cant perform

[funyun4282]

has any girl ever had experience with a guy who just cant perform well sexually no matter what you try? My bf can sometimes and most times has lots of trouble.

[toobigforlife]

Now do you mean he cant get it up or he just dont know how to...satisfy your needs ;) and how old is he

[funyun4282]

he is 17 and he has trouble getting it up sometimes and when he does he cums too quickly. and im left without having orgasms.

[funyun4282]

He performs oral but it's not the same

[ellie96]

No, my bf is great when we have sex. You could try foreplay

[funyun4282]

We've tried foreplay. :-(. What can I do.

[TwilightFan]

I mean, I don't really have much clue about that, since I'm still a virgin, but I think people say that happens to a lot of boys at the beggining. That they are, well, done to quick. They also say that after a while, they have more control over when they come. So ... pratice makes you perfect! :lol:

[funyun4282]

My last Bf was so good at satisfying me but awful at emotional support. My current bf is amazing emotionally but awful at sex. I wish he could be a mix of both

[funyun4282]

i wonder if there is any therapy sessions he can go to or some sort of sexual aide he can use or something. its so frustrating.

[Taryn98]

The first guy I was with had a hard time getting it up. He was nervous but we got it worked out.

[funyun4282]

weve been together for a while and its gotten worse.

[panick]

he must visit a doctor immediately.!

[funyun4282]

I told him maybe it's medical and he might want to see a doctor. He said no.

[toobigforlife]

well im sorry to say it but it could be he is just not physically aroused by you and ends up forcing it and that doesnt ever work so just get him relaxed and ask him what he likes try to cater to what arouses him then go from there

[cheergurl]

How long have u been together? It could definitely be nerves or just that he's concentrating on trying to get hard, which is not arousing at all... and so he doesn't. Ask him why he does not want to see a doctor, that is a bit suspicious. Any possibility he likes men? Totally common (i think) for guys to struggle with it once in a while, but the weird thing is that its gettin worse the longer youre together

[RachelW]

Sounds like he is nervouse and that could be it

[funyun4282]

it may be nerves. in the beginning the sex was nice but its just blah now.

[ApresMidi]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xfv52SEgCNA

;)

On a serious note... Maybe see a Dr? Tell him how its affecting you,support him etc. Must be embarrassing.. Maybe like a vicious circle, pressure to perform, failure, embarrassment, pressure ,failure etc.

good luck :)

[funyun4282]

I honestly think it may be a medical thing or just sever anxiety in either way he should see a doctor about this. I think he is just shy and doesnt want to go to the doctor and say he is a 17 year old with sexual problems with his girlfriend waiting n the waiting room.

[funyun4282]

I think im making headway in getting him to see someone about his anxiety. I told him I would take him and be there for support. I hope im not sounding like im selfish and just want him to go because it could improve our sex life.

[anyone50]

no comment

[Ellie wood crainey]

Sounds like neves it happens to both boys and girls the first time I was with my current bf it took him almost 20 mins to get hard which is wired because he seems to get a boner at everything, it will pass.

[funyun4282]

i hope it passes because i really need to have orgasms when having sex. He has underlying anxiety which I think may be the root cause and he has low self esteem and thinks he is a bit small which I tell him over and over that is not an issue for me.