How does a 13yr knows he is gay

[Lock]

so the question is self explanatory.shoot me what you think

[Short Circuit]

If your physically attracted to boys, then the chances are you are gay. Although some say its just a phase most boys go through, you should be able to tell deep down if it is boys or girls that you would like to date.

[StoneColdNicky]

If your physically attracted to boys, then the chances are you are gay. Although some say its just a phase most boys go through, you should be able to tell deep down if it is boys or girls that you would like to date.

This is true. For a long time, I kept thinking "It's just a phase, I'll grow out of it," but then I started thinking, this has been a long phase. Maybe this is just how I am.

[Cognizant]

If your physically attracted to boys, then the chances are you are gay. Although some say its just a phase most boys go through, you should be able to tell deep down if it is boys or girls that you would like to date.

This.

[Human]

you just know inside

[FullyAlive]

As this isn't really puberty you'll find more relevant responses here
:arrow2: teen sexuality

[SkeptiqL]

You just know. Try and picture yourself living with a guy with a kid and all. If you can picture that they'd you like it chances are you're gay or bi :)

[fast8]

just give it time u will know for sure

[Silver Fox]

If you are only physically attracted to guys, your probably just curious, but if you are both emotionally and physically attracted to a guy you are probably gay but if you are also emotionally and physically attracted to girls you might be bisexual! Can you picture yourself with a guy? Can you see yourself getting married to another guy? Can you see yourself kissing a guy? If you answered yes to those questions you are probably gay and if those questions were for girls did you answer yes? If so, then you are likely to be Bi but if you answered No you are probably Straight. Also, I highly recommend waiting a year or so before deciding what your sexuality is, because you never know, it might just be a phase. And only come out when your comfortable! :D

[Sean4U]

well everything that has been said is pretty much it....your attraction both physically, emotionally, mentally is towards other guys....picture yourself with another guy all the time...and also give it time...your young things may change ...but whatever just be yourself do what feels right for you

[OregonStateDude]

For me, I just knew deep down inside. By 13, I had already started puberty and I started to have feelings for other boys. Not just sexual feelings, but emotional feelings as well. What clinched it was this girl in my math class kept flirting with me, and it didn't excite me at all (in that way).

So I believe I was always gay, and that the start of puberty just unlocked the door for me.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

What has already been said. I just knew I was bi.

[LatinaVivit]

There's just something inside where you know it. Some people are in denial and don't accept it or "understand" it until later.

[Fourth Dimension]

you just know its what you feel inside

[ImCoolBeans]

It's a pretty good question because it can take quite a while for one to figure out their sexuality. However, some are more aware of it at a younger age than others. I knew that I was gay from a younger age, I'd say 13 or 14, however I really did not want to admit it to myself and I didn't accept it at all until recently; but it was always a thought lingering in the back of my head. I knew because I had no strong feelings for girls, and I really never found myself physically attracted to them either. If I had known about sexuality and what I know about it now when I was 7 or 8 I probably would have come to the consensus that I was gay also, even at that young of an age. While other people were having "crushes" on girls at school, and being mean to girls because they liked them, I felt that was about other boys I knew. So it definitely is possible to know your sexuality at 13 - it just depends on how much said 13 year old knows about sexuality and if they accept it or not.

[Smeagol]

I liked little girls emotionally from a young age. When everybody had imaginary boyfriends, I had an imaginary girlfriend, starting when I was seven. I dunno, I guess it's because I have lesbian aunts and I was like, "Wow! That makes so much more sense to me!". Good luck finding out who you are, it's a process, but it's well worth it :3

[KenBoy6]

Maybe its just a long phase

[fast8]

i say dont worry about knowing that now at that age u will fine out later on just enjoy

[Thunder1117]

I think one knows when they are ready, if you know, you know. :)

[ImCoolBeans]

Maybe its just a long phase

No, it's not "just a long phase". I've come to terms and acceptance with my sexuality and it's a part of my life. It's something that you can't and won't understand unless you've gotten to that point I suppose.

[Mysterious Skin]

Trust me, he doesn't. From experience when your at that age, everything you think or do that's not normal you think ( or want to anyway) it's a "phase" and it will all go away. 9 times out of 10, it doesn't. And all those thoughts you were scared of those many years ago become who you are.

[dan8854]

he doesn't! give yourself time :)

[MartyG]

I agree with most of what has been stated here if we are talking about defining "gay" as attraction only to guys. If a 13 y/o feels that....chances are it is not going to change....and like others have said...."deep inside he knows"....

However; bi folks get a different answer from me. Lots of kids feel interest in both sexes.....and as they grow one side will become predominant. Certainly there are lots of people here who felt attractions to guys at one time...and went on to have girlfriends and hetereo relations....

HOWEVER......as for "thoughts that we were scared of becoming who we are".....I don't believe that at all. Thoughts are not actions; people think all sorts of things...especially during puberty. I don't think a 13 y/o should be led to fear his "thoughts". Instead; read and educate himself and go on to become a wonderful person.

[alex99Ro]

At the first stage of puberty,almost everything turns you on.You can't really know your sexual orientation from the very beginning.I found out a few months ago: I just like boys and girls

[StoppingTime]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: