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Snowcakie

July 9th, 2012, 05:49 PM

Hello this is Snowcakie,

I read upon your threads about some very harsh situations.

The rape, neglect and probably some others that you haven't shared. My heart goes out for you, every bit of it...:(

Truthfully, I don't have a mother that's neglecting or abusive to me...- loving indeed. Though I haven't been rape or neglected, wished I could just go over the internet and give you a hug. My best suggestion is to find an adult you trust about the rape problem if not your mother.

Another thing, the relationship between you and mother and described isn't delightful. Also suggest you contact an adult or trusted friend that would listen to you personally without judgement. I think you should probably go to the abuse/neglect/rape section of other teens that have experienced it for you and them to connect about those situations.

You are NOT pathetic, okay? Words hurt and damage people.... your own words damages your soul. You are NOT ugly, stupid, or all those negative things. You are YOU and that what it matters.

Accept who you are and accept the past, you have been raped. Can't go back and change it so... move on- yes, it is hard to move on and it takes time.... time heals and best thing is to talk with someone (If not your mother) and time. I can't do anything about the nightmares.... but, I think you should look at yourself in the mirror and accept who you are and tell yourself you are pretty.

I deal with self-esteem issues too; sometimes I think I'm fat, ugly, and pathetic.... I don't have a boyfriend either.... pretty single and wonders why everyone else has one. Sometimes, I find myself very beautiful and wonderful! I don't need a guy/girl to be happy.

Don't feed into what had happened with the doucebag. You ARE pretty, you ARE wonderful, you AREN'T pathetic. Say that in the mirror daily and you wouldn't give two shits about anyone's opinion and view of you.

These are trials that you are dealing with and need to overcome them. Father died, mother neglects, raped.... these obstacles are hard to overcome and doesn't take a day or two to forget about it.

You NEED to tell someone about it. Don't care who as long you trust that person, because holding this stuff inside does some extreme damage to your body and soul. Actually, holding a negative things such as this cause diseases without knowing to your body because it puts pressure on your...heart/soul.

Keep your mind occupied, go outside and do fun activities or something... don't stay cooped up in a room (even though I am too guilty of that.... ^^;). Inner walls talks to your mind.... and you'll be hearing voices if being in a room for so long.... so, it's kind of unhealthy, go insane.

I'm only thirteen but.... I hope this really helps.

Snowcakie

July 9th, 2012, 07:45 PM

It's almost hard to believe you are only 13 with everything you have said. You seem wise beyond your years. I think what I just read has helped me more than anything else in a long time. While I was reading what you said I really believed every word and it makes me feel a whole let better. Just since joining this site this morning I have completely changed my mind about a lot of things and I do want to talk to someone I hope I can do that soon. Thamk you so much for everything.

I am very surprised and take that as a delightful compliment. Thank you... you make me feel special.

Just want to help, thanks for taking advice.