Marine Corp and Young Marriage

[smalltowngirl9189]

My long time crush and best friend just started talking to me again. We have known each other a long time ago. We met when I was 6 and he was 12. We started out as me wanting to be experimental and he ended up being my first kiss, the one I lost my virginity to, and my first love. 4 days ago he proposed but he said we can't come out about our relationship until I turn 18 (by the way this is smalltowngirl9189 cousin) and right now he has a girlfriend but yet hes my one and only. He's joining the marine corps and is going to bootcamp in two years due to some medical problems in the past. Im supporting %100 in what he wants to do, I know it's his dream. Is it wrong for me to never want him to get approved and leave? He would be infantry and i don't know what I'd do. He wants kids and I only want kids with him and I couldn't raise them on my own and I want to tell him but I don't want him to get approved and then always have it in the back of his mind I don't believe in him and him get hurt. What do I do? I love him more than anything or else I wouldnt risk the fact I'm 15 and he's 20 now.*

[unnamed94]

just enjoy the present. he is going in two years so a lot could happen between now and then. btw how can he be with you and have a girlfriend at the same time. if it really is as i understood it from what you said then i would reconsider all of it.

[smalltowngirl9189]

Because our parents can't know until I'm 18. So he has a long distance girlfriend

[johngotti]

Because our parents can't know until I'm 18. So he has a long distance girlfriend

what does that have to do with him having a girlfriend? i might be wrong or whatever, but he might be using you.

[unnamed94]

what does that have to do with him having a girlfriend? i might be wrong or whatever, but he might be using you.

thats exactly what it seems. if he really wanted to be with you then he wouldnt have a girlfriend. its just so obvious that it shouldnt even need an explanation. he (who is older) is using you while he has a girlfriend and you love him so you think its acceptable just because you cant be with him. if this is the case then you should leave him.

[RCT109]

My long time crush and best friend just started talking to me again. We have known each other a long time ago. We met when I was 6 and he was 12. We started out as me wanting to be experimental and he ended up being my first kiss, the one I lost my virginity to, and my first love. 4 days ago he proposed but he said we can't come out about our relationship until I turn 18 (by the way this is smalltowngirl9189 cousin) and right now he has a girlfriend but yet hes my one and only. He's joining the marine corps and is going to bootcamp in two years due to some medical problems in the past. Im supporting %100 in what he wants to do, I know it's his dream. Is it wrong for me to never want him to get approved and leave? He would be infantry and i don't know what I'd do. He wants kids and I only want kids with him and I couldn't raise them on my own and I want to tell him but I don't want him to get approved and then always have it in the back of his mind I don't believe in him and him get hurt. What do I do? I love him more than anything or else I wouldnt risk the fact I'm 15 and he's 20 now.*


Tell him that you support him but you cannot bare the thought of loosing him and rasing his kids by your self or with some one else

also dont worry about the age

[smalltowngirl9189]

Tell him that you support him but you cannot bare the thought of loosing him and rasing his kids by your self or with some one else

also dont worry about the age

Thanks... We are in a big fight right now and he doesn't think he can trust me. && he broke up with his 'girlfriend' cause I told him I was jealous and he said ok and called her in front of me and broke it off and even offers for me to go through his phone. I'm just hoping that he comes back...

[unnamed94]

Thanks... We are in a big fight right now and he doesn't think he can trust me. && he broke up with his 'girlfriend' cause I told him I was jealous and he said ok and called her in front of me and broke it off and even offers for me to go through his phone. I'm just hoping that he comes back...

him breaking up with her doesnt change the fact that he was in realtionship with her while he was with you. still looks badly.

on the other hand, you should really think about it all. just because you like him doesnt mean you have to be in a relationship with him if you dont think yourself as mature enough to be with a 20 year old guy or whatever. that doesnt mean that you shouldnt go for it if you truly want to and feel prepared enough for it.

[johngotti]

how can you get married at 15 in the first place, let alone to a 20 year old guy.

[Jack the ripper]

You shouldn't be dating someone that old at your age. But if its true love I can understand.

[smalltowngirl9189]

I really do love him...

[lemon]

Seems like theres not much you can do about stopping him joining the marine corps.
But in 2 years he could want to do something else and in those 2 years a million other things could happen so just enjoy your life now.