Lost friends :(

[Philleeep]

Ok so earlier this year I just went into a major shut down and shunted people that lied to me so I deleted people that upset me and I apologized why I did and now I've completely lost friends which upset me and I had to get over it but today when I was going through my files, I came across a few photos of one from when we used to pull faces at each other on skype and I got upset again and I can't get the picture out of my head now and I know I'm just not gonna get them back :(

[Desuetude]

Well is there any particular reason why they won't be friends with you again? Did they explain or are they just ignoring you. If they were friends they should understand that you went through a hard phase and they should have just been there for you. I can understand why you shutting them out might have hurt but after apoligising and them finding out the reasons behind your hostility I see no reason for them to not 'take you back'. Don't give up so easily. Have you talked to them and asked why they're acting like this? Told them that you want to be friends again? Was there ever a best friend that you had. Maybe if you tried talking to them alone, remind them of the good times you had together as friends, s/he'll weaken a little and persuade/talk to the others? You have a few options, don't panic just think about them systematically and you'll find a way to get back in with them.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well I can see why because you didn't give them a second chance, and instead you quickly shut them away. And so they were super sad in the beginning because if you were a really good friend, you would at least give them a second chance, or maybe not speak with them for a while so you can refocus, instead of shutting them away. Now I understand why they don't wanna be your friend again because they didn't give you a second chance. I mean why give someone a second chance if they didn't give you one? But I'm sorry for what happened, and all I can say is keep your head up as this is a learning experience for you, and go out there and make new friends, but this time don't do what you did last time.

[Clawhammer]

If you want friends, you must first be a friend. Just go back to them and explain the situation honestly and simply and tell them that you miss them. If they are friends worth having, it'll work out.

[DerBear]

Can I ask is there a particular reason why you can't be fiends again with them?

I am sure if you explain to them that you were in a dark place and that you felt the need to push them away, you might be surprised how forgiving and understanding they might be. I have seen so many breaks with friends over the years. An old friend of mine went through this very thing, he became lost and started pushing people away but one day he spoke to me and my friends and explained that he was in a dark place and that he could not help how he felt at that time. He is now a good friend of mine and although we don't talk a lot we have re-gained a friendship to an extent.

I am sure if they are true friends and you sit down and explain to them + be honest with them that they might be a bit more forgiving and understanding than you think.

I hope everything goes well for you.

[Philleeep]

Well I have explained and tried to solve what happened and I tried to renew our friendships and to start again to make things good but after a week or so, I just had no response to anything I had to say :/ I've gained new friends since then but It's not the same and i'm not having the times i've had with others

[Caver]

They weren't true friends to you if they lied to you.