Asking Someone Out after waiting a while for them to Recover from their Ex

[BrassMonkey]

I have a close friend who Im madly in love with (If you read my previous posts, then you would know the situations that leads to this). I have been in love with her a for a while, even when she was going out with a jerk. She just broke up with her ex because he hurt her mentally by things he said and done. She was madly in love with him, but she took a good week to think about things that has happened, so she broke up with him for the good. Now, she just broke up with him and I have my chance to ask her out. The thing is, I know she is going to wait before going out with someone else. I mean, she just broke up with her ex a few days ago, and she is a big Christian and so am I, so she wouldnt go out with anyone like right after she just broke up with someone. Anyways, I really want to ask her out, but I dont know when I should. I dont want to make myself look like a deuce by asking her out right after she just broke up with someone, but I also dont want to wait too long to ask her out. I think she might would go out with me because she was talking to her mom about her boyfriend at the time about him doing and being things to fix their relationship, and her mom looked her in the face and said do you want him to be more like Bryce (me), and then my friend is like yes since you put it that way. I really hope she does go out with me when I ask her out, Im just tired of not being able to go out with the person Im madly in love with. She is everything I have looked for, I think about her everyday, and we have a lot in common. I just really want to ask her out now that I have a chance, but I dont know how long I should wait.

[Noirtier]

You may not like hearing this, but personally I would wait a couple weeks after they broke up, maybe even up to a month. Because if she was "madly in love" with him, it would take some time to recover from the breakup. You could take the chance and ask now, but (this is just me) I personally wouldn't yet.

[BrassMonkey]

You may not like hearing this, but personally I would wait a couple weeks after they broke up, maybe even up to a month. Because if she was "madly in love" with him, it would take some time to recover from the breakup. You could take the chance and ask now, but (this is just me) I personally wouldn't yet.
Yeah, I knew it would have to be a few weeks. Im not going to take that risk of losing her as a friend after I battled trying to keep her as a friend, long story.

[unnamed94]

You may not like hearing this, but personally I would wait a couple weeks after they broke up, maybe even up to a month. Because if she was "madly in love" with him, it would take some time to recover from the breakup. You could take the chance and ask now, but (this is just me) I personally wouldn't yet.

exactly. it also depends on how serious was their relationship and if she is getting over him relatively fast or not. i would tell you to wait around a month or so. she might still be really hurt about ending her relationship with her ex. about what happened with her mom: she could have said it because she considers you a good friend and because you have a good relationship with her (you treat her nice, etc), so try to see if she actually likes you before doing it

[FreeFall]

Sadly after this being in a relationship after one like that, is probably the furthest thing from her mind right now. You'll have to wait however long it takes for her to get back up on the saddle so to speak, and if you're really madly in love with her that should be worth the wait for you. To see her smile when you ask instead of her thinking back to her ex whom she loved that hurt her and just staring at you.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well what are the coincidence that we share the exact same story?!?!?! Funny thing it happened a couple of days ago for me. Umm but I have a bittersweet story. So I wrote her a poem while she was in the bad relationship, but never expected her to read the poem. And the night she broke up with her boyfriend she said she was completely done, and I accidentally said I was thinking, and we went on for a half hour talking about why I don't think she was ready to listen to my thoughts, but after she said she was 100% sure, and so I sent her the poem that I made for her. She said it was beautiful, and that was the end of that night. So I waited a couple days for her to take in, or so I thought. Next day she was all hippy happy, and back to herself. I was wondering why is she like this? And she said yeah I'm not ready for a relationship now, but I'm glad the other one ended, and went on. But because of her attitude, gave hope for me, and realized well maybe it's a good thing she knows, because then I know I might get the opportunity next, instead of getting hurt watching her go into another relationship. So just tell the girl, I know you don't wanna be in a relationship right now, but here are my feelings for you. Then let go, and don't talk to her for a little, so she can take it in.

[BrassMonkey]

Thanks Guys for the help guys! When I do, how do you think I should ask?

[dontfiguremeout]

Honestly just talk to her in person. Tell her how you feel about her, and if she ends up liking you too, then ask her, and if she ends up not liking you like that, then it was a try, but then at least she knows how you feel about her.

[unnamed94]

Honestly just talk to her in person. Tell her how you feel about her, and if she ends up liking you too, then ask her, and if she ends up not liking you like that, then it was a try, but then at least she knows how you feel about her.

exactly. just ask her out like you would ask any girl out. its finally up to you to ask her. you know her so you should have a good idea of how she would like you to.