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Xcj4X
July 16th, 2012, 01:27 PM
Hi,
Now let me set one thing straight before I am called an athiest and so on. I am Christian, and I used to serve the church. So now that I got that out of the way, here's my problem with my best friend.

My friend Josh went to some religious youth camp for a week. Now that he is back, he is acting extremely weird. He "was" gay, but he completely turned on everything he believed in with that subject. He also threw away his dream jobs to go preach around the world. The only thing he talks about is Jesus and the Bible... and he's getting rid of his facebook (which is extremely weird). It seems like he's a completely different person. He also said that he has "seen hell" while he was there.

Really, it feels like I lost my best, and closest friend, to this. He's completely different, doesn't talk about the same things, doesn't act the same... and he honestly talks like a robot. I was talking to him on the phone, and I had to even pull out a bible to understand everything he was saying.

So, that being said... I want you guys to know that I am very accepting of other peoples beliefs. I am just frustrated how he has changed like this in only a week of being away... he seriously sounds like a drone or something.

Any ideas as to what I should do? I talked to a few others and they feel like he was likely just "brainwashed" while he was there. I just want my old friend back... who fought for what he believed in, and didn't give up on finding love one day and giving up on his dreams.

StoppingTime
July 16th, 2012, 01:33 PM
Usually, when people do what he did, there isn't coming back any time soon. Yes, one could argue that he may have been said "brainwashed" but I am not one to judge. This is the direction he chose for his life right now. However, you cannot just switch your sexual orientation. You can mask it, which is what he seems to be doing, but I don't believe you can just change it.
I don't think you really should try to "bring him back" so to say, seeing as it will only lead to more problems.

Xcj4X
July 16th, 2012, 05:03 PM
Well, he found out I was talking to another friend about it. Now he is pretty angry at me and refuses to talk to me. :(

StoppingTime
July 16th, 2012, 05:09 PM
Honestly, even though you shouldn't have been speaking about him behind his back (not trying to sound Holier than Thou, I end up doing this as well sometimes, as does basically everyone), I would just leave him alone for a awhile. Even though he was your best friend, now, he doesn't even seem to be worth your time.