My Mom getting on my nerves.

[hey_mister]

So, my mom has been pissing me off a lot lately. Well, first a little about me, I have longish hair, (as seen in my pic) and I wear black jeans and band t-shirts a lot. I also listen to a lot of heavy metal music. My mom always told me to be myself and to not care what other people think. My mom recently made me cut my hair, and she wants me to get rid of all my black clothes. We ended up in a big argument, she told me that people are going to think I worship statan or something and she also said no one will take me seriously, when I know for a fact people do. What is up with her being like this? She tells me to be myself but I can't because people won't take me seriously (according to her). Does anyone else have a mom like this? I really thought she was accepting me for what this and she had no problem with me being who I am, but now she's not?

[Christheman]

i dont have a mom like this but sounds like to me she doesnt except who you are and you must put your foot down. what does your dad think?

[hey_mister]

My dad doesn't care, it's just my mom, she normally wasn't like this until recently.

[Guillermo]

HAHA! Oh my gosh dude, my mom was exactly like this at times to me, also. Several years ago I had a lot of dark (usually black) shirts with either bands or other stuff (like designs and scenes) and she thought I was worshiping Satan or some shit. And then yeah, she made me cut my hair too (she doesn't really care now, though). But you know, moms will be moms. Sometimes they just get over-protective of us or whatever. Of course, we're not going to agree with our moms all the time. You should try to sit down and have a serious talk with her if she persists in trying to change you and your style. Just open up with her. Communication (without loud arguments HAHA) is sometimes the key :)

[hey_mister]

Yeah, I hate the fact she made me cut my hair, I told her it's my hair, and a lot of people like it, and people respect me, and I also told her she doesn't have to listen to my music, so she can't complain about that, and we had a very loud argument than ended up with me throwing my phone at the wall.... I probably could have handled that a little better, but I was fed up with her. I'm probably going to sit down with her and explain that this is who I am, and I'm just trying to express myself, like she once told me to do.

[Guillermo]

Yeah man, I understand. I've had countless arguments with my mom that I'm not proud of because I could have handled them better. That sounds like a good idea. I'm sure she'll eventually understand.

[LatinaVivit]

I believe that your mom has your best interests at heart and will love you no matter what; however, you should look at the situation from her perspective. She wants you to be successful and have a happy life. I would guess that she believes that someone who dresses how you described wouldn't be able to get employed or meet a suitable partner. I somewhat agree with her, but I still respect your individuality. Here's what I suggest to you: go along with her plans until you move out. You won't be at home much longer, once you're an adult, you can make your own decisions.

Remember that your mom loves you and just wants what's best for you. Good luck!

[hey_mister]

I believe that your mom has your best interests at heart and will love you no matter what; however, you should look at the situation from her perspective. She wants you to be successful and have a happy life. I would guess that she believes that someone who dresses how you described wouldn't be able to get employed or meet a suitable partner. I somewhat agree with her, but I still respect your individuality. Here's what I suggest to you: go along with her plans until you move out. You won't be at home much longer, once you're an adult, you can make your own decisions.

Remember that your mom loves you and just wants what's best for you. Good luck!

It just confused me, since she was fine a few months ago, but all of a sudden she's like this, it might just be a stage or something. She told me I would never get a job, when I already have one.

[Foamy]

Little out of it recently? She either got this way because people were giving their two cents about you "worshiping Satan" or shit like that and wants to keep her reputation intact. Or she just wants to she if you'd change at all. As if you were in some type of phase yourself.

[Christheman]

try asking your father for help even if he doesnt care

[LikeAJay]

yeah my mom the smae way and my grandmo.I belevie they are like this because of the era they were born in. But they had long hair.I guess she doesnt want you to be like it was back then.She gets on me like that to and i told here to stop and she did

[dontfiguremeout]

Well then calmly tell her that she said that you can be what you want to be, and don't let anyone change your mind, and so there she is violating what she said, plus technically she just lied to you if she really meant to say that. And if doesn't work out, you can prove to her she is wrong, or give some slack and not wear all those t-shirts everyday, and wear them like every other to every 2 days or so, so you can wear a couple nice blank v-necks.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Ur mom is just trying 2 help b thankful u hav a mom. I argue with my mom but I luv her. Many homeless people don't have moms. So yeah I'm sorry she's pissin u off but b thankful u hav her. :cool:

[redknight]

she ur mom, maybe she thinking about other people and how they look at u for looking odd. maybe she think she a bad mother and this is ur way at getting back at her for what she did too, but she ur mom so she going to love u no matter what dude

[Gandalf]

It just confused me, since she was fine a few months ago, but all of a sudden she's like this, it might just be a stage or something. She told me I would never get a job, when I already have one.

This probably sounds odd, but I mean it with best intentions, maybe she is changing and with that her opinion of what you should be like...

A certain word comes to mind but I don't want to say it because it may have nothing to do with what you just said. (If that makes sense)

Like you say, sit down and talk, tell her it's just your rock band's and stuff and that it's all harmless. Maybe she'll understand.

[OregonStateDude]

Does anyone else have a mom like this?

Yeah, my mom has her own sense of paranoia. She's really over-protective to me and my brother, and it gets annoying at times.

My best friend lives about 1/2 mile from me, so I just walk there when we do sleepovers at his place. And my mom wants me to call as soon as I get there. I've tried to explain to her that the odds of some sex offender kidnapping me on the way there are next to nothing, but she won't budge. If I don't call her, then she calls me and scolds me.

I don't drink alcohol, I don't smoke or use drugs, and I don't wear heavy metal clothes. So there's no reason for her not to trust me, but she's still a worry-wart (she doesn't know I'm gay yet, but that's a whole different thing).

With my brother (he's 11), he's not allowed off our block unless I am with him.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mom to death. I just wish she would give me more wiggle room. :confused: