovered that she really is only twelve but she actually does like me. should i still ask her out? Also she has dated guys who were two years older than her so her parents don't care much about that because they went out for like a year and i don't really care what my friends think, they would be more surprised that i actually got a girlfriend for the first time in like four years.

thats just weird. i wouldnt even think about it, 3 age difference at that age is a lot in every way + it looks extremely bad (this shouldnt matter that much). its up to you, although i wouldnt go for it its just an advice

[West Coast Sheriff]

Ask her out:cool:

[FreeFall]

There's a difference when you're still kids and your minds are still growing. You're 15, you're nearly an adult even though it doesn't seem that way. She's 12, she may be mature but she's still 12. When you're 16, you'll be so different. And she'll still be 13, and there's a certain maturity gap there.

But if you feel confident, go ahead.

[joeyjorulz]

u need some experience so go for it!

[inexracercjd]

if shes 12 and shes dated guys that were 2 yrs older then her b4 and she dated them for a yr how old did she start dating at? that puts her at atleast 9 or 10 if my math is rite cuz shes 12 now and has no bf and has dated 2 other older boys for a yr each atleast lol and if ur 15 and havent had a gf in 4 yrs u pretty much never had a gf cuz at 11 even if u say ur bf and gf ur not rly dating cuz u dont even rly know what dating is rly all about this whole story seems kinda fishy 2 me but whatever who am i 2 judge

[heeysamantha]

I would wait until she gets into high-school. 3 years in high school to me isn't a big deal. 5 years in high school isn't a big deal to me. But yeah i would definitely wait a bit.. I mean... shes in 6th grade.. thats elementary...

[Kirsi]

Well I started dating my boyfriend when I was 12 and 15 months later we are still together so if you like her and want to ask her out I say it's worth a try. It might not work out as well for you as it has for me so far but you never know until you try. If you feel uncomfortable with the fact that she is 12 and if you think that is too young you could maybe wait a while until she is a little older? But then your chance might slip away. My boyfriend is a year and a half older than me...

[ashdyn]

Going down to date a 12 year old is a bit of a reach. But if you just want to take her out I guess that's okay. I mean you've already been hanging out with her and stuff...obviously enough to develop some kind of attraction to her. There's a difference between going out on a date and dating. You could always just take her out til she's at least a little bit older.

Personally, I wouldn't do it. But I guess I've never met a smokin hot 12 year old before lmao

[tonyforyou]

Personally, I wouldnt date a 13 year old and Im 16. It definently depends on the maturity level. Obviously I'm more mature then a 13 year old. But if she is very mature or you are very immature then go for it. Just know that you will get picked on because as a sophomore dating an 8th grader may cause some rumors.

[tonyforyou]

I would wait until she gets into high-school. 3 years in high school to me isn't a big deal. 5 years in high school isn't a big deal to me. But yeah i would definitely wait a bit.. I mean... shes in 6th grade.. thats elementary...

6th grade is a little too low, its more around 7th or 8th. Most likely 8th though.

[workingatperfect]

ehhh, it kinda depends on your maturity levels.. At 13, I started dating a 16 year old. But, to start, he thought I was 15 when we met. I was also really mature for my age. Sure, people thought it was a little weird once they found out I was so young, but me and him were comfortable with it and he didn't push me to do anything I didn't want to, so it was all good. As long as you respect her boundaries and stuff, you should be good.