Thigg
July 8th, 2012, 02:25 PM
I have looked for help to my problem and found this forum today so I just try to ask help here.
This is my first "close/almost some kind of" relationship so I dont have any experience. We are both 16.
So my problem concern about that I am currently at friendzone. I have known that girl like many years now and from the beginning it couldnt be anything because we lived too far away and couldnt see each other then but now we can. So like year ago she liked me that way, but that didnt go anything because we couldnt see then blabla something.. we had some long talking breaks etc because it was just chatting then. So then she liked me..
Now at beginning of summer we started to chat etc we met and she had friend with her and we had great time etc and talked very much via text messages and via Fb/msn etc and especially she usually started our conversations and I started to like him very much and my liking is only "rising" now.. then we met second time just two of us and nothing happened really just speaking and having fun only.. She has told me secrets and everything and she doesnt have much friends. I'm her only friend which is boy. So of course I thought she would like me and I told him that. I think it was very bad to tell.. She told that she doesnt feel that way and she just says she like me only as friend and I'm only she can trust right now and I am very important??? And I felt very shit etc you know.. I went upset and was angry and I said something bad I think, but she just wanted me to be normal again and she said she was upset too??. She said to me that if I didnt want to speak to her anymore she couldnt trust no one ever again..
And just today just second ago she wrote like 4 messages in one hour because I didnt notice those messages (and there were something "helppp you you dont answer to me, what now??" etcetc like she would be worried or something, she also text me now like whole days every days. And she starts it at morning and continues it to evening..
And yeah, I think I know what I did wrong then.. I was too nice to her I think... And spoke to her too much? I only wanted to be nice to her and be with her but no, just friends.
Now she is just like normally and wants to see me again also.. just two of us again.. So could I do something because she wants to see me still? "touching more"? you know that breaking that barrier, I have just touched her hand etc because I'm also quite shy. But now I'm willing to try anything.
Any advices? Anything that could help to escape? Should I step back and be less intrested on her and less available and maybe she realize something when I'm not always there..? But then she would just be angry, but maybe it helps? Or just talk face to face something? I dont really now.
Sorry for quite long post and bad english. I hope you understood or you could ask me more if you need more info.
Thanks!
She sings me a lot and today I asked her to sing me some song and he gave couple and one was 1D - One thing, and when just that one song was playing she said I must focus to it and she went ";(" line when I spoke to chat while listening..(and that song she gave me second, she didn't say anything while I chatted while first song..) And he didnt told me excuse when I asked something why. My head is full of fuck. Because the words are quite.. yea and one of three song I must focus just to it.. Or maybe I just wish..
This is my first "close/almost some kind of" relationship so I dont have any experience. We are both 16.
So my problem concern about that I am currently at friendzone. I have known that girl like many years now and from the beginning it couldnt be anything because we lived too far away and couldnt see each other then but now we can. So like year ago she liked me that way, but that didnt go anything because we couldnt see then blabla something.. we had some long talking breaks etc because it was just chatting then. So then she liked me..
Now at beginning of summer we started to chat etc we met and she had friend with her and we had great time etc and talked very much via text messages and via Fb/msn etc and especially she usually started our conversations and I started to like him very much and my liking is only "rising" now.. then we met second time just two of us and nothing happened really just speaking and having fun only.. She has told me secrets and everything and she doesnt have much friends. I'm her only friend which is boy. So of course I thought she would like me and I told him that. I think it was very bad to tell.. She told that she doesnt feel that way and she just says she like me only as friend and I'm only she can trust right now and I am very important??? And I felt very shit etc you know.. I went upset and was angry and I said something bad I think, but she just wanted me to be normal again and she said she was upset too??. She said to me that if I didnt want to speak to her anymore she couldnt trust no one ever again..
And just today just second ago she wrote like 4 messages in one hour because I didnt notice those messages (and there were something "helppp you you dont answer to me, what now??" etcetc like she would be worried or something, she also text me now like whole days every days. And she starts it at morning and continues it to evening..
And yeah, I think I know what I did wrong then.. I was too nice to her I think... And spoke to her too much? I only wanted to be nice to her and be with her but no, just friends.
Now she is just like normally and wants to see me again also.. just two of us again.. So could I do something because she wants to see me still? "touching more"? you know that breaking that barrier, I have just touched her hand etc because I'm also quite shy. But now I'm willing to try anything.
Any advices? Anything that could help to escape? Should I step back and be less intrested on her and less available and maybe she realize something when I'm not always there..? But then she would just be angry, but maybe it helps? Or just talk face to face something? I dont really now.
Sorry for quite long post and bad english. I hope you understood or you could ask me more if you need more info.
Thanks!
She sings me a lot and today I asked her to sing me some song and he gave couple and one was 1D - One thing, and when just that one song was playing she said I must focus to it and she went ";(" line when I spoke to chat while listening..(and that song she gave me second, she didn't say anything while I chatted while first song..) And he didnt told me excuse when I asked something why. My head is full of fuck. Because the words are quite.. yea and one of three song I must focus just to it.. Or maybe I just wish..