Masturbating with Friends

[BUENA]

HI,

I am new to virtualteen and I have alot of questions and here's one of them. I am 16 years old straight male and I live in CA. I am with the waterpolo team and I play the trumpet. One day when I was in the locker room changing into my speedos before the game starts, one of my straight teamates ask me if I wanted to be part of a circle jerk (masturbating with his friends and some teamates) after the game. I was not sure want to say, so I said nothing. I wanted to say yes but I was afraid that it might turn me gay if I did it.

What should I do? Should I say No/yes the next time he asks? Should I say Yes/No if he doesn't ask the next time? What usualy happens in a circle jerk? Is it gay to want to be in a circle jerk and want to compare sizes?

There is this one teammate, and every time he wears his speedo, he always has a big bulge. At times you can see the length of PEN15, and its always about 4" non-erect. I will like to see it erect.

DOes this mean I am turning gay?
I hope not, I had gone out with 2 chicks and I'm in a relationship with one right now. And love every thing about girls.
I don't see myself in my future to be in a relationship with a male.



Please answer my questions I know it is alot.

Thanks

-BUENA

[Bobby]

No, your not gay if you are experimenting with him, and don't feel bad if you do. It's a thing many people do, and most of them are just curious. And your not turning gay, it's to early to label yourself.

[waldor]

First of all that is your choice on whether to do it or not and i dont think we are supposed to give advice on that sort of thing but it does not make you gay to want to compare sizes. It is only natural that you want to see how your peers are compared to you. Its called the curiosty stage and most guys will grow out of it by your age but there is always the chance that you are gay or bi and if you are then there is not much you can do to change it. But dont worry most likly it is just curiosity. If you find that you have no sexual interest in girls then you might be gay. If you have sexual interest with both guys and girls you might be bi or curious. If you are not sexually attracted to guys then your are likly to be straight.

if you are having gay tendencies but find them gross then chances are you are just curious about what other guys got down there and that ou are straight.

[MoveAlong]

1) Just comparing sizes is natural. You're probably wondering how you compare and you're curious of how the other guys are. That doesn't make you gay, because you're still like girls, right? If you do, how can you be gay? :P

2) It's anyone's guess whether someone "turns" gay. Who knows, you could turn out bi...but this whole thing doesn't really mean you're gay. You're just curious, and that's something that at least 95% of guys go through!

I say no worries man

[underoath12192]

Your not gay, and it is quite normal to know how long another guy is. As for circle jerking...I wouldnt suggest it. It could start some gay thoughts so if your afraid of the gay thing, I'd stay away from it.

[saintersin2007]

i say if u want to, go for it, if you dont, stay away, just b'se u go in a jerk circle doesnt mean ur gay, u may be curious, or maybe just plain horny

[HopeScratchMcDougal]

i say if u want to, go for it, if you dont, stay away, just b'se u go in a jerk circle doesnt mean ur gay, u may be curious, or maybe just plain horny

Th't is a LOT of apo'phes.

And to stay on topic...

If you really want to do it, then go ahead. Every man's a little gay as it is.

[TeenGuy512]

I'm straight as can be and have j/o w/ other guys - it's all about the feeling for me, not the person doing it.

[byee]

I don't think you can 'turn gay', in much the same way that a gay can't 'turn straight'. You are who you are, regardless of the sexual experiences you might have (or want to have). Likewise, there's a diff between having an urge (like wanting to compare), and experiencing yourself as 'gay'. One's about curiosity, maybe a lttle competitiveness, the other's about how you see yourself and other people, who'd you want to have a relationship with. it's a lot different.

Eventhough a certain amount of curiosity and same sex play is normal, you might also want to take into consideration how you'll feel afterwards. Alot of times, guys are just so horny that they cannot stop and consider the potential consequences of whatever it is that they so urgently want to do, but it's those after effects that most remember. So, if you're not the type to feel okay doing something that 'seems gay' (eventhough it doesn;t make you gay), then you might choose to not do those things. Sometimes, curiosity is easier to live with!

[Jon1937]

ive never been to a circle jerk, but u have jo'ed w/a friend b4, it was just experimenting, im not gay or anything, just a lil curious...

[1234]

It's all curiosity from the hormones dude, nothin' to worry about. :)

[Maverick]

Ok I think this has went on enough. We don't allow promotion of this and that's what this thread is turning into. Posts of that nature have been deleted.

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