first "gay" boyfriend... potentially...maybe?!?!

[aanderso_n]

so I just recently came to terms with myself a being gay, so I've never really been "in love" with another guy before. but there's this really cute kid at school that i see a lot but i don't really know him. two days ago he message me and said he didn't wanted to be rude but was wondering if i was gay. I'm not out yet so i was surprised. So i was honest and said yes, and i suspected he was gay, but he told me he was already out. So we've been chatting a lot lately and i'm not exactly sure if he does, but i hope so!

but we've just been chatting on Facebook about general interests and he asked me about my story. We talked for a while about our ambitions and we have a lot of stuff in common. But sometimes i don't know what to say to him when we're "talking", and i don't want to be awkward or obvious.

Any suggestions on things i can say, or ways to take it a step further? also, for people with experience, how can u tell if he likes u? thanks :)

[Guillermo]

That's great that both of you have a lot in common. And that's also an opening to talk about more things. Talk about dreams you have, classes you have, things you like, music you like, movies you like, etc. There's tons of things to talk about.

If you've only been talking to him for 2 days, however, it'd be difficult and too early to tell if he likes you or not. I don't think you should be worried about this yet, anyway. I think you should just work on being friends with him and building up a relationship there. :)

[aanderso_n]

hah 2 days of relatively non-stop talking can cover a lot

[aanderso_n]

also, idk, i've been rejected a lot and its nice to finally have someone who cares

[FreeFall]

First, you gotta be sure he likes you but from what you're saying so far it can have potential. But are you friend-zoned is the question. I agree, build up your relationship and drop the subtle hints that you have an interest in him. My friend flirted with his bf in, my opinion, a cute little way, by saying how sweet he was and so on and it made him like a happy little bumble bee. It's not so subtle but it worked for them, they've been together 2 years now (:

[aanderso_n]

well we just like to talk to each other at this point, and not just about shallow things, like both of our struggles with coming out.

[Losing Sanity79]

Good for you. I do the exact same thing. I chat up and flirt with my gay guy friends. We talked about hanging out and other stuff.
What I do, if I think my question or statement would be weird, is I ask the question. Right after, I say that they don't have to answer if they think it's weird. Just do what you think is fine! xD

[momo....]

Well i think like when he always talk to u never ignore u laughing at ur jokes and he thinks that ur the best

goodluck :)

[Sean4U]

Don't rush things, continue on the path you are....I think that becoming friends first is the most important....nothing wrong with droppinghints about howyou feel, but let things take their course....As FreeFall said, build up your relationship and drop the subtle hints that you have an interest in him ...

[Danny016]

I think its best if you take things slow and start off has friends and hang out a few times before you ask him out and when your chating on facebook or texting come up with a question to keep things going it always works for me.

good luck dude!!! :)

[inexracercjd]

ya take ur time make sure its the rite thing