Concerned about my sexuality

[robert92]

hi... i'm new here 2 starts so im not exactly sure what i'm doing but i'm posting here for a reason so i'll just say..

ok... recently i think i have realized that i " like " my best mate, i should start by saying that he is not str8 he says he is either gay or bi and he knows that, anyway i keep thinking bout him alot and phantisise(spellin sucks soz) bout doin "stuff" with him yet, i have told him i'm not sure what i am and am rather confuzzed, he does not know that i " like " him in that way, however my big dilema is i hav a gf who i have been out with twice, the first time i generally loved her however now i am not so sure, and i think she knows i mite be confusses or she may generally think i am gay..
i am not really sure what i am, i could just be curious with these fantasies however i am not sure i think i may be gay/bi...
are there any suggestions to help me with this cus i am generally stuck.

[Maverick]

If you're confused I'd say wait before labeling yourself. There's no rush. You don't need to label yourself right away because you might label yourself prematurely and you don't want to go back and fourth. Just for now, keep an open mind and when you become more sure of yours sexuality then label yourself.

As long as you're with your girlfriend I say you should stay faithful to her and don't go off and do things with your friend. It may just be hormones making you feel that way or you could be gay/bi. Time will tell.

Just do what feels right. If it's not working out with your girlfriend then end it. But don't go around and do both, it's not right in my opinion.

You may be gay, bi, straight, or it could be hormones, Worry until you're older before labeling yourself.

[what the?]

I agree with Anthony, don't worry too much about what you are. Trust me, I know how frustrating it can be, but that's all part of being a teenager. I also agree that you should stay faithful to your girlfriend while you're still dating. Be honest with her, tell her about your doubts and worries, she'll respect you more for doing so :)

Good luck to ya man!

[robert92]

I agree with Anthony, don't worry too much about what you are. Trust me, I know how frustrating it can be, but that's all part of being a teenager. I also agree that you should stay faithful to your girlfriend while you're still dating. Be honest with her, tell her about your doubts and worries, she'll respect you more for doing so :)

Good luck to ya man!

as i said in my previous post i told my best mate about the unsure of what i am stuff, he told me to tell my girlfriend and i did, it didn't go down well at all, there was alot of well :mad: <that . we r still together now but i think she knows i am still insure, so im little stuck there...

but ty for your comments, i will think aboutwhat you said. :)

[Maverick]

Yeah I can understand with her that she may react that way. It's kinda the last thing you want to hear in a relationship. Just decide if you want to stay with her or end it so you can explore your sexuality more. Those are pretty much your options.

[robert92]

ok cheers

[mchboy1]

Well, first off lets open with being gay or bi takes time to relize (im still figuring it out) but it is perfectly fine to be. I think you should let things play out a little longer and take more of an observant look. If you really want to try something with your friend, go for it, but be safe about it... And for the gf thing, try it out with her (if ur both ok with it). Remember, you have your whole life to figure things out, and if an oppurtunity comes along for "experimenting", take it.

[Fourth Dimension]

well good luck i have had the same issure sorta

[bowlheadhere]

Why do you feel as though you have to be something (straight/gay/bi)? From what you have said, I see you to be kind of like me. You are the kind of person who is really just looking for love. With taht said, you should just keep your mind open to every and all things. Do you have a problem with possibly finding love with a guy?

I have another question... Why do you like your "best mate" (which I am guessing means friend?)? I am just curious.

During puberty we are not able to determine who we truely love and what orientation we are because there are so many hormones rushing through our bodies. Most of us make the mistake of "loving someone" when in reality they fell in love with the idea of love.

As for your girlfriend, you just need to do what you think you need to do. I do not really know you (nor does anyone on here) so we can not honestly/truthfully tell you what you should do. I dont think that anyone can really tell you waht you should do because you have feelings for her and you are the only one who really knows what is going on in your mind and why you have feelings for her. You just need to really sit down and think about what is the best thing for you to do at this point in time. If you really really do like your "best mate" (friend i think?) then I would break up with your girlfriend. It is not right to be dating two different people and living a double life.

Those are just my thoughts... I hope I helped a little?