Sisters anger..

[Love.Hate]

I know hate is such a strong word. But at times i really really do hate the majority of my family.

My sister has such anger issues, she'll beat the sh*t out of me just for not doing something as small as giving her a hair grip. Or she'll find it fun to just hit me and bruise me.. for no reason, just for the sake of it. She is 15 for goodness sake i cant cope with this. I dont know how to deal with her temper when she goes off on one.

Dad has also decided to be a dick, he wound her up to the extreme at the weekend, so she walked out, he drove off to get her, called her a tart and a f*cking idiot and to get in the car.. so ofcourse her being so angry, she kicked his new mercedes and he hit her. Now i should probably feel sorry for her, because it isnt nice being dragged into a car or hit, and dad was out of order however she is so selfish i cant stand her, im secretly glad he stood up to her. Because nobody else bloody does! :(

Dad has now disowned her and wants nothing more to do with her, which makes it awkward when i now have to go and see him.

I dont know what to say to mum to get through to her to get her help. Surely anger management can be provided by the government or school or something? Mum literally has given up with her, not that i blame her.. she's such a nasty piece of work. Is only ever nice to you if she wants something out of you.

She is so disrespectful, spits, screams, beats someone up, i wish i was exagerating when i say she does this on a daily basis. Recently she has also taken joy in stealing my underwear, wearing it and then cutting holes in it. She craves negative attention so much..

How am i supposed to react? i just cry i cant cope, its so overwhelming how my family can be such dicks. My sister knows peoples insecurities, so im forever being called names that really touch a nerve.. eg. 'suicidal-bitch'

sorry i guess this is a rant more than anything else, i just had to get it out. I need to move out of this house. Thank god im going to uni next year, her behaviour is apaulling and when she targets me i just want to curl up and cut myself to bits.

All she cares about is herself.. really, how can a human being even be so damn horrid. I thought she'd stop swearing too when my brother was born.. hell no its got worse, its like she wants him to pick up every swear word in the book. Ugh.

:(

[DerBear]

First of all Hi Fran.

Sisters can be a bitch can't they?

I will say your sister does sound like a real nasty piece of work from your description. I am also glad that you came on VT to rant as keeping something like this bottled up 24/7 just ain't great for ones health in general. I know I can't.

You have sister who even if you tried talking to her your chances of getting through to her is about the same as 0. The only thing I can recommend it try to hang in their until you go to uni because I have know people like this they crave attention. If they loose it for more than a few days they kick shit up for the sake of it.

Frankly I dislke people like that. My advice really is not helpful when it comes to this. The only thing I can recommend is that perhaps you try to get through to one of your parents. However from what you have said they pretty much given up on your sister as well.

I hope things work out for you as you are a genuine lovely person to speak to around the forums. You are both polite and friendly and I think you don't deserve this. Its true when they say "Bad things happen to nice people".

I hope you hang in there and university is on the harrison which will open so many opportunities. Just hang on until then and good luck for the future.

[DarkHorse4eva]

She sounds like a real jerk, im happy i dont know such persons.
Tie her up when shes asleep and say that you dont let her go until shes nicer to people.

I hope it help and good luck, u really need it

[Love.Hate]

She sounds like a real jerk, im happy i dont know such persons.
Tie her up when shes asleep and say that you dont let her go until shes nicer to people.

I hope it help and good luck, u really need it

lol i wish that was legal and i would :L



Thankyou derri, i really do appreciate it. yeah guess i will just have to hang on in there.. until i finally snap and get a place of my own lol

:hug:

[DerBear]

Thankyou derri, i really do appreciate it. yeah guess i will just have to hang on in there.. until i finally snap and get a place of my own lol :hug:

I know if you have someone who is staying with you 24/7 and is really annoying, that it feels like you want to explode when she does some things that you have described above but the best you can do is wait it out and when you go to uni try and focus on that and not home life.

I wish you the best of luck Fran and try not to go insane with your big sister driving you up the wall.

[akon290]

thanks dear this is nice i like it..

[TheMatrix]

thanks dear this is nice i like it..
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[FreeFall]

Oh man that's rough. Can't you go stay with your dad? Or is there a form of government housing you can get into?

[Love.Hate]

Oh man that's rough. Can't you go stay with your dad? Or is there a form of government housing you can get into?

Trust me it is, i go insane in this place!

Dad lives over 200 miles away so really isnt easy to see him all that often, let alone live with him. I wish, council flats are given away to so many people i wouldnt even be considered, not that im sure i'd want to be really

[FreeFall]

Trust me it is, i go insane in this place!

Dad lives over 200 miles away so really isnt easy to see him all that often, let alone live with him. I wish, council flats are given away to so many people i wouldnt even be considered, not that im sure i'd want to be really
Would you be able to limit your time at home then until uni? Like go to friends, hang out in a park or somewhere?
Can you slit a hole under your mattress and stuff what you can that you do not want her to touch in there if you spend less time at home? of course don't ever let her see you do this if it's possible.

