How do you cope with something?

[Cognizant]

How do you cope with grief?

Usually for me, and I hate to admit it, I try to seek out as much attention from people as possible. And 1/3 the time it's self-wallowing, 1/3 the time it's just normal talking, and 1/3 of the time i'm arguing/fighting with someone :/

Also, I eat...a lot. Mostly sugar. Recently, I've been considering exploring our wine collection too.

[Noirtier]

I eat, eat, and eat some more :/ And I go to people for help to try and cheer me up, because I just need someone, but funny thing is anyone I ever go to doesn't really care and most of the time just abandons me, making it worse. So I eat some more :/ And I started self-harming last month to cope too... And then I usually bash myself too.

[ImCoolBeans]

I usually take it out on myself mentally. That's just the way I am. I'm pretty sure that it's counter-productive and does more harm than good but I don't really know another way for myself.

However, I really hope you pass up on going through the wine and getting drunk. I can speak from experience in saying that drinking to cope with your problems may make you feel okay for the time being, but once you sober up you will regret it quite a bit, and when the problems resurface again you'll wish you had never done it because they're going to hit you like a brick and it could be worse than before you started drinking. It's a very bad habit to get into, and I never recommend it.

I know you've been going through quite a bit lately. You're emotional because of your family situation, your mom, your sexuality, you're fearing acceptance and coming out; but drinking won't make any of this go away and it certainly won't make you feel better, especially the next morning.

If you ever need anything don't hesitate to reach out, bud. I'm always here and always more than willing to help in any way I can. I've been through parents divorce also. My dad cheated and left us when I was a little younger. I can blame a lot of my problems on my dad and his absence; but the real root of my issue now is struggling to stay totally sober or clean. I turned to drinking and drugs to help me cope, and here I am down the road a bit wishing I'd never done it.

You're not alone, Pat. Don't ever feel like you are because I, and the rest of us, are always here for you.

[IcarusLives]

Drinking? Ritalin abuse? Smoking weed?

Man I was an idiot back then.

Now I just drink.

Or if I can get through it healthily... I don't know how I do it. Anti-depressants probably. Honestly I should've been dead ten times over at this rate.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Just take it out a bad way, i cut, and i keep myself from it with will most of the time but ill loose and yeah.

[Sudds3]

This sounds stupid and bad but I always just lock it up inside and not let anyone know about it. I just push it down and let if sit there trying to be as normal as possible while also trying to be as abnormal as possible, if that makes sense! I really don't want people coming into my life and changing things, so I just move everything somewhere and leave everything to myself. That's just me, because I prefer people to just mind their own buisness when it comes to that kind of stuff.

That probably doesn't help much, but that's just how I deal with stuff

[Jimmy Page]

I drink a lot,cut,scream as loud as I can and lock myself inside my room,I used to do drugs to cope,needless to say I don't recommend that to anyone

[Noxail]

I cut, cry, go into a panic attack, and get over it :rolleyes:

[workingatperfect]

First thing I always do is try to get in contact with this one friend of mine. He helps me through sooo much shit, because he listens to me bitch and cry, may offer me a bit of advice, and then tries his best to take my mind off it and make me smile. It's just nice to have someone care about me, and most of the time he makes my problems seem a lot less important than how I'm looking at them.

But, if I can't get a hold of him, I either smoke, cut or just lay in bed and cry for hours. Or if I'm just really mad, I draw until I'm over it.

[loz4]

I just keep it to myself, you've just got to try and deal with life the best you can, though it will effect you, I believe anyone can get past anything

[WearAngels]

In times in griefs, i just don't know how i survived . Maybe because there were a lot i could run into or talk to for accompanied situation. I find myself sharing all my thoughts to others.

[sportyyy]

When I'm depressed I play video games all day. Abs when my parents make me stop I just mentally destroy myself

[CyanideGoodnight]

This sounds stupid and bad but I always just lock it up inside and not let anyone know about it. I just push it down and let if sit there trying to be as normal as possible while also trying to be as abnormal as possible, if that makes sense! I really don't want people coming into my life and changing things, so I just move everything somewhere and leave everything to myself. That's just me, because I prefer people to just mind their own buisness when it comes to that kind of stuff.

That probably doesn't help much, but that's just how I deal with stuff

more or less EXACTLY what I do. I bottle, try to withdraw, and act as normal as possible. However in case I crack I tell people Im upset but don't let them in. Once I was really upset, and told a few close friends, and the next thing I know everyone I know is calling me an attention whore. So now I try not to tell anyone. I do however try to act normal-ish while trying to show people I'm upset though so they can figure it out and help me. If they come to me I wont be an attention whore. However usually the entire withdrawing thing fails, I crack, and explode on someone I care about.

I also eat. I've drank chocolate syrup out of the bottle on MORE then one occasion, and frosting out of a can. Nutella on icecream, too.

And procrastinate. If I pretend the problem isn't there, MAYBE it will go away!

Needless to say, my coping skills aren't great, to say the least