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[WakaWaka]

Because I get depressed, everyone at school has a fixed view of me. They all think I am constantly grumpy which I a not. This really annoys me and to be honest, I have just completely lost the will to live. Any advice? Please

The only thing i can say is that it isnt really affecting how well i do at school

[ImCoolBeans]

Well do you present yourself in a grumpy manner? Because that would explain why people have that view of you stuck in their heads. If you act grumpy or seem unhappy all of the time people will notice it, it's not so easy to hide. Try being friendlier and see if that makes a difference - if not right away then it's just a start.

[WakaWaka]

It has already got to the point where people that aren't friends with me go out of their way to avoid me. I dont try to be grumpy. I am fine with my friends though(out of the prople I can actually call friends). They understand me and no one else does

[StoppingTime]

If you have friends who understand you, then don't worry about anyone else. Who cares what they think of you; you've never even met half of them. It sounds like these kids believe whatever they hear, and if this is how they are going to act, don't value their opinion; they don't deserve it.
What exactly is causing all this?

[Sudds3]

Hey Adam! Im Adam, nice to meet you! Do you think you could try maybe just pushing everything aside for a while and let life take over for a day? It comes with its goods and it's bads, and sometims things happen that are so bad that you feel it's not even worth it to let yourself live....? Maybe? But these are all just temporary problems! It will go away...I promise! But for now you can change your reputation with a little effort, it may be unpleasant at some times, but if you really want to change it then it will be completely wor it. Hope it helped! Probably didn't but it's worth putting out there I guess!

-Adam

[WearAngels]

I think you should have to try to be okay or just a normal act in front of people for them not to see you as grumpy and that's it. It is not bad to be expressive when it comes to showing what you feel right now but you have to limit yourself. Misconception of others do really annoying.

[Amaryllis]

You have a several options here:

a) Explain. You suffer from depression. It's hard to pretend you're happy when you're not. Tell them you're trying your best and you understand if they don't want to hang around you when you're sad but tell them you'd greatly appreciate it if they helped and stuck with you through this rough patch.

b) Go for the I'm-awesome-and-I-don't-give-a-damn look. It works for my best friend. Everyone wants to be her friend cause they think she's cool as hell. Then again, she's pretty funny but it could work for you.

c) Make yourself cheerful. I've done this for the past 4 years. It can be tiring but you get used to it and eventually you just kind of -convince- yourself you're cheerful. My face falls and my act drops when I think no one's looking, though. Do this if you feel you can keep it up.

d) Don't give a poo. They can think what they want, it's not your problem. Be truthful to yourself. If you feel like crap, you do. You don't need the approval of everyone to be happy and unless it does, don't bother.

e) Change, adapt and thrive. Do your best to not be depressed. I find distracting myself helps. It takes a bit of lying to yourself but there're moments when you can forget the pain. Laugh, read self-help books, speak to a counsellor. Help yourself. You should do this whatever option you pick, anyway. It's hard and it doesn't always go right but at least you'll know you tried. Hell, never stop trying. Survival of the fittest, you know? You seem like a tough guy, so do everything you can to live the live you want to live.

Of course, these aren't the only options. You know what's best, listen to your gut and heart and head and others - then decide for yourself.

Love,
Amaryllis

[Sol90]

Make sure you're not coming off as depressice.