[Love.Hate]

Would you be able to limit your time at home then until uni? Like go to friends, hang out in a park or somewhere?
Can you slit a hole under your mattress and stuff what you can that you do not want her to touch in there if you spend less time at home? of course don't ever let her see you do this if it's possible.

i dont really have any friends that live anywhere close as i go to college a long way away, so that isnt an option :/

lol mum would murder me, im tempted to get a lock on my bedroom door, doesnt solve the problem but it would make me worry less about her stealing things.. also i guess locking myself in my room when she goes off on one would be a good idea

[Efflorescence]

I'm by no means trying to justify her actions. What your sister is doing to you is horrible but from what I've read here, it seems very likely that she has some kind of mental disorder and she definitely needs help.

I think she has a lot of pent-up anger and the only way she knows how to deal with it is by lashing out at others. Ideally, things like this should be nipped in the bud before they become ingrained and the fact that she's still young helps.

I hope that you don't mind my asking but has she always been like this? The issues with her father/parents could be some of the causes of her problems.

I advise you to talk to your mother about it and try to spend time doing something that can distract you from her negative behaviour until it's time for you to go to university. I wish you the best of luck and I hope things will get better for everyone involved.

[Love.Hate]

I'm by no means trying to justify her actions. What your sister is doing to you is horrible but from what I've read here, it seems very likely that she has some kind of mental disorder and she definitely needs help.

I think she has a lot of pent-up anger and the only way she knows how to deal with it is by lashing out at others. Ideally, things like this should be nipped in the bud before they become ingrained and the fact that she's still young helps.

I hope that you don't mind my asking but has she always been like this? The issues with her father/parents could be some of the causes of her problems.

I advise you to talk to your mother about it and try to spend time doing something that can distract you from her negative behaviour until it's time for you to go to university. I wish you the best of luck and I hope things will get better for everyone involved.

Thankyou for your reply, I dont think its a disorder as such. Maybe serious anger problems, She's been like this since my parents broke up, their separation made her angry and ever since she's hated the world and taken it out on others. However that was nine years ago, so it seems unlikely that is still the reason, unless its a subconcious thing.

You are very kind, i appreciate it, yes occupy myself always seems like the best idea :P

[FreeFall]

To piggyback on the parent separation, it could be something she's never come to terms with. So she's still angry. She may not be aware of it, and she may never accept what's happened and just become bitter and hateful. It may not be something she'll wake up one day and feel alright with, it could but with how she's being and how it's affecting you I just doubt it. She may need counseling.

Really, there doesn't seem to be much for you to do. I just hope you're well and able to find solace when you need it.

[Body odah Man]

I know hate is such a strong word. But at times i really really do hate the majority of my family.

My sister has such anger issues, she'll beat the sh*t out of me just for not doing something as small as giving her a hair grip. Or she'll find it fun to just hit me and bruise me.. for no reason, just for the sake of it. She is 15 for goodness sake i cant cope with this. I dont know how to deal with her temper when she goes off on one.

Dad has also decided to be a dick, he wound her up to the extreme at the weekend, so she walked out, he drove off to get her, called her a tart and a f*cking idiot and to get in the car.. so ofcourse her being so angry, she kicked his new mercedes and he hit her. Now i should probably feel sorry for her, because it isnt nice being dragged into a car or hit, and dad was out of order however she is so selfish i cant stand her, im secretly glad he stood up to her. Because nobody else bloody does! :(

Dad has now disowned her and wants nothing more to do with her, which makes it awkward when i now have to go and see him.

I dont know what to say to mum to get through to her to get her help. Surely anger management can be provided by the government or school or something? Mum literally has given up with her, not that i blame her.. she's such a nasty piece of work. Is only ever nice to you if she wants something out of you.

She is so disrespectful, spits, screams, beats someone up, i wish i was exagerating when i say she does this on a daily basis. Recently she has also taken joy in stealing my underwear, wearing it and then cutting holes in it. She craves negative attention so much..

How am i supposed to react? i just cry i cant cope, its so overwhelming how my family can be such dicks. My sister knows peoples insecurities, so im forever being called names that really touch a nerve.. eg. 'suicidal-bitch'

sorry i guess this is a rant more than anything else, i just had to get it out. I need to move out of this house. Thank god im going to uni next year, her behaviour is apaulling and when she targets me i just want to curl up and cut myself to bits.

All she cares about is herself.. really, how can a human being even be so damn horrid. I thought she'd stop swearing too when my brother was born.. hell no its got worse, its like she wants him to pick up every swear word in the book. Ugh.

:(

This is a sad post. I tore up a bit while reading this. No girl should have family issues, nor a guy either. I hope things improve for you soon :(

I can sort of relate because I also have a sister who's a total bitch- seems to be a sis quality. My sister also enjoys tormenting me, spraying me with her deoderant and is responsible for the fact I have to spend one night a week in a scented bath yet mom don't do shit. SO annoying :(
Hang in there Carpe

[Elysium]

This is a sad post. I tore up a bit while reading this. No girl should have family issues, nor a guy either. I hope things improve for you soon :(

I can sort of relate because I also have a sister who's a total bitch- seems to be a sis quality. My sister also enjoys tormenting me, spraying me with her deoderant and is responsible for the fact I have to spend one night a week in a scented bath yet mom don't do shit. SO annoying :(
Hang in there Carpe
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