My grandpa died yesterday :(

[Kirsi]

Yesterday my grandpa died and today was a visitation and tomorrow is his funeral. I seen him in his coffin at the visitation and he didn't look quite the same and I touched his arm and it was hard and it was a really scary thing to see. Everything is happening too fast and I partly don't feel like it's real. This is the first time I have known somebody who died. I don't really know what to think but I am just too sad and I don't want to do anything anymore. Does this feeling go away how do you handle it when somebody dies? I was really close to my Grandpa I went over for dinner every Tuesday and I am going to miss him terribly! I just want to cry all the time :(

[Breakeven]

aww im sorry about your grandpa :hug:
im here if u need someone to talk too

[FullyAlive]

As cliche as it is time helps, eventually you learn to accept it. I don't think anyone really moves on from the death of a loved one, honestly you'll miss him everyday it'll hurt forever, what you do manage to do with time is learn to cope. You find the ways that help you and you do whatever to allow yourself to grieve and learn to be as okay with it as possible.

I think people underestimate the benefits of talking to your family I know I did, but they lost the same person they loved him just as much and they can empathise you can talk about him share your memories and stories I find it helps to keep him here as oppose to banish him. However my dad lost both his parents at a relatively young age and never speaks about them, that's how he copes you've got to find out how you cope.

Personally I find the funeral helps, gives a but of closure and finally made it real for me. Good luck tomorrow it'll be really difficult I won't lie try and stay strong and remember its not a bad thing to cry. He's okay now. And all you can do is your best. :hug:

[kateastrophe]

It's really hard to deal with when it's the first time to experience death for real, I know from the past. I found that after the funeral you will feel better than you do now because it gives the one you love a nice send off and as strange as it sounds it becomes a celebration of their life rather than only mourning. It won't be easy and can take a lot of time to get over but you have to keep yourself occupied. Whenever you think about it try change the thoughts in your mind, or get a rubix cube or something just to make sure your mind doesn't run too wild too early. Once you can finally face thinking and talking about the situation without getting upset or frustrated it gets a lot easier, trust me. If you want to talk just let me know, it can only get better. :)

[Smeagol]

I'm really sorry Kirsten. I know that it really hurts to lose somebody that you love. I lost my Grandma not too long ago, I still cry about her sometimes.

The ones that we love never truly leave us, their impact is left on our lives, they make us better people. Your Grandpa would want you to live life to the fullest and always remember him, but he wouldn't want his death to make you miserable forever.

Stay strong :hug:

[Maverick]

Its not easy dealing with a death of a loved one for the first time. Almost one year ago I dealt with 2 major deaths within a week and it wasn't easy. Sometimes even today I wonder if its real still but the important thing to know is that you will get through it. The best way to handle it is to stay close to your family and friends during this difficult time. Don't hold your emotions back and just let it all out -- that's normal and healthy thing to do. The storm will pass.

Cherish the memories you have with your grandfather. He's lived a long and full life. Its never long enough but he will live on in your memories and pictures.

[DELETEACCOUNT]

Death is a difficult thing to deal with especially for a first time, but don't be worried about anything, things will get easier as time passes. The funeral can be upsetting do don't be afraid to cry!

Consider the funeral and funeral tea as a celebration of his life, I'm very sure he would have lived a happy life and that's all you need to think about! Always think of happy memories with your grandad and I'm sure that will make you smile more than anything else!

At my grandads funeral tea we were all in hysterics as we reminisced and I think that's what makes things all the easier, it took me around 3 months to get over an move on with my grandads death and everyday I think of him, I just smile.

Sorry for your loss and I hope the funeral goes/went okay! :hug:

[BlueFoot]

Well its about 2 years since my uncle died but the sadness never really goes away but it does calm over time. I was really close to my uncle as well, we did every thing together. It is really sad at first but after a month or more (depending on how you are emotonaly and how close you are). it took me about 3 months but the sadness never goes away. Now that I think back hard I can remember what he looked like but I can't remember his voice.
Hope you feel better soon.

Sorry about your loss. - Robert

[Sudds3]

My Great Grandma died when I was in Second grade...seeing a loved one who has passed on is one of the worst and most emotional things you can see. There is honestly nothing like it, and no way to explain it. It's like you want them back and would give anything for that, but in your heart you know they are gone and you hope and pray that they are in a better place. my Great Grandma and I were so close, I loved here....her death wasn't very sudden and I know I was blessed to have her for a few years. Also my second dog, Zoey, died shortly after she turned 2. She broke her neck and lived for 7 months in pain and misery until an ordinary Monday when I came home and I recieved the news that we were going to put her down. The dread I felt knowing that my mom was taking her away and I would never see her again was almost unbearable! One hour later my mom returned, empty handed. These loses only make us stronger. You only truly realize your love for something and how much you appreciate it until it has been taken from you. And that has made you a better person, and your Grandpa will be proud of you for being able to know how wonderful he was and being able to move on, stronger, while also keeping his spirit alive in your heart. Hope you feel better, lots of love!

