Gay without experience?

[unknowndane]

Is it possible to know that you're gay, without having any gay experience?

[Sonic Boom]

As in a gay experience with someone else? Yes, for sure. You don't necessarily need a sexual encounter to realize your sexuality.

[unknowndane]

As in a gay experience with someone else? Yes, for sure. You don't necessarily need a sexual encounter to realize your sexuality.

I'm just wondering this, because I have a friend that was uncertain about his sexuality, and he experimented with his friend. His is now 100% straight. : /

[Sonic Boom]

You don't necessarily need a sexual encounter to realize your sexuality.

They can possibly help in understanding your sexuality. It really depends on the person.

[unknowndane]

They can possibly help in understanding your sexuality. It really depends on the person.

Yeah, I guess : / Thanks.

[turtleman]

Before taking any action, try experimentation. Honestly, hormones can really confuse you during puberty.

[SkeptiqL]

I disagree with the guy above me. You don't need to try experimentation nor does it help you decide any more in my opinion. I have never experimented and I have known since I was 11. Most gay guys know on and off from a certain age really :). Gay guys I talk to have known from like 10 years old whereas others have known from 14 years old it all depends on you :). Puberty is an issue so consider whether you liked guys when you weren't in puberty it could help you :)

[Harley Quinn]

Before taking any action, try experimentation. Honestly, hormones can really confuse you during puberty.

This can work in some people's situations, however for most, no you don't need 'gay' experience. I'm a lesbian, but didn't experiment - some people try the dating someone of the opposite sex to see if you're really gay. I suppose you could say I did that. It can be like that for others, but some people just know what they are. It can help you realise what you are if you do experiment though, because you'll know what you really want.

[LiamC]

Of course, I'm the same but the fact a guy gets it up for me and not a girl says it all. And it's guys asses I stare at rather than girls tits or w/e. I'm just attracted to guys and that's it, whether I've had sex or not, or even whether I've kissed one or not.

[OregonStateDude]

I knew I was gay, even before I ever put my hand on another guy's wang. How did I know? It's hard to describe, but it was just some deep inner feeling I had.

[LatinaVivit]

Of course! Let's take a look at the reverse: how do straight people know they're straight if they haven't done anything with another guy/girl? The same applies to gays and lesbians.

[Maverick]

Of course! Let's take a look at the reverse: how do straight people know they're straight if they haven't done anything with another guy/girl? The same applies to gays and lesbians.
That is true.
However an experience can allow you to determine your sexuality much sooner as it can clear a lot of confusion.

[unknowndane]

Well, thanks for all the input guys :) But I think we can conclude that hormones can really confuse you :I

[Twilly F. Sniper]

No. You don't. I knew I was bi before puberty (at the age of 12 to be specific) I knew I was bi without experience because I started falling in love with one or two at my school. Really experimentation would help determine if the assumption is true. In my case I just know, especially after experimenting with myself ;) To get this straight, Yes, hormones can confuse people, but they aren't confusing me. I'm sure of my sexuality even though my preferences change from time to time. I do not agree with needing sexual experience. That does help, however sexuality is more complicated. It also involves which gender you are romantic towards or more romantic towards. There are people who are romantic to men and women but sexually attracted only to women. I think it's called a bi-romantic.

[Sean4U]

I have been attracted to guys way before puberty set in. Its really something you know inside and yes puberty does cloud the issue....but its hard to explain it is something you just go thru. I like what was said above about thinking about the reverse....how do str8 boys know that they are str8....its just the way they feel when with someone....guys that are gay are much more comfortable...emotionally and mentally...then the physical happens...

[fast8]

yea its just something u know in side

[KenBoy6]

Its possible

[Thunder1117]

yes, if you feel that you like the same sex as yourself, you could be gay, you do not need to have an experience to have this happen to you. :)

[hey_mister]

I don't think you really need to have experience to know you're gay, but it could help a lot, like other users said, hormones can really make you confused, just make sure you know for a fact that you're also emotionally attracted to guys, not just sexually.