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[bigfoot]

my dad was an achoholic from when i was 3 till last year.he came home drunk nearly every night and i had hundred of terrible expiereinces with his drinking.anyways... when i see achohol now i get this terrible feeling.i start sweating.i get a headache and cant breathe.i want to literally run away.but when i am offered it i get mad.extremly mad.i want to punch whoever is trying to make me drink.i dont want to end up like my dad.one time i was with friends and i thought i was drinking coke.it was spiked with something.i almost started crying when i realized i was drinking achohol.i felt guilty for weeks after that.how can i not feel this way around achohol.my friends drink.alot of my family drinks.im starting to avoid them.what should i do?

[Dreaming Cannibal]

Drinking is your decision. If someone offers you a drink just say no, there's no need to get mad since probably most of the people that offer you drinks usually do not know the story behind your family. Alcoholism is an addiction to alcohol. Addictions are preventable if you put your mind into it. Drinking a few times a year isn't alcoholism, nor is it detrimental to your health. Drinking alcohol isn't bad, some people do it for fun, other do it to sort of "fit in" and others get addicted to it. Your family history will not dictate your path. If you do not desire to drink don't. If you do not want the mistaken spiked drink issue to happen again, serve yourself your own drinks and do not leave it unattended. You shouldn't feel guilty, yes alcohol increased the problems that existed in your family but it isn't the sole cause of it. I can't offer some advice to make you feel more comfortable around alcohol but its in your hands the decision to not drink it.

[bigfoot]

my family offered me the acholhol.i really feel like i cant have friends that drink.i would lose all of them though...even my girlfriend drinks.its shouldnt fucking scare me.

[Dreaming Cannibal]

Fear is a normal reaction. So what if your family offered? just say no smile and walk away.

[bigfoot]

well thank you for the advice.do you have any expierience with acholohic parents?jeez i sound so stupid.

[bigfoot]

even thinking about achohol worries me too.my dad threatened to start drinking again the other day...how could he do thats to me!!he said im driving him to it.damnit its not my fault!!he has made me freaking crazy!!i cant be with my family because they drink!!i went to the beach with close friends and stayed for a week.they got wasted every night.i hate that they try to get me to drink after all ive been through with achohol.i hate that.once my dad ran me over with an atv while he was drunk.another time he shot our dog!! thank god i wasnt old enough to remember!!one time he came into my room and threw my stuff everywhere.he then grabbed me and held me on the bed hugging me whispering"im sorry. i dont mean to do this.i love you.over and over.then he fell asleep (passed out) on top of me.i dont even know why im ranting about this?

[bigfoot]

i havent told anyone... maybe i should.i dont know.my dad would look down on me if i did.