-Adam

[Kirsi]

Thank you everyone. I don't know how long it will take to get back to normal again. I think my mom and my Grandma are the most upset out of everybody and it makes me feel a little bit better to try and cheer them up a little. I am going to miss my Grandpa so much. The funeral was really sad there were a ton of people and everyone cried a lot. We all got together afterwards at my aunts house and went swimming and my younger cousins and sister had fun but everyone else was still pretty sad I think it will take a long time.

[bigfoot]

im sorry.when i lost my grandma i was upset for a few weeks but it slowly got better.after a year or so youll be able think back to time with your grandpa and not feel so bad.

[Stronger]

First off, sorry this reply is late...but anyway...

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, you never know how to brace yourself for a family death till you actually experience it. For me, my grandma died, it was a rough week, but the key things are, let your emoitions out, don't hold them in, laugh and joke about the good times you had with him, I know its hard at first, its like an empty hole inside of you, but think about him each day, and never stop loving him.

Another thing that helped us, was me, my mom, brother and sister, all got tattoos in her honor, a few days after she passed, that brought us closer and help us get past of her passing; maybe you don't have to get a tattoo, but just do things with your family, that cheer you up.

[Kirsi]

Thank you guys. My family is usually pretty close but this week everyone is going their separate ways and I keep getting left home alone. I think my mom is the most upset about it and I really hope we can get back to normal soon.

[DELETEACCOUNT]

I can assure you things will get easier with time, I'm sure you'll think of your grandad everyday but with time the pain becomes less and less although it doesn't look that way yet. My grandad died three years ago in December now the first half of 2010 I cried myself to sleep and ll sorts, now I just smile remember and carry on!

My mum and granny were most upset aswell and it was difficult seeing them both cry, maybe it would be a good idea to take your mum and granny for a day out somewhere to try and take there minds off things?

However stay strong and things will become easier!

[West Coast Sheriff]

I'm so sorry. This hurts terribly but will eventually leave. My great grandma used to watch me and take care of me. I was depressed for weeks but what I was told is that it may be a sunset for you but it is a sunrise for them. He is in heaven and is in peace.

[president1234]

Sorry for your lose.

[WearAngels]

In time you will overcome that feeling and you will be getting a recovery over the incident of yours. You will see sooner, you will be in the happy thoughts that things happened for a reason. In other words, your grandpa live in another life which is considerably an infinity. Condolence anyways !

[AnnaAbbey]

Aww I'm so sorry.. Don't worry please. he's always with you just you can't see.. :* R.I.P <3.

[William_Evans]

I am really sorry, and
he's always with you just you can't see.. :* R.I.P <3.

[xAmber]

I feel you, my grandad past away a few months ago. I used to be very close to him. But please please talk to someone about your feelings, if you want you can talk to me. But don't let this lead to depression, cutting or any other thing. That what happened to me and I'm still trying to stop. I'm sorry RIP

[jegoss02]

been through the same thing lately too. i think its the worst feeling in the world but like others have said, you get passed it and learn to accept. there are like seven steps to grieving and denial is the first one

[Kirsi]

So much has been going on and I can't believe it has already been 3 weeks since my Grandpa passed away. I still miss him so much! At first I felt like I would never be happy again or that it would at least take a long time to be happy again but I am surprised that I am already starting to be happier again. My sister finding out she is pregnant and telling my parents she is pregnant it has been hard to think about being sad with all that going on so I guess it has turned out to be a good thing in a way. I feel guilty that it seems I am able to move on so quickly..

[Loreley]

I'm sorry for your grandpa :(
Fortunately, until now, I haven't experienced a death in my family.
I think the best solution is the time. Life goes on and with the passage of time, you will start to forget it. It's difficult, I know, but there is nothing else you can do. Just carry on your life and be happy again :).

[Spreadingwings]

cry if you need to it helps, but don't let the void eat you. Something that helped me was this quote-"I live in you and you live in me, we are together even when we can not see." I wish you love ang healing:)

[Heavyrain4life]

I really am sorry about your grandfather. I know what your feeling though. My little brother was murdered three years ago. There really is no "getting over it" but, as Louise said earlier, there are ways of coping. Just stay strong, and dont go down any bad paths.

[PinkFloyd]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you're going through.

PM me if you need someone to talk to :)

[Levy]

I'm quite sorry.