Life passing me by...

[Gandalf]

I think lately I am becoming increasingly aware of the fun others are having and I feel like socially and mentally I am getting left behind, I guess the problem is that I don't hang out that often with anybody outside of school and then feel like life is passing me by.

I am not wallowing in self pity, but I just occasionally wish that somebody would reach out to me and actually help me change and improve my life, because it seems like this all the time.

It seems obvious: "Join a club" Go out and meet new people (I want to badly. But where?
Near me there aren't any I know of where there are people with similar interests. Ok, Air cadets but I can't get there twice a week since my mum doesn't drive and the buses don't go up there frequent enough or at all after 6PM.

I would prefer something a bit less formal anyway. As usual I'm stuck with the problem on my own because I certainly don't know how to bring the subject up with anybody or who I'd even share this with. (Not just specifically air cadets but my desire too meet new people in general.)


Anyway, this is what is depressing me lately and as usual I really appreciate any ideas and help available on here.

[ImCoolBeans]

Being left alone and left out of plans can be pretty depressing if it goes on for a while - I know how that feels. The only way to fix it is to do something yourself. Nobody is going to waltz over and start including you in everything they do. You need to take the first step and ask somebody to hangout, since that seems to be what you're looking for. Ask somebody who you're friendly with. Get to know them a bit, hangout with them and start to build a friendship with them. That's what I did in 8th grade, I was 14 and had basically no friends because the crappy ones I had decided one day that they didn't like Mike anymore. But I got myself over it and made new ones, which is what you also need to do if you want friends and want to be included in their plans.

[Gandalf]

Being left alone and left out of plans can be pretty depressing if it goes on for a while - I know how that feels. The only way to fix it is to do something yourself. Nobody is going to waltz over and start including you in everything they do. You need to take the first step and ask somebody to hangout, since that seems to be what you're looking for. Ask somebody who you're friendly with. Get to know them a bit, hangout with them and start to build a friendship with them. That's what I did in 8th grade, I was 14 and had basically no friends because the crappy ones I had decided one day that they didn't like Mike anymore. But I got myself over it and made new ones, which is what you also need to do if you want friends and want to be included in their plans.

I don't ask anybody to waltz over to me, I never expected anybody to
That's what I'm trying to do, I try and help myself but it never works :\ Anyway I'm not after sympathy so I just have to make an extra effort. :)

Thanks Mike, I appreciate this.