Why are guys so stupid?

[Tori Lang]

My boyfriend and I have talked about sex for a while and I was finally ready. So I just talked to him, I mean JUST talked him (maybe 20 min ago) and he is acting like he is the "Man". But that's not what is bothering me, well it kinda us but he is always sort of cocky. But he already told his friend...:-/ Me and my boyfriend are friends with this other couple and we are all pretty close, but I still don't want him telling people. Why do guys feel the need to go brag about it??? Whyyyy????

[Mollypop]

Awww that really sux. I hate when guys go bragging around like that. That was just really bad. I don't think he's really ready then. I'm so sorry.

[Tori Lang]

He only told them... I kinda over reacted. They are open with us about their relationship and such so he didn't think twice about telling them. I am just kinda nervous about it, I want it to be perfect you know?

[Mollypop]

Yea but like just cuz you're gonna do it doesn't mean it's ok to tell his friends. He shoulda asked first at least.

[Tori Lang]

Yeah, it would have been nice if he asked. :)

[Mollypop]

Yea so are you still gonna do it with him?

[RachelW]

Have u talked 2 him about it, and he has a pins so he has to brag I think it's just the way most boys are

[Tori Lang]

Have u talked 2 him about it, and he has a pins so he has to brag I think it's just the way most boys are

Yeah we talked about it, he said sorry:) He was just excited! We are really good friends with the people he told so I'm not really upset:)

Yea so are you still gonna do it with him?

Yes, I feel ready so I think I may. :)

please don't double post, use the edit button to edit your original post -FullyAlive

[RachelW]

Sounds like u have a good relationship, have fun

[funyun4282]

Make sure either you or your BF remembers to buy condoms.

[Caver]

Girls usually mature before boys unfortunately.

[Tori Lang]

Make sure either you or your BF remembers to buy condoms.

Of course!! No brainer! I'm on birth control too, it's for my periods:)

[funyun4282]

trojan enz are my bf's preferred brand

[FullyAlive]

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[audiophile5]

Oh right, just because your boyfriend did this, ALL guys do this, ALL guys are stupid. Don't accuse like half of the planet for something your boyfriend did;) and maybe you should just ask him not to tell everyone ;)

[SLABBS]

For a man, no matter how mature we are, sex for the first time is a big social advancement in a way. They finaly feel like they've finaly reach the peek of manhood. Men get really excited (weather they express it or not) about their first time. Its only natural he would tell a close friend about it.

[unnamed94]

My boyfriend and I have talked about sex for a while and I was finally ready. So I just talked to him, I mean JUST talked him (maybe 20 min ago) and he is acting like he is the "Man". But that's not what is bothering me, well it kinda us but he is always sort of cocky. But he already told his friend...:-/ Me and my boyfriend are friends with this other couple and we are all pretty close, but I still don't want him telling people. Why do guys feel the need to go brag about it??? Whyyyy????

do you really want to know why? well its because...


i dont know.

i sometimes talk that stuff with my close friends and its not like anyone is bragging. its just like talking about anything else. depending on their age and experience a guy could feel really excited about that and feel the need to talk about it in a way that could be interpreted as bragging.

[Jupiter]

Maybe if you would find someone who wasn't one of the "cool guys" and honestly care about your feelings you wouldn't have the issue. Not all guys are like that, and it's very stereotypical of you to say "guys are so stupid," because I have never had sex in my life, but if I did I wouldn't go around "bragging about it."

Do you talk to your friends about your kisses?

[RedViper]

Firstly, not all guys brag about having sex. I know guys that have never said a word about having sex, but their girlfriend has. Your boyfriend seems like he has a need to feel 'cool' and i reckon that's what's driving him to tell people

[Iron Man]

Just because one guy does it doesn't mean all guys do it.

[Cognizant]

Just because one guy does it doesn't mean all guys do it.

Thank you.

[Iron Man]

Thank you.

You are quite welcome, and thank you for quoting me in your Sig haha

[john2]

I think that SOME guys(me included)are stupid basically cause we cant help doing stupid things.Girls actually think before they react cause girls are usually in a situation which requires that line of thought.Guys react and then think(like me) cause we do stuff that doesnt require much thought.The only time I think is when Im takin to a girl.

[Aves]

ITT: I'm a good guy, I wouldn't brag about it.

But in all seriousness, if it bothered you, you should let him know. He probably did it out of excitement, but who knows if that was his true reasoning.

[FreeFall]

That's not stupid...that's creepy. All of the guys I know brag about their "sexual conquests" yes, but when they get a girlfriend it stops. Whether it's because we know it's happening so they don't feel like they have to say it, I don't know. But one guy said his relationship with his girlfriend is just that, his boys don't need to what's going on. He respects her and the value of their relationship, no need to go spreading it all around with them. My boyfriend doesn't go telling his buddies either, he got creeped out when his friend sent him a "I just got some" text. I just wish he didn't show me it, ugh.

