Girlfriend trouble

[Never_Forget]

I have 2 thngs, im not sure if the second proplem is releative to this sub-forum, could a mod tell me if its not? thx ! xx

1. As always, theres this girl who im going out with, but my best friend loves her too, and he admitted hes jealous, i could go as far as to say hes envious.
Anyway, i can tell just how jealous he really is, he'll do anything to get her. heres another thing, my best friend also acts so gay! even my mom says "oh your acting like ????!". my bezzie, yeh he has friends but he really is a puff, i could go as far as to say i think he might turn out gay! anwyay, bak to the main problem, i dont know what i should do! should i spill my heart out to my gf, to my bezzie? help from both girls and guys much appreciated!

2. normally i seem to be pretty popular in school, but aat the end of the summer holidays i start a new school. i know a few people from there, they all seem to hate me because im an emo, i dont know what i should do! i know what i will do if i dont get a better idea, ill just tell them straight, "yeah im an emo and yeah im proud of it!" but i could do with some feedback, is it worth taking the risk???

thx if u reply! xx

[lallous]

I don't know about number one, but I have a LOT of experience with point number two.

When one moves into a new school, they suffer (each time) from (what I call) First Year of School Syndrome (FYOS²). That is, basically, the time needed to get used to the new environment and class/schoolmates.

However, FYOS² can also be painful, or hard to deal with. For example, I had a really hard time fitting into my new school (it was four years ago, but I remember it as if it was more recent.) The fact that I am from the Middle East, wear glasses, etc. helped my new classmates find reasons to tease/annoy me. But I didn't give in or accept any of it, as I [was] comfortable with everything...

To make a long story short, I think that being yourself is the best way to get over FYOS². Your new classmates will have to work with you for at least a trimester, it would be better to get to know you. That's what I think at least.

Also, as the thread is titled "Girlfriend Trouble", along with your second point, it is a bit of a misnomer.
It is, however, definitely a relationship inquiry so I think it belongs in this sub-forum.

[Never_Forget]

I don't know about number one, but I have a LOT of experience with point number two.

When one moves into a new school, they suffer (each time) from (what I call) First Year of School Syndrome (FYOS²). That is, basically, the time needed to get used to the new environment and class/schoolmates.

However, FYOS² can also be painful, or hard to deal with. For example, I had a really hard time fitting into my new school (it was four years ago, but I remember it as if it was more recent.) The fact that I am from the Middle East, wear glasses, etc. helped my new classmates find reasons to tease/annoy me. But I didn't give in or accept any of it, as I [was] comfortable with everything...

To make a long story short, I think that being yourself is the best way to get over FYOS². Your new classmates will have to work with you for at least a trimester, it would be better to get to know you. That's what I think at least.

Also, as the thread is titled "Girlfriend Trouble", along with your second point, it is a bit of a misnomer.
It is, however, definitely a relationship inquiry so I think it belongs in this sub-forum.

Thanks for the advice ^^ nice name for it btw ^^

[underoath12192]

to answer ur second question...who cares what anyone thinks of you. We have a lot of emo kids at my high school but when they're made fun of they stand their ground and so generally not many things are said about emo kids in our school.

[Octo22]

Emo nowadays more means, Annoyingly depressive. Many people I know now call themselves scene kids to avoid this.

Seriously, biggest tip I can give you, STOP calling yourself an emo. Why stereotype yourself? I look gothic, I have a mohawk so I'm also a punk when at punk shows, I rave.

I don't consider myself anything but myself. If someone called a "dumb goth kid" I'd say, I'm no goth, I just wear chains because I like the overall feel of weight on my legs.

You could simply say you just like your own style. Depending on how "generic emo" you look.

And as for the girl thing, he's not a best friend if he's AFTER your girl. Try and introduce him to a hot friend? Hot girl at all? While maintaining your own relationship.

[lallous]

Thanks for the advice ^^ nice name for it btw ^^

Hey, no problem. I'm here to help. BTW, thanks...