[crazydude71]

Usually the guys that do that kinda stuff do it cause they're really excited about it and feel like they have to tell someone about it. Like if you get a perfect score on your SAT's or somethin like that. Its an exciting time of a guys life, some, not all, feel like they have to tell someone

[steven29706]

guys aren't really stupid , we are however , faking it like the gurls do , so when you ask us after sex if that was the best you've ever had , we are perfectly capable of saying yes with a str8 face !! and making you believe it!!

[georgee1]

it will never be perfect. every girl and some boys want it to be perfect. it's not going to be..

[dontfiguremeout]

Well I don't want to bash your thread, but I'll say this politely. Not every guy does this. I mean if you really want a guy who isn't cocky, then when you are looking for guys, find someone who isn't cocky, and not pick the guy by "love at first sight." Actually get to know them first by going on many dates getting to know their personality then figure out if you wanna be in a relationship with them. Now honestly I wouldn't say it to everyone (I'll do making out, since I choose to wait to have sex when I'm married.) But if I do, it will be one close guy friend, and honestly I wouldn't be acting like I am cocky or everything, it would be something I would talk with my best guy friend, as you would talk with one best girl friend.

[workingatperfect]

To some people it's just not a big deal if people know about their sex life. My friends and I basically always tell each other when we sleep with someone (unless it's someone embarrassing lol) and are incredibly open about that part of our lives.
If you don't want him to tell anyone, you have to tell him that. Guys, in general (not all), are more open about it and forget that girls may be more sensitive about things like this. And if it's his first time too, of course he's going to want to share that with a close friend. It's a big moment in his life.

[Jay_Team_Swagg]

Its a pride thing. Once a guy loses his virginity, he sees himself as a real man now.

[inexracercjd]

how do u know he already told them? and 2 say all boys are assholes for that is wrong cuz i know alot of girls that talk 2 their friends about it alot of them even brag about getting with sertain guys we are teenagers girls or guys we all just try 2 fit in socialy and idk i think its imature 2 say y are guys so stupid u dont even know exactly what he said unless u heard him say it even if he told his buddy who told his gf who told u its like the game telephone i mean stuff gets switched around maybe he was asking his buddy for advice on how 2 make it so u would enjoy it or what he should do and hows it make u look saying ur bf is so stupid ur the 1 dating him if hes so stupid y are u dating him?

[heidenreich]

I hate people who do that, it justs gives a bad name for guys :( Were not all like that

[Gordo]

Guys have poorer judgment than girls that are the same age, so you're up against that. Guys tend to be risk takers also, it kinda goes hand in hand with the poorer judgment. Guys tend to get over relationship stuff faster than girls, but that could be because were the cause. So messing up isn't as big a deal to us than it is to girls.

THEN, there's the actual issue you asked about. Sex is near the top or is the top of manley activity that defines us. It's a huge step in our minds. We're either a virgin, or we're not. Just like you. Other than physically, we're emotionally, mentally and socially excited about it and we know that any guy we tell will be very happy with us.

Having sex with a girl such a masculine thing to do that other guys will more than likely view us with a tiny bit more respect as men/guys. It's a mini advertisement about our sexuality because we're excited about it, in a good way. Also because some people look at gays as less manley than straight guys, even though it's not true, people talking about their sex lives with girls would end any questions about his sexuality. Even though that's not true, it doesn't hurt.


So it's like this huge social thing for us and people talk about social things. I'm not saying that your bf should be talking about it, but this is what a lot of guys think about it. Personally, I choose not to say anything and let the girl field handle that. My default position is to not imply or hint at what's going on either. If she wants to talk to other people about it, fine. If she wants to mention it while I'm around, great, but I'm not gonna be the one to bring it up because I think it's more personal and private for girls.

Ask you bf about it and don't let him off with an idk.

[Wayne92]

Like what others said, its a issue of pride along with excitement. However, it comes down to the guy as an individual. I always kept certain things private instead of blurting it out to the whole world, but that fits my personality since Im laid back and mellow even though I have my childish moments like the next person. Keep in mind ladies, that all guys ARE NOT THE SAME. So if any of you are with someone who you think will run their mouth, I suggest telling them in advance to keep it quiet.

[loz4]

My boyfriend and I have talked about sex for a while and I was finally ready. So I just talked to him, I mean JUST talked him (maybe 20 min ago) and he is acting like he is the "Man". But that's not what is bothering me, well it kinda us but he is always sort of cocky. But he already told his friend...:-/ Me and my boyfriend are friends with this other couple and we are all pretty close, but I still don't want him telling people. Why do guys feel the need to go brag about it??? Whyyyy????

How long have you been going out?

[Christheman]

It really an ego booster. for guys its a competition. Its wrong but it is true

[johnnyreb]

well... arent you talking about it right now, exactly 20 min later just like him?

[JimmyIsNowAMan]

I think a lot of guys talk about it AFTER the deed is done. Partly to brag but I think we want a way to find out if we did it the right way or how other guys do it.